Re: Being Honest with your Partner for Successful Any Relation!!!
by B M on Nov 09, 2012 01:06 PM
Very true. It takes a couple of years to understand each other's faults (or incomapatibilities). The key to successful marriage is mutual (I stress the word mutual) willingness to adjust to each other and continue the journey of life.
This is true not just for arranged marriage but also for love marriage. There are many facets of ones' personality which will not be obvious while just dating.
Dear Rediff, please do surprise us more often with such meaningful articles!
I firmly believe in the immediate family elders being involved in the bride/groom selection, although the decision on yes or no should be that of the bride or the groom. A good understanding on where and how much of family involvement in the selection of one's partner will be helpful in getting the right partner.
Re: Good article!
by satya s on Nov 09, 2012 02:48 PM
i don't think so.
the compatiblity is between 2 indivudals and its best left to themselves.its complicated enough.
parents can just play a positiverole of encouragement.
infact in quite afew cases,i have found they have caused discord by indiscreet remarks about the girl's parents. the girl ofcourse would start nursing a grudge and the husband is caught between mother and wife!
i am not even going intothe cases of dowry and business in name of marriage.
Re: Good article!
by Satya Raj on Nov 09, 2012 12:50 PM
Nonsense. The very involvement of external entities in matching two individuals in an intimate relationship makes Arranged marriages an example of institutionalized prostitution!
Re: Re: Good article!
by B M on Nov 09, 2012 12:58 PM
"Intimate relationship" is just one element of marriage. Do you see married couples stay 'intimate' 24x7? Marriage involves other important elements - creating new human beings, nurturing them, raising them to be good citizens of the world and inculcating good values in them before you die.
Pr0stituton is the thing that involves only and nothing other than 'intimate relationship'.
So writer highlights just few cases and take side? Fact is rather LOVE or Arranged, these things are going to happen if you are not careful.
Writer quotes Oprah but do you know the divorce rates in America? They would be the last person on earth to advice us Indians about our marriage system.
Re: Re: Wrong
by B M on Nov 09, 2012 12:42 PM
With this logic, you have to be willing to accept that you and/or your parents are children of prostitutes.
Re: Wrong
by B M on Nov 09, 2012 12:40 PM
Westerners have a very skewed understanding of arranged marriage. Many of them still feel that the bride and groom get married without having seen each other until the day of the wedding. That may have been true in the olden days but they do not understand that even the process of arranged marriage have evolved with time.
Re: Re: Wrong
by kaushik on Nov 09, 2012 09:26 PM
Its not a skewed understanding. Arranged marriages are more or less the same now as it was before. A couple is married without knowing a lot about each other and then have to live a life of disappointment and unhappiness just for following Indian "culture". This is the great, retarded Indian arranged marriage system which people in India follow like sheep and suffer because of their own stupidity and ignorance.
Re: Re: Re: Wrong
by B M on Nov 09, 2012 12:50 PM
Marriage is a lifetime deal. Does anyone strike a deal with a pr0,stitute to spend a life time with him? ...Comparison with pr0s.tiution is not a sound logic.
