Divorces should increase and come to a natural balance. Those who dont divorce because of Indian culture is living a false life. Indian cultures false assumptions are being proved wrong.
Why is this woman ranting so much? Must have been one of those who constantly keeps hearing the sad stories. She seems to have no positive thoughts to share and make a relationship work in those fragile instances that she has so keenly cribbed about!
Now a days males have to change their attitude towards wife . their only dominance is not tolerated by wives.working females are doing every thing even looking house hold resposibillities . with increasing exposure by media females have started asking why? how? when? etc . may be some time they may overdo . in my view rather than domination equal or near equal participation should be encouraged. quitting from marriage is not the solution . understanding each other ( not always wife ) is must .
Re: divorce
by sidhartha p on Nov 20, 2012 09:36 PM
Divorce is not something which is in fashion so stop criticizing media for it. Divorce happens because there are strong reasons for getting seperated. Its not bad if media is teaching people that there is a way out of bad marriage.
Re: Re: divorce
by Shridharan Krishnan on Nov 21, 2012 01:18 AM
yeah! the problem is the media IS putting divorce as a very casual thing to do if you are not able to work your marriage. its like, you dont like the dress, return it. you cant get your way in a marriage, divorce, everyone is doing it and its not abnormal. THAT is damaging. and what better does the media need than spicy tidbits to write up articles and sell them.
A proud father who "accepts her daughter for the person she is" would have said "I'm so proud of my daughter"....and not concluded her to be his son....that statement says that "sons are superior than daughter"
Because divorce is not something which is taboo in our society anymore (atleast at some level). This is the only reason. Its absolutely nonsense to say that 50 years back all the couples who were married till their death were happy in their marriage. Its just that people now have realized that there is a way to get out of a bad marriage. Earlier it wasn't even an option.
Re: Marriages are failing because
by prakash sharma on Nov 20, 2012 09:28 PM
and also , this demon called media was not existing like it is ..these days.. to spoil the young minds .
Re: Marriages are not working
by sidhartha p on Nov 20, 2012 09:19 PM
If you wanna blame the media, its fine. But the modern India is in a perfect balance these days as far as marriage is concerned. Why do you have to bear a person if you are not at all happy with her/him? Marriages break because people think they will be happier after divorce. They do not do it because its in fashion. So even if marriages are failing, its a good thing as people now have started realizing that an unhappy marriage is not a life long prison.
There can not be two swords in a sheath. Only one can be dominating. In todays world a agressive demanding womwn has to clash with a man who by nature is agressive. So marriages are doomed to fail. Women must understand when it comes to home man is indomitable irrespective of education,money etc etc.Man will dominate his personal space.If that domination is facing serious challenges he will simply walk out of the marriage. In fact the amount of competition,hard work,smart work and above all mentally and physically enervating work place is not helping men either. Men have to be very correct in work place both technically and politically. So they do not and will not have the patience to take any of the feminine bullshit when they go home. The same may be true for working women as well.So men nowadays prefer to be singles and concentrate on career, knowledge ugradation and social work with out any strings attached.
it is a generic statement..cause there is more info available abt success n failure today even in the past marriages were equally successful n unsuccessful .. just not so publicized..if not.. times have changed.. intrusion of technology n ambitions have definitely made it harder .. but still its not like marriage is failing more .. its just that more effort is needed to keep it going well and one has to always keep working on it n never take it for granted
