What love are you talking about? Marriage is just adjustment. They bang away to glory for the first few weeks and then later they get tired coz humans are not monogamous but polygamous by nature, they want variety!!!
Re: Re: What love?
by Nitin Nandeshwar on Apr 24, 2009 02:11 PM
WELL SAID...IT IS THE BEST FORM OF SLAVERY INVENTED BY SOCIETY IN WHICH THE PERSON GOES IN HAPPILY...
All these breakups and insecurities in India is because we blindly follow western culture without reaping their good values. And this call center culture, full of i=dio=ts are ruining the institution of love and marriage. Girls n boys coming from tier 2 cities having no parental control are easily charmed by the vices of the west and feel cool in showing off. These idio=ts who are mostly good for nothing end up misguided and a plague on our society.
Re: young monds with no values
by AMIT ROY on Apr 24, 2009 01:00 PM
Unfortunately, it seems that my friend "Server CG" doesnt understand that these so called "idiots" are lured into blindly following western culture by WHOM!! And if the westerners so well understand the benefits to be reaped after marraige then why their rate of divorce is so very shockingly high!!
Re: Re: young monds with no values
by huzefah husain on Apr 24, 2009 01:17 PM
hey I would like to know "whom"!!
The westerners dnt understd the value of marraige and thats the reason y they just "BREAK UP" easily... they dnt believe in Commitment and Promises and Oaths! also that fact is rubbing in the Indian Counterparts... thats what Server SG wants to say..n I agree!! He just picked Call centre guys coz they are reflected as the face of Idia today...
Re: young monds with no values
by Guest on Apr 24, 2009 01:10 PM
The westerners have left a deep impact on r minds..its true that most people copy them blindly instead of picking up the good thngs only from their culture. However its irrelevant and faque 2 talk of tier1 or tier2 cities. Cos behaviour depends on the surrounding which if is common for 2 people then place of birth n domicile etc. doesnt matters. Sketching such boundaries between tier 1/2/3 bla bla cities is in itself a plagued and partial thinking frame left by westerners and readily picked up by the week people....and v need 2 grow up of all this shit if v really wanna brave the foreigners with r strong culture n values
Re: Re: young monds with no values
by Server CG on Apr 24, 2009 02:27 PM
Just so you know i hold no prejudice, i too am from a tier 2 city, so i see things and can compare them clearly. The westerners have indeed left an impact, though their work culture, dedication and corruption free everyday life. But i dont derive inspiration from their social lives. We do the opposite in India. We ignore their good values and follow all the evil, probably bcoz its easy to implement and adds a bit of glamour. I believe no westener should lecture Indians about love and relationships, but we can learn a lot from how they DON'T hero worship their politicians and take care of their country, which unfortunately we have forgotten.
Re: young monds with no values
by Guest on Apr 24, 2009 01:03 PM
you are absolutely right in your analysis particularly, the absence of 'parental control'. I would like to add that a lot of pre-marital coaching, counseling and training are required in India today.
In India people see marriage as a life long commitment as compared to western countries where people think about marriage after they have kids. This article doesn't apply to Indians, as they consider marriage as an institution.
It is staying together which is a huge problem. Why? Loving couples make a huge mistake in staying together or getting married because they want to take their relationship forward.
However, after initial two years, the wife has complete control, which any man hates.
The existing freedom that a man enjoys be it the schedule of laundry, cooking (choices galore), cleaning, bills, etc takes a beating
One thing that a woman hates is seeing a man do nothing, while its a fav activity with men. We adjust our schedules to see to it that we enjoy our nothing time. But its a complete no-no with women.
Friends are slowly phased out. You just cant go down with your colony friends nor any other friends for your weekend booze.
Men cant stay with one woman for long. If there is love, the max a man WANTS to stay with a women is 4-5 years. Then he wants to stray. Its just nature, nothing wrong or right.
Staying together with people reduces tolerance and love and therefore people head straight to the bar first, before returning home
Kids! Forget any time after kids come in! You can forget about your dreams and living for yourself.
Marriage and staying together is stoopid. Enjoy bachelorhood, enjoy freedom and stay single.
Before marriage everything is pomp and show. After the marriage the reality (whatsoever) surfaces and that diminshes the attachment, love and affection.
The studies are simply stupid and done by stupid people..The thing is when people fell in love they do so due to one or two immediate attractions like outer appearance or physical attraction...and they simply ignore all other things or they give too much focus on what they have been attracted to...and in love people tend to pamper the partner because they dont want to lose the other one..thirdly love is some times nothing but a sort of lust or a lounging for sex...that sexual attarction people term as love which actually not a love..ONCE married people start living with each other and they came to know the other aspects or characteristics of each other closely..when their lust is fulfilled people tend to lose interest and gradually they feel un attractive for each other (particularly men)..once married people become possessive and this causes resentment..after marriage a kind of belonging creeps in which was not there b4 marriage..b4 marriage they were fearful that they may lose and it makes them pamper each other but once married that feeling wipes out and now they feel safe which results in not caring each other as earlier..and the most important thing when people starts living with each other now they need to take responsiblty of each other which was not there when thy were in love..they were not responsible for each others need(food,shelter,cloth etc etc).now things will not be same its a fact and those who demand the same kind of treatment
Re: Love is eternal
by krishna tripathi on Apr 24, 2009 12:20 PM
fine but i dont agree that "particularly men" change after marriage. its the other way round. women change because now she finds that the husband gives time to mother, father, sister also. she becomes over-possessive and goes hysteric. due to this the husband loses interest in her. love was never there. after marriage the false illlusions of the wife usually shatters coz she cant tolerate the husband sharing time with other members of the family...
