It is all because of Modern Education and direction of material development. Education System, Media (Advertisements) , they all make you feel incomplete. On an average 3000 advertisements are bombard on children to tell them that they are incomplete, this lead to the development of an Individual who can never be happy with what he has, he will always crave for more and more and more. If we are developing why our lives are becoming harder and harder ? Same is reflecting in relationships. In Delhi alone government has made 28 new courts for Divorce Cases, as the amount of Divorces have increased many folds in the last 2 years.
Neither men nor women should entertain ego. Both must always respect each other and love each other and take good care of themselves and their children.
Men who beat and bully their wives have no right to exist. Women also should have a certain poise and dignity in their lives. Their conduct determines the future generations' conduct, and the future of humanity. Women who are arrogant will accept this requirement. Ultimately the children will get spoiled and be left without a legacy or identity to be proud of. At the same time, throttling humanity in the name of customs is also destructive.
Marriage is not about two people.
It is about what two people can do for the future of humanity. It's about children. If it were just about people, marriage isn't required at all.
I hope the author gets this before it's late for her, because we can sense some ego and guilt in her. She will refute it, but she would be well advised to ponder and reflect.
Re: Re: ego
by R Chakravarti on Nov 21, 2012 07:16 AM
Strange how you misread part of the article. I fully agree with the rest of your message. By "accept this" you surely meant "reject this".
we are used to the idea of marriage working out till the end. why cant two people separate mutually if they dont get along? what is the force of nature which "has" to make it work? beats me.
secondly, it' in the last couple of decades that women have empowered themselves and are competing with men in fields which were dominated by men, (astronaut sunita williams being an eg) pre 1950's women all of the world were responsble for taking care of family or to roles limited to farming. this was primarily because the era was of industrial revolution where harder labor was required, it had nothing to do with women not being competant.
fast forward to last two decades, finacial sector, internet, corporate, retail all these sectors have empowered women to do what a man could do some decades back.
so, when a lady comments on marriage with such skewed approach, i find it appalling coz they are mixing two ends of the spectrum into one, which is, they conveniently switch from women who chose to be homemakers and who suffer most vs women who lead a corporate life. i can bet that the ratio of divorce would be higher where the women also works, and im proud of them that they, unlike the writer dont suck into the whole men versus women expectations thing and can make a stand of their own.
It is working well for people who are matured even today, as it was before, and will be ever after. When one commits into it without proper physical and mental development and a higher sense of responsibility, it tends to collapse
Re: Marriage needs maturity
by mohan raj on Nov 23, 2012 10:20 PM
Good valid point, you captured all that has to be said and realised in a nutshell - good one
This is all due to blind following of cattle culture of the West. Western world is discrimination based society who believe in calcification of lower grade and upper grade for everything.
Household work is considered as low-grade job instead of home management, family management, food management, culture management, and what not for the houselady.
Progress is considered how many females are working, but not how many females are contributing to the society by building right future generation.
A blind following of West, pub culture, stressed filled job, working spouse, greed, money means success, etc will lead to destruction of human values, and family life.
After reading the title of the article. I really hoped this article was more holistic and truthful and something more on the lines of consultative solution providing.
Rather seems like personal views of some frustrated author trying to put the other gender down.
All the explaining of me and myself and happily married. ahhhhhhh wasted time on this one.
Re: Wasted Time on this one
by Shridharan Krishnan on Nov 21, 2012 01:14 AM
you said it. It appears to be just an article for the author to gloat over her successful marriage. Way to go Sarai, you are soooo lucky to have a husband for 13 years!
