Sad that such reasons are mentioned above. Its times like these when i read such articles i feel that the moral goons who vandalise media offices are right. yes, u have the right to discuss anything n everything, but this...u were/are a child to someone, its a natures law, u can discus if to have more than one but not at all?!!...u reach a point in life where u do fel if u had one, im teling u this bcos i know people who after losing their partner or bcos of not marrying at all r lonely n miserable now. they have lacs or even crores of savings rt now but are lonely now and say they will be donating the money cos they dont have energy to spend it on travel also and travel with whom.there is no guarantee how ur child may turn upto - hitler, osama or bill gates, mother teresa or no guarantee if they will take care of u, may be u will despise them afterwards for their behaviour towards u but then wat 'GUARANTEE' does life give us at any stage of our plan....one might say i'm the happiest man that im a pilot cos that is wat i wanted to be earning lacs per month in my 30's" but then the plane crashed...no guarantee...remember there r curses disguised as boon in our lives but its all about taking chances, isnt that life is all about? the above article is sad and a demotivator for a beautiful gift called LIFE!
There are already about thirty times the ideal number of humans on this planet Earth. The Hum Do Hamare Do should be replaced with Hum Do Hamare Minus Do. Every couple should try to take out two children from this planet instead of dumping a new ones of their own.
Real reason why people of a backward society like India are so keen to produce children is because only their own product can be true slaves. People need to fulfill the innate human desire to exercise absolute power over humans. Society might not let them do it on others, so they have to make their own product first.
Desire to use humans freely as one wishes is a natural instinct, but it is not noble, humane, civilized, or kind. In prehistory the reason for producing as many children as possible was probably related to cannibalism, as home produced children could be eaten fresh like any produce of a kitchen garden, and one would not have to fight others to eat them. It was fresh meat without a price.
Re: Re: Sad
by v on Sep 13, 2014 12:45 AM
did u use the word 'dumping'?!!...what date did ur parents 'dump' u? wish they were cannibals so that u wouldnt have been here today. take the hypothesis, fold it thrice and then shove it in ur ass.
One reason is many newly wedded couple use chemical stuff to terminate early pregnancy.Such practice either concives a malnutrion baby or no baby at all.Secondly the on going cost of caring a child for the first 10 years from infancy.
What is the point in having children if you cannot afford one ? In India unfortunately, infertility is treated as a sin and the girl who has not borne a child after marriage is looked down upon lowly and even chided with undignified sobriquets by her in-laws. What is not being considered here is whether the couple have the necessary means to support a child ? Rather, having a child is considered to be a paternal duty whether you can afford one or not. At a time when India is beseiged with a sea of humanity crossing over 130 crores, the concept of family planning acquires foremost importance. Resources available with us are not perennial or unlimited to feed an ever growing population. Moreover, the constraints of over population are many which has the capacity to wreck the calculations of any Government administering deliverables to its population. It is time that the Country should seek bondage from foolish traditions and customs and instead live with reality. There is a ticking time bomb in India in terms of population and it needs to be contained forthwith. Unless and until it is done, it would be difficult to retrieve our Country from third World status irrespective of the economic formulations you experiment to bring in prosperity. There is too much stake for a loaf of bread and unless that is addressed, where is the salvation ?
Re: THE TIME HAS COME
by some one on Sep 12, 2014 09:16 PM
In India about 90 percent population are too poor to afford a proper life style for themselves, with education, leisure, broad mind, pleasure, comfort, luxury, security,and self respect. Yet they produce as many children as they can. Poor women are child factories. Quantity of product is more important than quality.
It is obvious that poor parents can only produce more poor people if they have children. This keeps poverty from ending. If all poor people died without producing a child then poverty would have died with them.
Poor people see poverty as a social status or class to preserve at all costs. Producing children costs nothing but helps keep membership of class of poor. Rich encourage poor to keep up supply of poor slaves to feel power.
The day I was retired in 2010, I was given a cheque for Rs.4.53 lakhs as my PF. I know that if I had not touched my PF at all in raising my kids in all my 33 years of service, I should have had Rs 35 to 40 lakhs in my PF account. I had to withdraw every third or fourth month sums ranging from Rs 10 to Rs 20 thousand from my PF for meeting their requirements. Of course my children handsomely look after me fine now, but yet, if only you had that 35 lakhs as your own in a lump sum, that should have made a great deal of difference [with my investment skills, it should have been Rs 50 lakhs easily in these few years past retirement!].
