Sufferung a break up since 6 odd months. I am an MBA student in 2nd year , this curse has collided right at the time of my placements and I am not getting placed either, mind you I m in a top 10 B school (watever). The fact is I am suffering a death everyday, she has dumped me citing family reasons , so why not she realised it before loving me. I m criticising her,I love her so much but putting a point here. She does not pick my calls and does not talk to me properly. I am broken a big time, I wana live for my parents and probably would never trust a girl, had given my heart and soul , I loved her mor ethen anything in my life ... but today , she is not interested in me.. everyday , i miss her , everyday i miss her :( ....
Re: am losing everything ...
by Truth again on Feb 11, 2009 08:58 PM
Come on man, you deserve better than that girl. She is a looser not you. She will realize it in future. Just pick yourself forget everything and get on your life for your parents.
Might be she was doing TP with you and she will realize her mistake when some one will do a TP with her.
There are plenty of girls there who are sincear and are honest. My best advice, you dump your feeling for that looser, go on with your life, get a nice job and marry a girl with whom you and your parents are comfertable with.
Remember your parents must gone a lot of suffering in getting you to a point where you are, so now its your turn. DOnt make them suffer becuase of that looser girl but make them proud with your achievements.
Re: am losing everything ...
by Brown Girl on Feb 11, 2009 08:59 PM
Hey..thts sad...i wud give up 10 affairs to get a career like yours....chill out dude...enjoy life....there's just one life... enjoy it-or don't, is all in your hands....try going out with frds more often....believe me, she's going to be out of your mind in few years max, in a way that u'll wonder why did you ever love her in the first place......all i'll say is-just chill, and have as much fun as you can, while you can, till you can...and study hard-its a tough competitive world..where no one understands why you underperformed..a failure is a failure- even if it is out of remorse of losing someone.....come out in bright colors...u'll have all the girls in the world-offering love to you in bright, shining plates- enjoii
Re: am losing everything ...
by Crazy Guy on Feb 12, 2009 02:47 AM
I hear people suffering less than 2 years writing these stories etc. and no one above 4 or 5years of love failure expressing his anguish over here I guess i am the one who is experienced in here i guess .. lol just kidding. 4 years ago I was in the same situation , My Girl said "no" despite trying out SRK way of following her May be I was obsessive about her , I was down for 2 Full years remembering her daily and many times end up crying all alone in night and when some emotional scene plays in movie etc., Now I am going on with new freinds and new stuff, like I play online Games alot and work more than required kept myself busy , That has made me think about my GF less, the frequency became less, now I remember her only like once in a week and remaining time I am happy. I Needed to do this cos my Parents love me and I cant dissapoint them so I had to manage to search for an altenative and make myself happy , so that my parents looking at me are happy!!!
so you need to keep yourself busy in things you like. thats the message I can give as I personally experienced it.
People who are reading this out curiosity I warn you If you go behind a girl pursue her ... but dont give a damn if she rejects you.. look out for new girl or new interest trust me it works out pretty well, But takes time though to forget her and past, and you need to put in that little effort to forget her.
Cheers guys Today Never comes again so have a blast.
Re: am losing everything ...
by Pavneet Bajaj on Feb 12, 2009 09:35 AM
Dude... I have been through a somewhat similar situation. My advice to you - its time to move on... By doing this to your self, you are just destroying yourself.. she just wont be bothered about whats happening to you. There is a life ahead... Just remember one thing - "EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR GOOD"... Cheers!!
Re: am losing everything ...
by siddhashant talgaonkar on Feb 14, 2009 07:17 AM | Hide message
hi dude i guess i should share something with you all i nearly lost my life with the same situation u r in u know what condition i am in docs say i need spine surgery my whle career could have been finished i work for tata and losing my job was inevitable dont know how i survived but look dude u need to just concentrate on your life seldom we meet and lose people in our life last 3 years i have lived like dev-d but now i am surviving still i want to help all of you people there with such situation i know its worse but REMEMBER TOUGH TIMES DONT LAST TOUGH PEOPLE DO PLZ CONTACT ME ON sidmclaren@yahoo.co.in maybe i can help
Re: am losing everything ...
by Vikrant Kanwal on Feb 14, 2009 10:45 AM
hey don't lose everything dude, if you lose gold because u deserve diamond in life, i know its too painful, but life has to go on, so chill yaar! u'll get a more gud looking and supporting girl to you. best of luck for your life and career!
