guys, what is that Rediff is trying to promote? Why can't Rediff publish articles like "How to make life happier with forgiveness" or "How to build trust with your partner" or "How to make more romantic and soul-fulfilling relation". Why do we need to get the negative side of the coin? Agreed that some couples have to go through this painful process, but the others can be spared ... right? think about it. Publish more positive things like "how to stabilize a cracking relationship" "How to regain confidence with your partner" ... those are useful to bigger audience.
Re: what is that you are promoting?
by Bless you on Sep 28, 2009 12:05 PM
with this article Rediff is alo highlighting how difficult, time consuming and requreiemnt of non-flimsy basis ( non-compatiablity etc ) to get divoerce. It indirecetly try to force re-concialaition ,adjsutments, seeing from other view point and sacrifices--which is reqru in any marriage to be succesufl
Re: what is that you are promoting?
by Ajay Kamath on Sep 28, 2009 11:29 AM
Come on, act mature Mr Murali, its just an article for knowledge, rights and duties. Articles mentioned by you are also published here. Be strong and be practical, in life one needs to be prepared for the negative side too. This article is just imparting knowledge, giving information. No need to create hue and cry about it. just relax, dont over react
Re: what is that you are promoting?
by parry bu on Sep 28, 2009 11:15 AM
Murali,
Agree with u to certain extent, but I blv that these things are also something which every1 should knw...
Our law has so many permutations / conmbinations / condition, putting them in a 1 pg summary is helpful to good extent.. Helps us understand a lot abt the law governing our lives..
Besides rediff does publish the ve articles as well.. This I think is a welcome change
Re: Re: what is that you are promoting?
by MuraliKrishna Vemuri on Sep 28, 2009 11:28 AM
Hi, I agree to your point that we being aware of the laws that govern us. But, how about learning more about tax laws, or how to build your own organization, etc. rather than learn "how to break your relation as per law" ? Statistically, in India divorce rate is about 1% or may be little less. My idea is spare 99% population for the sake of 1% or so. In fact, the kind of titles I suggested, you can bring down the 1% to less than that and make it even happier place. I know at least 3 couples who went through the painful process of divorce and eventually they could not convince themselves that they have a real reason for divorce, and two of them committed suicide (male in one couple and female in another couple). All this could have been avoided, if only they were taught things like " how to make a successful relationship" , " how to bridge the communication gap" etc ... Lastly, the few unfortunate of the population (I say they are unfortunate not because they are divorcing, but because of the pain involved in it)no matter how many of these articles you read, you will end up at a divorce lawyer. why learn these things ? Coming to Rediff publishing good articles, in almost all of those articles, you can find my appropriate commendation.
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by Rebin Sunny on Sep 29, 2009 08:16 AM
Murali,, there are times when a divorce is a better bet than trying to hold on to a battered marriage. Everyone agrees the alliance is holy and pure, but what if the couple is happier to seperate than to live together? it is then for the good of both families that they seperate.Divorce is truly a painful process. But even more painful is living together with someone u cant love or relate to. You say your friends' tragedy sould have been avoided if they were taught things to make their marriage successful. I believe, after their troubles started, everyone they met would have given them advice on successful marriages!!even our courts give counsellors for the same. Getting a divorce sure aint easy anywhere.
Re: Re: Re: what is that you are promoting?
by Ajay Kamath on Sep 28, 2009 11:31 AM
Come on, act mature Mr Murali, its just an article for knowledge, rights and duties. Articles mentioned by you are also published here. Be strong and be practical, in life one needs to be prepared for the negative side too. This article is just imparting knowledge, giving information. No need to create hue and cry about it. just relax, dont over react
Re: Re: Re: Re: what is that you are promoting?
by MuraliKrishna Vemuri on Sep 28, 2009 11:33 AM
I think you should know that there are many more things to learn than "how to break your relationship". that is the essence of my comments. you don't like it, thats fine with me. have a great day
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by Ajay Kamath on Sep 28, 2009 11:41 AM
I guess you have got it all wrong. With due respects, this article, just like any other information, is an information. Today if suppose i am married, and leading a troubled married life and i dont know how to go about it, this article makes me aware of my rights which i may not be even aware of! for eg 6 month or 1 year separation after first motion petition, things are unheard off. Mutual consent divorce for me , was like filing a petition, both of them dont have a problem , still divorce is not granted. Law gives another chance! So this information forms knowledge, however good or bad it is. This article, who ever has written communicates in a very lucid way. I guess all of us should be aware of everthing happening around, however good or bad, cant be biased that this is not happening with me or may not happen with me at all. It would be foolish to claim, that why shd we read this when only 1 % is suffering. Not done! Have a heart for atleast those unfortunate people and dont make such lose statements ,that may hurt our affected readers
