Although some females will say it is against their freedom to live - it is fact of life that male being having natural power above female - they can take undue advantage of so called freeness. Why not have a restriction in freeness be imposed by females and avoid so called freeness beyond limit. Laws are there to punish the guilty. But it is again beureocratic process. More suffering is for female only. You can not avoid this type of incidences because sex is one hunger which even gentlman can not get rid off. Since ancient times it is happening. 'DURGA' type ladies are rare who can protect themselves.
Re: Why Girls be away from so called freeness
by meenakshi sundaresan on Feb 02, 2011 10:20 AM
So according to you men cannot but help 'rape' women because they cannot control themselves.WTF do you mean by freeness beond limit. Get a life and I pity the woman you are with.
Re: Why Girls be away from so called freeness
by com on Feb 06, 2011 05:47 PM
you are not one bit different from talibani kind of people. why dont you go there? dont you have mother sister in your house?
2 points - Need for a professional counsellor to be with the victim from immediately after the incident - Every victim is different and 'general' solutions need not be beneficial.
Everyone should understand and keep in his/her mind that fact that society from western countries are "mostly completely civilized" and society of our country is "half civilized". Unless our literacy is increased to high level, we can't reach to the level of "completely civilized" society. Till that time girls should take care of there clothes.
Re: The summary of this article
by Vinay Gupta on Apr 25, 2009 06:03 AM
as far as girls are concerened West is more uncivilised than us. using girls to Sell men's undercloth is one such example. Due to our education system which is english based , we start looking at us in the same way as english look at us.
Todays youngsters forget the reality that they are in india and not in US or Europe. The movies and TV programs dont help them either by constantly showing western places and people and culture. I am not against western culture as I live in one but western culture suits western people, thats ok for them. But India hasnt changed that much. we still have great extend of nearly 700 to 800 million people who are not exposed to any of these ideas or if even exposed have vague understanding of them.In india still majority dont talk about sex and sex is still under covers. And indian men for long have been given moral lessons that a scantily dressed women is for everyones use(i know its bad but thats reality). I was a same kind of guy when i was young, my college friends when we went on bus we used to touch girls and tries to fondle. Back then we thought it was fun. But now since living in western world has changed my perception and i dont go around touching or fondling girls when we see short skirted women. So my point is that indian youngsters are not taught the correct way of accepting western cultures. there are good things and bad things in western culture. but we tend to adopt the bad things since they are more attractive and dont require much change. I dont know where this will lead india too. But i am sure we are in for a great roller coster ride in future, culture wise. Women in india are still considered commodity,I guess todays youngsters should be given more information.
Re: Rape and Mens attitude
by Vinay Gupta on Apr 25, 2009 06:10 AM
girls are considered comodity in western world. They are being used by Market as comodity only. Their woman empowerment has not come out of any idealism or reform. Do u feel rape donot take place in western society. Sexual asault take place there also. Fathers are sleeping with their dauthers there also.
So let us stop talking about Indian society or western society. Most important thing is to give more stress on moral teachings. Let us strenghten Indian family system. Let us not replace the role of society with the LAW. and let us not develop AmirKhans , Munna bhai like as the role models of youth
I and I prsume lot of people will agree to the following
1) Dare not anyone proceed till the Women gives the green signal to flirt and so on
2) the Working women and girls and ladies , the Way they are dressed up in public, and there behavior in public since last few year has made them more target of men lust due to the above , i.e dressing and behavior, which you can see in Today School, College working place and in publice places and in housing society to start with
3) They are offering themselves to such kind of ACT BY MANIACS., Who have not seen anything
there is saying " PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN CURE "
So request to all Women., PLEASE BEHAVE PROPERLY AND DONT BECOME A TARGET PLEASE
Ask and compare yourself with the women of 80 and 70 , there dressing sense and yours now
Everybody from the starting age of 15 and above want to show there body and everything which makes them proud., THANKS TO THE THE T V
Please take care ., I repeat " Prevention is hundred percent better than any cure "
Re: Rape and Women Attitude
by bharat kumarahirawar on Apr 25, 2009 10:45 AM
Mr.Tony u r absolutely right.In metro cities most of working & college going ladies dresses skintyte geans.
Re: Rape and Women Attitude
by Ajay Jha on Apr 25, 2009 01:25 AM
Well Said, Tony!
They don't understand that they may watch foreign channels but they live in "frustrated" India!
There is a serious misconception among all Indians who watch foreign channels that what is shown is the reality in those foreign countries!
Nothing could be farther from the truth!
The culture in foreign countries allows them to dress the way they want and so they do!
India, for all its progress, has not reached that stage! And there is no need to force yourself into believing that it should get to that stage so that you can live like they do in those countries for a fraction of what it costs to live there!!
Re: Rape and Women Attitude
by suresh raja on Apr 25, 2009 03:58 AM
I think your message is correct for indian sense. Todays youngsters forget the reality that they are in india. The movies and TV programs dont help them either by constantly showing western places and people and culture. I am not against western culture as I live in one but western culture suits western people, thats ok for them. But India hasnt changed that much. we still have great extend of nearly 700 to 800 million people who are not exposed to any of these ideas or if even exposed have vague understanding of them.In india still majority dont talk about sex and sex is still under covers. And indian men for long have been given moral lessons that a scantily dressed women is for everyones use(i know its bad but thats reality). I was a same kind of guy when i was young, my college friends when we went on bus we used to touch girls and tries to fondle. Back then we thought it was fun. But now since living in western world has changed my perception and i dont go around oggling girls and touching them when we see short skirted women. So i guess indian youngsters are not taught the correct way of accepting western cultures. there are good things and bad things in western culture. but we tend to adopt the bad things since they are more attractive and dont require much change. I dont know where this will lead india too. But i am sure we are in for a great roller coster ride in futre, culture wise.
Re: Rape and Women Attitude
by GIRIN PEGU on Apr 25, 2009 02:07 AM
mr. tony, actually what a person needs is his mentality/purity of mind.His mentality should not be distracted by a women's dress or behaviour.
A good article to be read by all those vulnerable to the crime of rape-especially those ladies/girls working in night shifts & in secluded places.It is also useful for all the parents-especially of the girls to keep themselves equipped with all the modalities for facing the situation & acting bravely without losing their composure on one hand & taking care of their victim daughter on the other .The authoress has vividly dealt with the entire trauma-especially the after effects of a rape.As she correctly analysed, it is not for the crime as such people are worried,but about the aftermath of the things/situation that they would befall/ be required to face in the Indian society which is full of several taboos & stigmas attached to such events t.The parents' role vis-a-vis the unfortunate occurrences is dealt with nicely by the writer.Being a lady, she is able to perceive the points mattering very clearly.We must commend her for her beautiful article.May God bless her!
