It is completely wrong to say that.. now a days couple wants to stay in Joint family... since today's girls want to be more advance and want more independent.. and so they are not ready to take any responsibility on Family front......
Re: Completely Wrong
by Amit on Dec 12, 2011 07:03 PM
Most Indian couples are doing this not by choice but are forced to do this. This is solely because the girls are not willing to take up family responsibilities like taking care of kids and parents and sometimes even cooking. To the girl their jobs come first and then their family. They also do have the tacit support of her parents in this who thinks that if the girl looses her job she will loose independence as well.
Just ask those couples in the given article as whether the they take equal care of their parents or not. I am sure not.
Re: Completely Wrong
by Amit on Dec 12, 2011 07:04 PM
Most Indian couples are doing this not by choice but are forced to do this. This is solely because the girls are not willing to take up family responsibilities like taking care of kids and parents and sometimes even cooking. To the girl their jobs come first and then their family. They also do have the tacit support of her parents in this who thinks that if the girl looses her job she will loose independence as well.
Just ask those couples in the given article as whether the they take equal care of their parents or not. I am sure not.
Re: Completely Wrong
by Amit on Dec 12, 2011 07:05 PM
Most Indian couples are doing this not by choice but are forced to do this. This is solely because the girls are not willing to take up family responsibilities like taking care of kids and parents and sometimes even cooking. To the girl their jobs come first and then their family. They also do have the tacit support of her parents in this who thinks that if the girl looses her job she will loose independence as well.
Just ask those couples in the given article as whether the they take equal care of their parents or not. I am sure not.
Re: Completely Wrong
by Amit on Dec 12, 2011 07:05 PM
Most Indian couples are doing this not by choice but are forced to do this. This is solely because the girls are not willing to take up family responsibilities like taking care of kids and parents and sometimes even cooking. To the girl their jobs come first and then their family. They also do have the tacit support of her parents in this who thinks that if the girl looses her job she will loose independence as well.
Just ask those couples in the given article as whether the they take equal care of their parents or not. I am sure not.
D. Goel pkl. afternoon 3.40pm.Monday, 3.50pm december 12, 2011. The problems of young It and other high Icome couplesstarting their lives in industrial hubs like Pune , Bangaleru or Mumbai away from their nativity in Muffassil towns ndbackward states do get into very paradoxes. They cannot suffer nagging eldersin their high -profile lives, andyet they cannot manage their household andhardly could dreamof havingKidsasin metropolitn areas theAyas andnanies arevery demanding andnotvery compassionate.But to ask unpaid Grand-parents do theunpaid naqnnies or Valet service also imposes very serious handicaps. ,.Unlessour metropolitancreches ,and nurseries do become efficient and compassionate , theire ishardly anysolution, in sight. D. Goel
THEY WANT TO STAY WITH JOINT FAMILY SO THEY CAN HAVE THEIR HOME WORK CAN BE DONE BY JOINT FAMILY MEMBERS LIKE WASHING,IRON,FOOD,B/F,DINNER TAKE CARE OF THEIR NEW BORN ETC. TRUE OR FALSE IT IS REAL I HAVE SEEN MANY JOINT FAMILY. MANOVER M M NAVI MUMBAI
We indians are fortunate indeed with a rich and invaluable heritage,laid down to us from generation to generation.Only our younger generation get carried away with wrong priorities in life.There is no greater guru than the father and no greater temple than the mother -'iha loke matru bhaktyah'-with due devotion to the mother no attainments in life is impossible.The two faiths are good enough to carry an individual to the peak.As it is said 'piteva putram anubhati sarvam'-the child imbibes the quality of the parents-in a joint family, the scope gets enlarged to observing the grand parents too!I wish our youner generation take it upon themselves to strengthen the roots of our upbringing and sow the seeds of an ethical, stronger generation ahead, and alongside invest in recapturing our treasurehouse of culture and heritage.Western science and technology can permeate through the coming generations but our own culture and morals need to be strong to insulate ourselves from external influences. c.s.krishnamurti
Re: the predicament of indian couples
by Kiran on Dec 12, 2011 06:45 PM
We took good care of our parents until theri death inspite of them being stubborn all through their life. In the process we crossed 40s and we had to forgo our marriages. So much for the treasurehouse taht our culture and heritage is.
Re: Re: the predicament of indian couples
by Kiran on Dec 12, 2011 06:46 PM
A lot of relatives also gave advice on these lines but they never came to give us a helping hand. Again so much for the treasure trove. Itsbetter to leave it to the person to decide what best suits him rather than give advice for everyone.
Most of us keep running for earning money, as we think that is going to help for our children. You might have millions as bank balance, but without knowing the value of money, our children can't use it properly. When the child grow without love and affection, they don't understand the human value like happiness or sorrow. What happens, they get some bad friends and becoming adict for drugs or liquor very easily. Grand parents know the value of the child and they down to earth to make them happy with pure love. Also many children don't know the value of relationship, since most of the living with TV and support of house maids. But if they're in joint family, this wouldn't be a problem. They are adjustable to the environment or society. However normally many of us don't prefer just for the few months attraction with spouse after nwely marriage (90 days). Can't say, there is complexity attached in modern joint family. Each children earn differently, one may earn in lakhs and other may earn in thousands. Higher earning guy/girl don't show interest to live for ordinary life, also (s)he is not ready to spend for his brother/sister. Even they allow, their spouse never allow to do so. However most us wants joint family without compromising their personal freedom, just to grow their children and for free house maid. Very selfish life! Simple truth, when your bank balance increase your problem also increases.
