It will be a major mistake to delay. The saying should be HURRY THE FIRST, DELAY THE SECOND & STOP THE THIRD. Early production will result in the parent's completing the responsbility, before they retire or well in time. If the delay occurs, then it would result the children will still be unmarried / not completing the education etc at the time of retirement of the Father. If the marriage takes place for the boy at 25 and the girl around 22/23, then they can delay for a couple of years. Generally, most of the marriage takes place for the boy around 28 to 30 and the girs around 22/25, in such cases it is not advisable. The Government, instead of trying to create infrastructure and provide the requirements for the citizens, they find other reasons to waste their funds and at the same time, not able to achieve anything constructively. Population is not a problem in India - inefficiency and inaction by the politicians and the Government is a major problem. My Parents have 10 children - though initially they suffered, today they are very happy with all facilities - nothing provided by Government, except the roads and road lights which are also not in good shape. All educated at private schools, born at private hospitals, and today each of them owning not less than two apartments - it is sheer sacrifice initially, proper planning and implementation - nothing else. Our Government has failed in this.
Re: DELAYING CHILDREN
by Darvin Chaudhary on Aug 14, 2009 03:35 PM
Hehehehe....
You told that it's sheer sacrifice. But, I'll say foolishness. You all have 2 apartment. But, what about your father? He is a fool, who waste his all life in sacrifice. Due to that you also sacrificed your childhood. Now, he'll be in 60s and have only few years in comfort. What if he have only 1-2 children. He can enjoy his full life. You can enjoy your childhood and if you have even don't have 2 apartment now then also he can enjoy his old age
Re: DELAYING CHILDREN
by Jai Babu on Aug 14, 2009 03:31 PM
@WV-U have a real valid set of points there!! This hare brained scheme will be used by many unscroupoulous elements to milk the government coffers! What is needed more is strict implementation of the minimum age for marriage- 21 for males and 18 for females!! Scores of underage marriages and pregnancies take place acros the country!! On a lighter note, I should congratulate your old man for his VIRILITY!! 10 kids,, How many do u have;)
Re: Re: DELAYING CHILDREN
by v vv on Aug 15, 2009 12:39 AM
Let me reply to all - My father had an independent house of 14 bedrooms, 6 sitouts, 4 kitchens, and 8 bathrooms. Sacrifice is that he had a very planned way of living, and bringing up the children. All children had a reasonably good childhood days, viz every weekend hightea at home with sweets/savouries etc, every holiday to visit grandparents house/every year a religious trip etc. In our days, we had lot of play grounds, and everyone of us virtually played all games. He got married at 22 years, and completed the marriages of all his children before he became 60, and died at 82 years. He had lived happily till his death, had his treatments at the best hospitals, always one or two sons around him, cars at his disposal. Parents gave good life and children reciprocated in every way. By the time of his death, he had performed more than 20 Grahapravesams. Now our children are not enjoing their childhood days - they are pressurised to attend various classes, no time to watch TV and no fresh air as there is no play ground closeby, all of them becoming couch-potatoes. In fact we had better days. Now todays generation is living within the square or triangle, never teach real kindness to children, always learn to earn, save to save yourself, no joy of giving.
Re: Re: DELAYING CHILDREN
by v vv on Aug 15, 2009 12:47 AM
Sorry, I have only one. With my salary of around Rs.100,000 per month, and looking at the present world situation, I could not go for more than one Son. Moreover, three of my brothers have two daughters each, and to get them married, it would be very difficult in the present days, and I was so scared to get a daughter and hence stopped with the son. Minimum/Maximum age for marriage is decided by GOD and the Government should not interfere in this. One has no money, but his daughter got married to an affluent boy without much trying. Another has lot of money, trying/trying/ crying, but he is not able to gett his daughter married. It is GODs wish and he decides the dates for everything.
India Should adopt strategy of 2 children per couple like chine...above mentioned strategy seems to be drafted by some fool and shows clear nexus between couples & govt to get back some money backdoor..
Myself & my wife are caouples & we were married in the yr. 2001. Till now we have not had any child. We are in Kolkata and we are not paid any reward for that. very sad. By this time we should have been richer by atleast 10,000/-
Re: yes why not?
by daddydsouza on Aug 14, 2009 03:15 PM
never mind sir as a penalty you can have 10 children and also file a case againt the government that the money for the care of these children be borne by the government...what an idea sirji....
