... are not present in the west/modern societies. But that does not mean long term marriages are common. Divorces/separations exists much more in the "free" "equal" lands.
1)rich man vs rich women. end in divorce 2)poor man vs poor women. Never last long 3)Average man vs Average women. most successful 4)rich man vs poor women. male domination but will run. 5)poor man vs rich women. Male live like slave.
Re: combination of marriages
by shashwat on Nov 22, 2012 01:06 PM
rich man vs poor women. male domination but will run. These days women r dominating in this case as in event of divorce husband will have to pay huge alimony. So u r wrong on this.
I agree on :-Average man vs Average women. most successful
Re: Re: combination of marriages
by kamakhya narayan on Nov 22, 2012 04:20 PM
categorization on the wealth basis is one aspect for the marriages being failure.
Sarai, for most of the part of your article I agree with you and am of the same opinion about their freedom of thought and execution.
The only part I disagree about is the drinking and smoking point. It is very personal point of view and I don't preach about it. When I become a father I won't like my daughter and for that matter even my son to drink and smoke regularly when they grow up. I won't associate "value" (As you have put - importing low value from depraved West. No, you go to far-flung areas of India and you will find women smoking hukkah/bidi for centuries) with it rather I would associate "health" with it. Obviously I can tell only the ill effects to them it is upto them to take or reject it.
Sarai you would have heard of so many researches going on for finding its ill effects on DNA/chromosomes/mutation. How the new diseases are passed on new generations, how children are born with hole-in-heart/diabetes/BP etc. due to mother's drinking/smoking habits, doctors asking women not to smoke/drink while they are pregnant.
And if you think these 2 things adds to the liberty of women (or men) I thank my heavens that my mother and sisters are not that liberal (even though they are working for past 30/18 years) and have given birth to me/my maternal-sons/daughters without in-born diseases. Yes,I would like to have healthy children and a non-liberal (as Sarai Nina may feel because one/she does not drink/smoke) yet progressive wife.
Sarai, for most of the part of your article I agree with you and am of the same opinion about their freedom of thought.
The only part I disagree about is the drinking and smoking point. It is very personal point of view and I don't preach about it. When I become a father I won't like my daughter and for that matter even my son to drink and smoke regularly when they grow up. I won't associate "value" (As you have put - importing low value from depraved West. No, you go to far-flung areas of India and you will find women smoking hukkah/bidi for centuries) with it rather I would associate "health" with it. Obviously I can tell only the ill effects to them it is upto them to take or reject it.
Sarai, you would have heard of so many researches going on for finding its ill effects on DNA/chromosomes/mutation. How the new diseases are passed on new generations, how children are born with hole-in-heart/diabetes/BP etc. due to mother's drinking/smoking habits. Doctors asking women not to smoke/drink while they are pregnant.
And if you think these 2 things adds to the liberty of women (or men) I thank my heavens that my mother and sisters are not that liberal (even though they are working for past 30/18 years) and have given birth to me/my maternal-sons/daughters without in-born diseases. Yes,I would like to have a healthy child and a non-liberal (as Sarai may feel because one/she does not drink/smoke) yet progressive wife.
Sarai, for most of the part of your article I agree with you and am of the same opinion about their freedom of thought.
The only part I disagree about is the drinking and smoking point. It is very personal point of view and I don't preach about it. When I become a father I won't like my daughter and for that matter even my son to drink and smoke regularly when they grow up. I won't associate "value" (As you have put - importing low value from depraved West. No, you go to far-flung areas of India and you will find women smoking hukkah/bidi for centuries) with it rather I would associate "health" with it. Obviously I can tell only the ill effects to them it is upto them to take or reject it.
Sarai, you would have heard of so many researches going on for finding its ill effects on DNA/chromosomes/mutation. How the new diseases are passed on new generations, how children are born with hole-in-heart/diabetes/BP etc. due to mother's drinking/smoking habits. Doctors asking women not to smoke/drink while they are pregnant.
And if you think these 2 things adds to the liberty of women (or men) I thank my heavens that my mother and sisters are not that liberal (even though they are working for past 30/18 years) and have given birth to me/my maternal-sons/daughters without in-born diseases. Yes,I would like to have a healthy child and a non-liberal (as Sarai may feel because one/she does not drink/smoke) yet progressive wife.
