Some of us have been alone in the US for a long long time away from families, friends and what not. I can't even remember the last time I considered myself to be a person with a family or a friend. Every time I see other people celebrating or enjoying with their families or friends, it reminds me of what I am missing. No thanks, I don't require your sympathy. I am merely vomiting my thoughts out. If you can prevent yourself from making masty comments about people like us deserving all this because of our choice to "betray" India, that would be a great help.
RE:What if we are away from families?
by on Feb 15, 2008 03:17 AM Permalink
I live in US too and I nkow how it is too feel lonely and miss our loved ones....But we do make friends here and we r not cursing US and telling US is driving us nuts.... All of us who r here have made this chose and are trying to make it fit into our lives...like make new friends see places explore new relationships and call this home....I think ppl there should be able to do the same and not blame the city.... I totally know what u feel and yes we dont need sympathy coz we have evolved out of the so called gloomy life to make this work in our favor.....
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by madhukar a on Feb 15, 2008 04:24 AM Permalink
Thats well said Pulsar, its not just you but several of us feel lonely, not much to do in your free time and not much socializing. But that doesn't mean we get down on it, its a choice we made and got to live out the good and bad sides of moving to a different country or city.
RE:What if we are away from families?
by aconcernedreader on Feb 15, 2008 06:08 AM Permalink
I know what you mean since I live and work in the US today. But I have worked in the IT sector in India as well and believe me its plain crazy. It not about missing family and friends..the stress is because of the insane work load the Indian IT outsourcers dump on people. Noone understands that you have a life outside of work - weekends are not weekends and every day people work late. There is no time to work out, no time to socialize. They may be getting paid well but their social life is largely limited to their colleagues at work. There should be laws to curb this/
RE:What if we are away from families?
by ACM on Feb 15, 2008 07:46 AM Permalink
Extremely well said. I used to work in India - like a mad dog. Then I moved to the US temporarily and I couldn't imagine my luck. The freedom and time was so enjoyable but after a couple of years, I started missing India terribly and couldn't wait to return. Then for a couple of years, life was a drudgery. Loads of work, traffic jams and coming back home by 8-9PM for not even a "great" compensation. Then I packed my bags and moved back for good. Here, my life revolves around the Indian community. Decent life at work and a great life after work with the family. I do my bit for the local Indian temple. I still miss India and feel the pangs to return every once in a while but I doubt I will be ever be able to. Not the best option this place but certainly better than life in India.
