Author has written this to boast about herself. How good she is at driving, how good at winning in poker, what a great married life she has and what a terrific father she had. Cleverly hidden in a write-up about marriages.Pathetic
Re: Boastful
by Damu ramamurthy on Nov 25, 2012 06:28 PM
Thts all for her pleasure and fancy.Never for his!But whatever he does is for her plaesure and comfort only!
Re: Boastful
by trader on Nov 25, 2012 07:07 PM
Women become liberated and are equal, next?They dont listen to their husbands and divorce.Ok ,they may earn and are financially well off.But they should remember that society loves and adores a woman until she is young.Once she become old she needs some support.Relatives will rob her all finances and put her in a destitute house.men can live alone even after being old as they are physically strong but what about woman?Now if you dont listen to your husband,then your son/daughter is also likely to do the same once they stand on their feet as they dont need you!these all are hypothetical arguments but crux of the matter is nature has eveolved ina certain way where strong always dominate weak no matter how much we want jsutice,equality blah...!!It is always advisable to compromise after getting certain individual space and equality in marriage,especially for physically weaker sex!!No matter how much we think of equality,have we ever heard of a woman wrestler defeatinga male wrestler ...lol!!
There is a great imbalance in the married relationship.i.e. A man should take care of all her needs! 1.Good home with all amenities(best). 2.A good job with pocket full of pay.(secured) 3.He shd take care of children. 4.Take care of all household chores. 5.Childrens school. 6.All groceries etc importantly her make ups. 7.All physical work like driving,filling water,chappattis,even cooking, 8.Ensure taking her out whenever she wishes. 9.Earn enough to spend enough. 10.Take all responsibilities provinding the family with all best of failities money and everything. 11.Shd not even stare or pass a look at other women. 12.Be comfortable with her side family members and forget of his relatives including his MM and DAD also. These are the minimum duties he should perform and responsibile. But what he expects form her?
ONLY TO PLEASE FOR 3 MINUTES IN BED!!!Thats all!
So there cannot be any balance between them SO TODAYS MARRIAGES DO NOT LAST!!! NOT A JOKE!
This is from Anurag. To me, marriage is a dead thing. It is an institution, and you cannot live in an institution; only mad people live in institutions. It is a substitute for love. Love is dangerous: to be in love is to be in a storm, constantly. You need courage and you need awareness, and you are to be ready for anything. There is no security in love; love is insecure. Marriage is a security: the registry office, the police, the court are behind it. The state, the society, the religion -- they are all behind it. Marriage is a social phenomenon. Love is individual, personal, intimate.
Because love is dangerous, insecure.... And nobody knows where love will lead. It is just like a cloud -- moving with no destination. Love is a hidden cloud, whereabouts unknown. Nobody knows where it is at any moment of time. Unpredictable -- no astrologer can predict anything about love. About marriage? -- astrologers are very, very helpful; they can predict.
Man has to create marriage because man is afraid of the unknown. On all levels of life and existence, man has created substitutes: for love there is marriage; for real religion there are sects -- they are like marriages. Hinduism, Mohammedanism, Christianity, Jainism -- they are not real religion. Real religion has no name; it is like love. But because love is dangerous and you are so afraid of the future, you would like to have some security. You believe more in insurance companies than in life. That's why you have created marria
Much of what the author has written is true.A successful marriage is about mutual understanding of each partner's role.Marriage calls for a lot of patience,love, understanding,sacrifice,mature relationship,getting along with in-laws, etc,etc.Unfortunately today's younger generation doesn't have the patience and wants quick results.The older generations also had similar problems.Economic progress has brought a lot of western culture in our lives and today's generation have more financial independance. Quick love,Quick marriage and Quick divorce seem to be becoming the norm.
Re: The reason for silly divorce in Kerala
by kumar kn on Nov 24, 2012 05:14 PM
...and the husband doesn't like the wife wearing T-Shirt and shorts showing off her body.
The author seems to be a confused female ------------------------------------------ "When I look at my daughter today," he concluded, breaking into guffaws of laughter, "I now realise I didn't really need a son -- I have one already!"
And that's why I married a man just like my father -- someone who takes pride in the person that I am, not the woman or the wife that I am. ---------------------------------------------- She feels proud to be identified as a son!
If she feels an 'emancipated woman ' is a nice thing , which definitely to some extent is, then she should be smart enough to make her marriage work! It should not be a cause for failure of marriage.
The author says she is 'lucky to have a loving husband'. Is it a Lottery?
Marriage is an Institution which has some 'Maryada' aspects and social etiquettes. If one opts for it, then the rules laid down need to be followed. If, they are not then the marriage tends to break.
Unfortunately some 'Half Baked Minds' who choose to ape the western system somehow get into the Institution of Marriage which has it's set of norms and mess it up by defying the norms to the chagrin of all. These people bring so much misery into the families they go that one wonders which sin made them get these kind of people into their lives.
My advice to these kind of people. Please do not marry and 'Live Together' as they do in west.
Re: Author is confused
by Ujen Pradhan on Nov 25, 2012 01:12 AM
I feel sad that the message of the write up is lost on you. Ironically what you believe (qoute - rules laid down need to be followed) and what the author is sayng is principally the same. Except, in your case, I'd like to point out that relationships laid down by 'rules' will utlimately have someone trying to break them. May this message hone on you and the rest of India one day.
