Re: Ego of Girls is the major problem
by mindurstuff on Apr 24, 2009 11:40 AM
Same is the problem with US guys. Y do we also have to marry a girl. Leave alone without marriage. Isn't it? Problem is, after few years, we both miss the companionship and that exactly y people marry. But if,even man takes away all his ego, life is great. And according to research, Men had more and more ego compared to female. Truth is nobody can leave without eachother if there is only and only love between the two. Simple :)
Re: Re: Ego of Girls is the major problem
by krishna tripathi on Apr 24, 2009 11:56 AM
which research says men have more ego?? it is utterly false. all the research says men are more emotional than women...and women are more selfish.
Any thing under the sun had good and bad qualities. Same applies to men/women. If company ABC wants to acquire company XYZ, it cannot say that it will take only the assets of the company. It has to take the liabilities as well. It has to acquire the company in totality. TV is good if you watch National Geographic and Discovery India but bad if you watch too much of movies channel and adults channel. The point to make here is that if you dwell too much on your spouse’s bad qualities your marriage will be unsuccessful but if you spend too much time admiring your spouses good qualities, your marriage will be successful. And never forget, God is always watching. If you are patient and tolerant enough, God blesses this wonderful/divine union.
Re: divine union
by Ranjan Sen on Apr 24, 2009 11:43 AM
my wife beat me up yesterday for drinking too much - but she loves me & I love her too... awaiting comments from readers - please ... :(
Re: Re: divine union
by Pochayya on Apr 24, 2009 11:52 AM
Marriage is nothing but compromising ones own freedom to live by their habits, character, principles, dreams, fantasies etc.. This is the hidden fact that many couples fail to realise. And so is the frustration and loss of affection which sometimes leads to breakups
Re: divine union
by mayurapriyan sivaraman on Apr 24, 2009 11:30 AM
i could mute the tv whenever i like or change it when there is a better one available. company ABC & XYZ can get into an agreement and break it whenever it is not profitable. Life is different. dont give insane examples. If you wife is damn beautiful (good qualities) and character or attitude is very bad (bad qualities) you cannot live only by enjoying her beauty. Life is bigger than that.
Re: Re: divine union
by Pochayya on Apr 24, 2009 11:40 AM
When ABC and XYZ can break when not profitable, the husband can file divorce or breakup based on bad qualities (..of course, after enjoying her beauty)
Wife says: Dear Dont you think that with little common sense a lot of divorces can be avoided... Husband replies : Why not dear, a little common sense can also avoid marriages in the first place.
What a world we live in now. Instead of injecting more patience and tolerance in relationships we now have articles to analyse our love lifes and how to break them up. Anyways I think they are valid since most of the relationships are now woven around a better man/woman rather than someone we find solace with. Our aspirations and space is more important than anyone elses now. Good going world !!!
this is true for western marriages which are based on false premise of love. indian arranged marriages are best because love actually increases after marriage.
I have often noticed that the reasons for splits or less love after marriage is not because of problems between the boy and girl, it is largely due to the dominant mother-in -law and Sister-in-law.They expect the girl to live her life not as per the plan the boy and girl have but as per her wishes.The boy is pressurised and he does not know whom to side on one end is his mom and the other is his wife...this makes the girl feel alienated in his home and she feels his love has lessened and problems arise.The mom-in-laws should understand that as they have been brough up in a different way from their home so is teh daughter in law...so both have to live their lives and the boys must have the guts to stand up for what is right and what is just.
Re: Re: In Laws
by Commenter on Apr 24, 2009 12:28 PM
No this is the case of my harassed friend.But you tell me, if your wife leaves behind her entire family to live with you the rest of her life, is she wrong that you do the same ?Is she wrong to expect the same love and time that she gives you?I dont think so.I feel live independantly and look after both sides parents and maintain a healthy relationship that lasts...
Re: Re: Re: In Laws
by amit kumar on Apr 24, 2009 03:53 PM
yeah its absolutely wrong. how can u leave ur parents .. if u that interested in helping her parents find some other way .. like all of u can stay together. but there is not point in leaving your parents for ur wife.. i would rather like to go for divorce than leaving my parents.
Re: In Laws
by PradeepKumar Kondabattini on Apr 24, 2009 11:54 AM
There should me more care towards the wife as she is the one new in the family and build relationship as time passes. Whole family should spend time together and share their views openly.
Re: In Laws
by krishna tripathi on Apr 24, 2009 12:25 PM
the problem is actually started by the girls' parents. they wish that the guy should separate from the family, abandon his sick old mother, even dying of desease. the girl says that all the money of the boy belongs only to her. this is the root of all the problems. the "commenter" is of the opposite view coz he has bad parents who "pressurise" him to live according to them. in all other cases the wife creates the problem..
If one goes through the rituals of marriage,in Bharatiya way,one could understand what is meant by wedlock.God created man and woman as two different identities.The harmones produced by each are different.So the functions of each must be different.If man behaves as he should and woman behaves as she should,(as per their respective functions)things can be much smoother and love can last.
