my mother in law and myself spend 7 years in one roof sometimes we argue about certain thing but now she is my best friend, i respect her and she loves me we miss each other when we stayed alone . for me she is my mother as well as sas. no doubt when my hobby quarreled with me she take my side.
Re: Sas $ bahu
by Bolo India on Aug 26, 2009 04:44 PM
bravo...its not easy to have such confidence from your MIL unless you give you 100% to the relationship! You must be truly amazing yourself to have got such amazing MIL.
Re: Urgent advise needed. How can I ensure my wife's stay in New
by Keshetti Mahesh on Aug 26, 2009 04:35 PM
abe chetta nayala .. what are you trying to achieve by repeatedly posting such fictitious stories ?
Whatever the situations or words i faced with my mother in law I try to get along with her only reason is my husband very attavhed to her, and he gets hurt when i say something about her. We dont stay with them, but even then she never ever leave an opportunity to praise her daughter and compare me with her daughter. She changes her face when i talk to my male colleagues even over mobile. I am well educated and Working women and really want to be independent in all ways. and comparing with somebody has always been an irking thing to me. I am never used to it even at home. If my husband conults me for anything she says I am dominating my husband. she says such kind of things in the absence of her son. And at times I feel like where did i come and whom and what i am facing. I am a quiet and patient girl. I try not to react to her, so far i succeeded. But not sure how long i can carry on with this cool. I am worried coz i dont want to tell all these things to my husband. Can anyone tell me how to befriend such mom-in law.
The main problem after marriage is Moms do not want to share her son and wives do not want to share her hubby. The above said is practically impossible the day both creatures will learn this there won't be any fight.
If you are speaking the truth you are lucky to have a lady who respects your identity and lets you have your space.Being from similar background ,relegion caste and all other blah Blah Blah and having a well educated MIL ,even today I am supposed to answer questions as silly as "y are u using this vessel and not that one for cooking".As far I have analysed ladies who do not go thru this situtaions in thier early life ,are the ones who behave like the most selfish MIL's
It is just not possible to have this kind of nice hunky dowry relationship in an intercaste marriage in India unfortunately. Its good try from Asha Fernandez to get her story published as a real one just to satisy her ego. Sorry sir it is totally impossible in Bharat Desh Mahan. Mother in law bbecomes a demon as soon as she gets promotion from bbeing mother of a boy to mother in law of a daughter in law.
Situation almost similar, girl is a christian and boy is a gujju. when he got married everything was normal until when they had a child. there started the trouble my friends father wanted his grandson's named after a hindu god suddenly there was a clash in the inlaws as they wanted to name him joseph. Situation so worsened that girl got kicked and child is with his father.
daughter-in-law can never be a daughter n same goes for mom-inlaw can never be a mother..So why start calling them "Mama" after marriage?Another truth if mominlaw ill teates dotsinlaw..watch out when they grow old/sick n depend on dotinlaw...watch out.As long as both r nor possessive about them..no worries