Re: am losing everything ...
by Neo on Feb 16, 2009 04:42 PM
you are wasting your time... girls do this all the time man... 2 years down the road, you will curse yourself for the dumb things you are doing right now... been there, done it... so am telling you with exp...
You must all listen to that song by Shamshaad Begum and Lata. "Ham bi dekenge". Love is great . But it can cause pain. But we need to learn to handle it( that is my addition). These days heart break comes from many situations. Love, Job , Children. Westerners have lot of experience handling all this right from child hood starting with parent's divorce.With affluence heart breaks come very easily. When you are poor you wipe off all this because you are struggling to make a living.
in today's time if someone is lyk dev d or devdas or wateva....the person is relegated to the loser category....!!! its just an exercise of scornfully saddled sarcasm of sum ppl who themselves go thru such phases in their lives sometime or the other ........
As far as i am concerned then yes..i have this girl in my life who is so pure, so innocent and so perfect tht there cannot be annything wrong in her.. I always knew i never deserved someone like her becoz of her innate goodness... she considers me a good friend of herss...i kinda conveyed my feelings to her and she reciprocated just the way i knew she wud...n the answer was an indirect but clear NO... but it doesnt matter....afterall, there wasnt a condition tht the feelings had to be mutual...i never had any expectations or intentions..but the fact remains tht she changed my life..i hav rediscovered myself, i have regained by confidence, i have a path to follow now...she is my driving force, she is my positivity, she is everything gud tht happens to me in lyf....so wht is she doesnt knw anything abt this..and i dont intend to reveal any of the feelings... So, there isnt any point in being Dev D...after all, if ur gettin negativity from any relationship, it cant be love.. so wht if ur not as important to the other person as they r to u? if u gain positivity from someone, there is no room for anything else. so i just take her as a motivation n go abt my lyf...no matter wht she will always be a special part of my life!!
Re: not necessary tht the feelings r mutual...!!!
by Calspadeaspade on Feb 11, 2009 06:58 PM
Thanks for sharing. I hail your maturity and mental strength and also your vulnerability. Good luck for finding a person who will reciprocate your feelings.
Re: Re: not necessary tht the feelings r mutual...!!!
by geet kandya on Feb 11, 2009 07:27 PM
its not abt reciprocation...... i dont need anyone else n i need everyone also......its a very gud phase which i am goin thru....which is very strange coz normally ppl lose their self identity after such situations.... n i hav found one....so, y wud i betray my source of energy....lol...seriously, she's everything to me... it doesnt really matter if she reciprocated or not... probably there mite be something lacking in me.....but becoz of her only i am on the path of finding tht and eliminating all the negativity... !!
It's not in your hands... its all written somewhere out of your reach. Well... yes I am going through such a phase... arnd 7 months now. I even ended up loosing my job there...Nothing excites me now... I die a new death every night. Hardly a moment in the day I can throw her out of my thoughts...
But yes, I decided not to follow the devdas path... rather I quitted drinking, smoking and god only knows how many more things. I got a much better abt job 2 months later... n I am doing well here.
However, dont know how to come out of the pain... and the suffering... its just not in my hands....
Re: You just cant help it!
by Abhay Joshi on Feb 11, 2009 04:39 PM
I am continuing this here again as in my previous post the char limit got over.
Once you open your eyes u will see the dif. You will see that when you went back in time from the situation of pain due to ur GF to the point of time where there was no such pain, u will realise that U were enjoying life and even your GF is not indispensible. Basically our brain knows that our GF is not indispensible and we can enjoy life without her too with some better girl. Its just that our heart does not listen to our brain during such times. Once ur heart knows that all was well in past, you will come out of your grief much early. If required do this exercise morning and evening each day.
And remember, no body is bad, its the TIME which is bad. Destiny rules, U were correct in that. Butt here are way which we dont know, I found this way accidently and IT WORKS.
Re: Re: You just cant help it!
by amit on Feb 11, 2009 04:48 PM
Abhay, I ve been doing so many of such things... Ive changed as a man... I meditate every morning... I started serious fitness activities... I try to keep myself busy in my job as much as I can... but even then... its something which is just not leaving me... harder I try, stronger it becomes. I am helpless!!!
