This is agood article.Similar situation like Ashok & Rekha.My husband's neice was in similar situation when her father was ill ( he expired last year)and she is the only daughter and lost her mother at a very tender age.My husband & myself explained her ,councilling was done to the couples. My husband took the entire responsibility of his brother along with her .He left his business and spend most of the time with him.Thus her marriage is saved.Now she is happy with son & husband.
Too much expectations which are unrealistic, life has pressure, people may start something but things change, Girls want too much, behave they want, talk the way they want, it is too much now a days, X-Factor, compatibility, understand me, humor are mantras of today, bring money, do everything, How ? ;western world is all about productivity and output, everyone is tool, you don't perform, other person will move on. Indians are very selfish, chalta hai, all are on their own, so whosoever can survive they will, i saw some marriages in older generation working, these days best thing is pay and get the job done, Don't get headache, it is not easy to meet expectations of other person in zero tolerance zone, pay and get services, just like western world. Be professional. Has anybody seen what kind of matrimonial ads girls give , they make Rs 5000 and they write only IIT/IIMs/Top US schools like MIT, stanford, harvard should apply, than that boy has to do everything as per their choice. Come give me a break, Marriage is already failed institute like everything else in India. Culture, well that is debatable, India has no culture. 112 crores people in a small area, where all are fighting for themselves.
Re: Problem is unrealistic expectations
by com on Apr 18, 2009 06:16 PM
I don't think girls who make 5000 are asking for IIT/IIM/Top US schools. Indeed if that is the case, then they are definitely digging their graves. Even if the girl makes more money, she should not advertise for such a guy. If any boy/girl wants to be happy, they should not participate in a farce called 'arranged' marriage. Such girls should realise that if they go behind the guy's degree/looks, then they will get the same kind of guys. Guys who want to their wife as a status symbol and not someone whom they love. I am sincerely telling you Sharma, if you want a loving wife then set any expectations. Don't go for the matrimonial site. Please marry someone you know and respect. I am sure if there are girls like what you are saying, there will be girls who have a sense of self respect, love and affection. Please marry such a girl irrespective of what she is. Don't go for looks.
Re: Problem is unrealistic expectations
by Tamil Indian on Apr 18, 2009 01:52 AM
A recent study has found that people who are always complaining about others or criticize or find fault in others dont live long... I'm not suggesting anything just a food for thought.
Re: Missed one thing!
by Sameer Bhagwat on Apr 17, 2009 11:35 PM
hahahaha 100% correct.. but kya kare, kundlis also are changed nowadays!!! sab kuch saale log jhoot kehte hain..