Sarai, for most of the part of your article I agree with you and am of the same opinion about their freedom of thought.
The only part I disagree about is the drinking and smoking point. It is very personal point of view and I don't preach about it. When I become a father I won't like my daughter and for that matter even my son to drink and smoke regularly when they grow up. I won't associate "value" (As you have put - importing low value from depraved West. No, you go to far-flung areas of India and you will find women smoking hukkah/bidi for centuries) with it rather I would associate "health" with it. Obviously I can tell only the ill effects to them it is upto them to take or reject it.
Sarai, you would have heard of so many researches going on for finding its ill effects on DNA/chromosomes/mutation. How the new diseases are passed on new generations, how children are born with hole-in-heart/diabetes/BP etc. due to mother's drinking/smoking habits. Doctors asking women not to smoke/drink while they are pregnant.
And if you think these 2 things adds to the liberty of women (or men) I thank my heavens that my mother and sisters are not that liberal (even though they are working for past 30/18 years) and have given birth to me/my maternal-sons/daughters without in-born diseases. Yes,I would like to have a healthy child and a non-liberal (as Sarai may feel because one/she does not drink/smoke) yet progressive wife.
As i hv mentioned she works in a private firm and is out of the house for nearly 10 to 11 hrs. She is working really hard. But all her finances are going towards her parents' family. She loves her brother's small kid like mad and is always buying expensive gifts for him and her brothers. But in my house even if she has to purchase her soap with her own money, she will cry over it that I had to spend my money and I am such a fool who spent Rs 50,000/- on her TB of Uterus treatment without thinking twice. Really how mean people like my wife can get.
Here I may mention that she went to Doctor on my repeated insistence for months.
Re: My wife is an exceptional case - really!!
by Li Na on Nov 23, 2012 12:15 AM
i thought that you were just upset and posted that comment...but you just are going on and on.
buddy....instead of defaming your wife in a public forum, proceed to a marriage counsellor or divorce her (atleast meet a lawyer and the court might force you both to meet a counsellor...or you may get divorce).
come to think of it...i think you are just cooking up fiction....if not...do something about it, instead of trying to gain sympathy from strangers!!
These days women want that their husband should completely disassociate from his parents, not even talk to them. Which parent will want his/her son to get married if they know they are bringing an enemy into their house. I feel sad and depressed that so many modern women have become so evil and short-sighted in their approach. Kindness is the biggest virtue of women and today's woman has totally lost it.
My wife is so religious, goes to temple every day, but still is so evil in her thoughts & action. What double-standards.
Re: they expect husbands to be good to her parents without thinki
by anand c on Nov 22, 2012 01:46 PM
My friend agree with you... A woman today lack willingness to compromise, accomodate with in-laws. Everything is seen through a prism of "What have they done for me, that i should care for them" Though your parents would have done everything possible in this world...This change is attitude is causing problems
The women, mostly from urban areas want to be men in every field of life. So they have left all the feminity and all aspects of a woman somewhere else and are busy competing with males. So, the competition begins with their husbands.
Why should I cook, why can't you? and on similar lines.
Women cannot think considering all aspects. Therefore they expect husbands to be good to her parents without thinking how is it possible if the woman herself treats the husbands parents as her Enemies.
This lady is writing something which makes no sense. She is propogating the theory of making women like men. Would men like to marry men? No. Every man would like a gentle & kind woman and not a hoarse woman.
Re: Women wanting to be Men
by vinod on Nov 22, 2012 01:33 PM
Fully agreed man every family has the same issue & the worst case is when the female is working , then gone case
Re: Women wanting to be Men
by Li Na on Nov 23, 2012 12:19 AM
Prachi, just because a woman is born a woman...should she be forced to take care of home??
Ideally...if a woman also works...why should she do all work? Why can't husband share work??
Just because a woman is ambitious and aggressive when it comes to her career....doesn't make her a man....similarly, just because a man does household work, doesn't make him a woman!
Re: Re: Women wanting to be Men
by babi mukherjee on Nov 25, 2012 01:11 PM
i totally agree with you li na, a husband comes from office and lie down oon bed whereas when a woman come back she has to do all chores ,how mean if not all work he can atleast help her in some ways.
