That's the reason they had 5 days wedding in olden days,with girl seeing ceremony and Nischtartham etc where the boy and girl got to know each other. Today we have abbreviated everything and that's the problem?
But it was more than about a Jump... So can we use this as a solution...go to bed and jump like kids do...have pillow fight...have a laugh...just follow the flow.... Disclaimer: I didnt try the above with my arranged partner but we were a different couple at different time...Do it on your risk...:)
Just few decades ago, situation was different. Crimes against women were less. Since last decade, some one deliberately destroyed our culture by brainwashing the youth (particularly ladies) and systematically introduced Boy-girl friend, live-in, Valentines culture etc. in our society. I am sure this must have been done by some Christian foreign power, ruling at the center.
Re: Culture
by giri shah on Mar 07, 2014 11:18 AM
fully agree. otherwise why should for eg. our advertisements, every talk show on TV etc. explicitly keep mentioning boy friend and girl friend.
There is no difference once you get married, whether its arranged or love marriage. Marriage take difference skills and commitment to be successful. Except for Dowry system and unnecessary wedding expenditure and rituals ,everything else is fine in arranged marriage.