Unless you are a Tata, Birla, or an Ambani, having kids and raising them is full of pain, compromises and sacrifices. At times when these compromises and sacrifices prove to be insufficient in situations where you do not meet eye-to-eye with your kids, you realize it is a self-inflicted pain which one could have lived without!
Re: I am kind of 51:49 against having kids
by v on Sep 12, 2014 08:35 PM
u r a number SOB aint ya raju. did ur kids read this. u r a luck guy that ur kids r taking care of u 'handsomely'. u should be the last person supporting this, infact u should be discouraging this article. for 35-40 lac ruppes???...low life, i.e wat u r!
Re: I am kind of 51:49 against having kids
by some one on Sep 12, 2014 09:22 PM
Many Indians produce children as a social obligation. It is one thing to commit suicide because of a natural desire to jump off the cliff, but doing it as a duty imposed by others is far worse.
The day I was retired in 2010, I was given a cheque for Rs.4.53 lakhs as my PF. I know that if I had not touched my PF at all in raising my kids in all my 33 years of service, I should have had Rs 35 to 40 lakhs in my PF account. I had to withdraw every third or fourth month sums ranging from Rs 10 to Rs 20 thousand from my PF for meeting their requirements. Of course my children handsomely look after me fine now, but yet, if only you had that 35 lakhs as your own in a lump sum, that should have made a great deal of difference [with my investment skills, it should have been Rs 50 lakhs easily in these few years past retirement!].
Unless you are a Tata, Birla, or an Ambani, having kids and raising them is full of pain, compromises and sacrifices. At times when these compromises and sacrifices prove to be insufficient in situations where you do not meet eye-to-eye with your kids, you realize it is a self-inflicted pain which one could have lived without!
Re: I am kind of 51:49 against having kids
by v on Sep 12, 2014 08:41 PM
arent children ur investment in one way? emotional investement, investment to take care when u r old? now this v/s 40 lacs, u tell me which is better?....either u r lying that children r taking care of u or something i wrong with u, u should have at least ended ur post on a positive note that ...'at the end of the day i dont regret my decision, its about ifs n buts after all!
Re: Re: I am kind of 51:49 against having kids
by Aiyer Raju on Sep 13, 2014 02:32 PM
I quote from what I've written above: "...At times when these compromises and sacrifices prove to be insufficient in situations where you do not meet eye-to-eye with your kids, you realize it is a self-inflicted pain which one could have lived without!"
I don't wish to say anything more on this score. I wish you turn out to be a good kid for your parents and who have no reason to regret a "self-inflicted pain" which they could have lived without. I pardon you as only a father can for calling me an SOB.
Re: Re: Re: I am kind of 51:49 against having kids
by v on Sep 14, 2014 08:39 PM
ok, pardon me for my harsh words. Life is all about if's an buts, i'm angry bcos u r a lucky guy getting all love,care n attention from ur childrenn n may b grand children also n still ur comments seems to support this article, this is wat i dont understand.with ur experience u should b saying otherwise.
Although Sunny Leone says my parents were proud of me when they came to know that I was independent. What type of parenthood is this? It is like proud of being . World is full of funny people. They will get their deeds when they will face. Ask for forgiveness from almighty and so good deeds and karma in life like conducting dharna at jantar mantar in front of chief minister house, expose corrupt ministers like Gadkari and Yedurappa and bluff like Modi that within 100 days we will bring black money and throw bangladeshi out.
Almighty is fiction. There are good reasons to stop production of humans.
In olden days there was so much loss of human life by disease, war, calamities and animal attacks, that high rate of production of children was needed to maintain strength of society. Today situation is that human over population has nearly destroyed all natural life forms and environment is damaged beyond repair.
Unless human population is reduced by more than twenty times, growth of economies will lead to total destruction of natural environment.
Apart from natural environment, there is strong human desire for privacy, to be all alone by oneself and see free land all around as far as one can see, totally free of humans. Children are unlucky that they will never be free of human interference.
High population density creates unsolvable conflict. Human beings are biologically not created to share with or sacrifice for others. Third World has continuous military conflicts because of higher density of humans per unit of resources like land, materials, energy, wealth, and privacy.
Human Species is near disaster unless population is brought drastically down.
The wrong or right is not in the work but in why she is doing it, freely or forced into showing off her body to earn. As long as an educated free person decides to do some work that is not very harmful to others, it is their free wish and doing it is right.
The wrong or right is not in the work but in why she is doing it, freely or forced into showing off her body to earn. As long as an educated free person decides to do some work that is not very harmful to others, it is their free wish and doing it is right.
