Madam first find reasons for getting married.. Is it to have regular sex partner or to have child..... And to tell you... After having,. Children... Don\'t force your thoughts on them... Whether girl child or boy... Give them primary education upto 18... Because after 18 they can employed anywhere as per government rules... And let them complete their studies themselves...and let let them marry by their own choice... self finance... This is the best solution I can suggest
I request you to save and read this article after you marry your son. You are forgetting one thing: Generation Gap. If inlaws expecting something means they were grown up in such environment. I wont explain you further, looks like you are smart enough to understand what i mean and if you still dont get it, as i said, wait till u marry your son!
Re: Dear Divya
by vicky k on Oct 21, 2016 08:15 PM
And at that time please dont write an article with title "Dear daughter-in-lawSon-in-law: Please dont expect your inlaws to be nice to you" :D :P
Re: Dear Divya
by DrYaako TikaNovva on Oct 22, 2016 08:59 PM
Dear Vicky, "get your son married" is the correct usage, "marry your son" is not! Hope you understand what you are writing.
Re: Re: Dear Divya
by vicky k on Oct 26, 2016 03:49 PM
Yaako TikaNovva? pls dont think wrong way and pull out the context I m trying to convey. Anyways thanks for correcting Mr.Morgan
@Divya Nair: Woman of your kind of mentality are spoiling other women and indian culture. Your statement "Dont expect your wives to be nice with your parents" only spreads hatred in society. Who knows it may encourage some women to take wrong steps and spoil their family life. In your opinion who should take care of boys parents after marriage. they should be abandoned or what??
498A and Domestic Abuse Act state that it is abuse if a member of the girl's family feels slighted or insulted by someone in the guy's family.How many blogs did Divya Nair rant in back then? Renuka Chaudhary the brain behind these laws has claimed that these laws are draconiand and subject ot gross misuse and heavily and unfairly baised against men. Divya Nair was most certainly among the snickering Feminazis who remarked that it is the men's turn to suffer. A simple fact is if you do not intend to respect a guy's family do not look at family background as a criteria in matrimony. Guy's are not credit cards that pay for your living expenses for throughout your lives while you complain about how unfair the world is to women while you use an internet connection paid for by a man. "How much easier it was for men to get married." LOL! Most men are castigated for being a mommy's boy by the same women who have daddy's little princess as their FB Cover pics. I was recently at a wedding where the Girl's father proudly boasted that his son-in-law had a work visa in the USA. When the girl's father judges a groom by his assets, he is making his daughter a commodity. Go rant in front of your own father next time you feel an imaginary sense of depravement and somehow manage to link that to your gender.
Re: Hypocrisy and Feminazism
by divya nair on Oct 20, 2016 06:46 PM
And your problem with the column is...?? Looks like you have a problem with my name...since that is the only thing you seem to have absorbed from the above piece. But thank you for stopping by.
No wonder this article is written by a woman. I haven\'t read such a foolish article in Rediff before and please note I am a regular in Rediff.
Divya, first of all r u married? If yes then god bless your husband and in laws. If NO then please do not get married. I think You would never make a good daughter in law. I am saying this because from your article I can make out one thing that you have not understood the concept called marriage. Marriage is all about love and adjustments. Now adjustments is what you hate about then you would not be a good wife or even a mother. This is because even if you stay only with your husband and kids then too there would be many situations wherein you need to adjust/sacrifice for your kids/husband. And for your information even men do the same. Though not at a level what women do but still men does make some significant changes in their life after marriage.
All in all you need to understand what marriage is and then comment on things like this.
Re: The worst article in Rediff till date
by divya nair on Oct 20, 2016 06:43 PM
First of all have you read the column at all or you stopped at the headline and ran straight to voice your views? My column, in case you haven't read, answers all your questions. Thank you for not reading.
Re: Re: The worst article in Rediff till date
by Sanjay nair on Dec 22, 2016 04:36 PM
Ok let me tell you I have read the entire thing. But if I haven't and voiced my opinion based on the headline and if I am wrong, then too it is your fault because if your headline doesn't speak for the body then you should stop writing. Anyways that is something you shud understand and do for your own good, none of my business. Coming back to the topic, what does your article say, that a person who takes care of household chores, her in laws needs, etc. is a maid. These things women dont do because they are forced to, but they do it out of love for their family. You think if you stay with your in laws they would interfere in your life and you wont have the freedom that you were so longing while you were with your parents. At your home all these years you were in a prison created by your parents. You couldn't enjoy your life. Now that you are out of your home you want to live life as per your wishes and fantasies. This may not be possible if your in laws are with you. So you want to be only with your guy. Now once you are married you may also have kids. What if they too start thinking this way? When parents are old (by parents I mean both side) they need more care and love. They may act like kids and be adamant on certain things but when you were kid they did lot of things for you so when they get old they expect the same from you. Actually I dont think writing further would change your mindset. But pls do give it a thought.
If women have so many problems with marriage and so many cribs about genuine roles in life... then why get married? Stay alone. What nonsense... which girl lives like a "unpaid maid and caretaker" and stuff... Girls today have jobs, have multiple help at home and mostly couples stay away from both sets of parents and men help out too... maybe less, maybe more ! That is the way the modern world is and that is the way it should be. but cribbing and crying about everything they have to do and that too constantly, in the name of an ultra feminazi aspiration, seems so irritating and archaic in thought. Mat karo shaadi... earn ur own living... and live single all ur life The definition of marriage is changing, like all other definitions are...and they are changing fast. Men donot wield some kind of unseen power over women and rightly so..but women need to wake up and smell the coffee. this constant victim mentality rant is just another way to masquerade ur laziness, mean-ness and sheer selfishness to garner all of the love, resources and energies of the men and then wean them away from his parents. When the Supreme court orders 99 out of 100 times in favour of women in most equality / gender related cases... women find it convenient. When for the first time that 1 out of 100 thing is passed as an order, women like Ms Divya find it so convenient to even accept the otherwise very accommodative Supreme Court. Ok... ladies, at least listen to the SC, if not your husbands.