Re: Re: Re: You just cant help it!
by Abhay Joshi on Feb 11, 2009 04:52 PM
Both the hopes are different. One is hope of reunite...which will kill u. Other hopes is for finding a better soulmate, thats what u should indeed hope for. And never go in for a girl who has ditched u once, for she can do that again.
Re: Re: Re: Re: You just cant help it!
by amit on Feb 11, 2009 04:59 PM
Well... It was a one sided love with a girl whome i knew just for 2 months... and it didnt materialize... she wasnt my gf. I have no idea at all why I fell so badly for her.
And it's the hope of finding the same girl again someday... which keeps me moving... Its the reason why im alive.. cant leave taht friend.
Re: Re: Re: You just cant help it!
by Abhay Joshi on Feb 11, 2009 04:55 PM
Try out my method and then say that u are not able to come out of this. man I came out of divorce pain due to this, u can imagine the pain.
Rediff has messed wit the sequence of my method....I hope every body can understand the sequence of 2 posts which are here.
Re: Re: Re: Re: You just cant help it!
by amit on Feb 11, 2009 05:02 PM
Well Abhay, I will definitely try your message... I just cant afford not to try that. By the thanks a lot for the advice. And I got the sequence right. Thanks again.
Re: You just cant help it!
by Abhay Joshi on Feb 11, 2009 04:46 PM
But be sure do not meet here ever and do not keep any hopes. Its the HOPE of reunite which keeps you in limbo. And dont tocuh daru and all, it sucks.
Re: You just cant help it!
by Calspadeaspade on Feb 11, 2009 07:03 PM
Good for you. I applaud your determination. May be this was ment to be a turning point in your life for some think better. You came out as a winner in this trouble. As foryour pain, time is the best healer. Keep yourself active with other interests. Good luck to you.
Re: You just cant help it!
by Abhay Joshi on Feb 11, 2009 04:34 PM
Listen, I have one way to come out faster out of depression for such cases. Its just like a medicine or a drug which shows its effect for some time but then depression may come again. But using this method multiple times can help u get rid of all pain for ever.
Do this... Find a place where no one will disturb you, this will work best in night time on your bed in your room. 1) Sit or lay down in a relaxed position and CLOSE YOUR EYES. Think current situation of yours which is so bad. 2) Go some time back and think of a scene which was with ur GF and try to feel pain of joy which u exp during that specific scene time. Since u got a breakup that last scene with ur GF will be a painful one, but be sure to experience it once again. 2) Still go some time back, and exp the time (you can choose any scene or moment in cronological order). This scene may be of joy which u both enjoyed. Enjoy that fully. 3) Stll go back and think of a scene, good or bad...but be sure it fits in the time. The main point here is to slowly go back in time by thinking happenings in your life w.r.t ur GF and exp pain or joy. 3) again repeat the same thing till u get to the point where you first met her amd there was not much love in ur heart for her. 4) No again go back in time when u didnt even knew her.
In all above process be sure to experience joy or pain. Once you have come to the time during which u didnt knew her at all, directly focus on present situation and open your eyes.
Re: Re: You just cant help it!
by mirza inayath baig on Feb 11, 2009 05:32 PM
Mr Abhay, Wat if it yr wife nd you cant do certain things which others do nd try to do in yr presence.I hope u understand what i mean,i cant be specfic.....
I am going through the worst part of my life. the part which i had not even dreamt of. I have become a physciatric patient & have multiple problems like high Blood pressure lack of sleep Heart ailment just because of some one very close to me ditched me. i can come out of it but i am treating all this as a gift of my love. so why should i even try to come out of it. when it was meant to happen. those who have ever loved anyone truly deeply and madly will never come out of it.
Re: How Can any one forget his or her love
by Bharatiyam on Feb 11, 2009 07:42 PM
Dont base your life too much on someone else. Learn to love yourself more than others.
And pls remeber, only parents will want your real good. others will just repsond to how to make them feel
Re: How Can any one forget his or her love
by observer on Feb 11, 2009 07:44 PM
ur wrong!!!!!! all good things in life must come an end nothing is forever all have an expiry date so why brood and kill yourself over something that was not meant to be She may have been GOOD but there's always someone BETTER waiting for u so cheer up life is a BIACTCH!!!!!!
