One is to find first his owns place in the relationship. So long respect and dutifulness remains, relationship is maintained. It is an art to be learnt.
u say the guy liked the fast phased Delhi gals n he changed accordingly, but not the lady, if she too changes then it troubles the Guy only. Because beware Delhi guys are also fast ;)
Re: TV IS THE BIG MONSTER
by Jasmine on Apr 13, 2009 12:46 PM
today selfishness is increasing. at the moment one finds out that he / she can get something better he/she moves out of this..todays modern and westren culture preaches all these things..it also preaches zerotolerance for the things. it is basically a consumerism culture, in which no one can see themselves lacking behind even for the small things and wants top class things in every matters.i think india will slowly become like west where marrige n divorce has become just a child play, and LUST is ruling over the life of the peoples
Distance grows as the relationship grows older because the couple starts accumulating a past that has too many noises in it. In the early stages of a relationship the affection for each other is based on very little expectations and every moment is looked upon as a possibility for sharing that affection.
If one can (Both Male and female) create the possibility of being present in the moment, without letting a single moment from the past create a noise in your head (Yes, its possible), you will be surprised at the results.
Re: I have a much better theory
by Sanjay Chawala on Apr 11, 2009 06:01 AM
Well, but it's important to learn about your partner from past too. Otherwise, there is a possibility of you getting hurt again and again.
Re: I have a much better theory
by ravi dude on Apr 15, 2009 10:37 PM
I liked what you said about "being present in the moment" which is the gist of yoga. Most of us either live in the past or future. Very rarely we see someone living the present and there by postponing happiness.
Re: I have a much better theory
by Kanwar Arora on Apr 13, 2009 02:25 AM
"because the couple starts accumulating a past"........very good sentence khaitan sahib!!
Re: chee
by neena kaushik on Apr 10, 2009 01:19 AM
it is not about who is at fault? it is about why the relationships didn't work!! and how to make them work!!
Re: Re: chee
by PAPAPIPI on Apr 10, 2009 09:03 AM
You are right.Most Brahmin girls dont like to live life long eating only curd rice and Vada sambhar in South India.Most of the south Indian Brahmin girls who left for western countries have dumped these brahmin boys for rich Jewish or Irish boys.
Re: Re: Re: chee
by vinay gouri on Apr 10, 2009 09:33 AM
please do not generalise things..a true Brahmin believes and understands that Stree Shakti is mula and it has to co-exist like ArdhaNaarishvara.
Re: Re: Re: Re: chee
by satish sherma on Apr 10, 2009 10:10 AM
that is what i was saying. there are no brahmins inthis country. they became extinct about 800 years back like kshatriyas & vaishyas. we all are shudras, the dasas to whoever gives us bread & some time cake.
Re: chee
by manoj k on Apr 10, 2009 10:08 AM
Yes WOMAN is the cause of everything, either Good r evil. A Family will be like hell because of mother-in-law r sister-in-law r co-sister r of some other woman...
Re: chee
by Raj Reddy on Apr 09, 2009 11:28 PM
Bahenji, this does not happen always. For every "male species", there is a female species who dumped her spouse/boyfriend.
Re: chee
by Sankar Ramji on Apr 10, 2009 10:05 AM
Iam sure u r carrying some emotional baggage with you from the past. could be your ex or your father..never blame a species for the fault of one
These changes are bound to happen. But Indian society is full of excess and there is no fairness. Previously Men's family was unfair to women. So now in order to correct that it has totally the other way. One thing to adopt is for parents not to sacrifice everything for their kids. Treat kids as individuals and not as an extension of your limbs. have kids only if you can afford. Govt must put a curb on exessive feminism. People like Renuka Chowdary support atrocities from women just because it was the other way in those days. Bottom line our laws should be more fair and not lean one way or the other.
I RECENTLY had the pleasure of hearing a lecture by a very young and upcoming economist M R Venkatesh who also writes in different prestigious economic journals and websites. His lecture was on the prevailing economic crisis and its basic cause and prevention. If I strip the economical, financial and political jargon out of the speech his core reason for the crisis was the Reckless Spending my Americans and their habit of overspending and over consumption. He attributed these habits to a catastrophically broken family system in which about 80 per cent of children live with a step-father or step-mother. He later also acknowledged that the Indian economy owing to its strong family system saves about 30 per cent of its GDP and this is attributed to the savings by the “Lady of the House” who knows exactly how much rice is left and how much to get. Both the father and mother teach their kids the financials of spending at a very early age and hence Indians grow up to become “responsible spenders” and not “reckless spenders” like the Americans.
But these days the “Ladies of the House” are increasingly becoming “Ladies of the Court “ or more appropriately “Ladies of the Police station” and the Indian family system which has served us well for more than 5000 years is slowly but steadily crumbling .
Re: Divorce has been now made much more lucrative for women by In
by Jasmine on Apr 12, 2009 10:20 PM
today selfishness is increasing. at the moment one finds out that he / she can get something better he/she moves out of this..todays modern and westren culture preaches all these things..it also preaches zerotolerance for the things. it is basically a consumerism culture, in which no one can see themselves lacking behind even for the small things and wants top class things in every matters.i think india will slowly become like west where marrige n divorce has become just a child play, and LUST is ruling over the life of the peoples
They say in the west that greatest motivator for a Divorce is Alimony. The reason is the same in India too. The only reason behind the skyrocketing rate of breaking families in India is simply that in the last 5 years the motivation behind breaking a family has been made a lot more lucrative for women. It simply means that for a woman you now stand to gain a lot more by breaking a family than by staying in it. Previously families on the verge of breaking still did not break since people realized that the financial gains and benefits after breaking up were far fewer and less to even contemplate walking out of marriage. The real benefits they thought were in staying together as a cohesive unit, but that has changed in the last 5 years.
The policies that the government has implemented in the last 5 years have always been drafted by radical Feminazis who do not understand the benefits of keeping a family together. Nearly all the laws drafted basically have the same core structure.
a) Women are telling the truth, believe her always.
b) The moment a complaint is filed. Man starts paying woman.
c) Women gets tax free income on the basis of a complaint Case drags on as money changes hands.
d) Women are always to be considered the oppressed and will always be on the receiving side of the alimony scale, no matter what.
These corporate houses know very well that the primary reason for the reckless spending of the Americans is their catastrophically failed family system. The simple arithmetic is, that if a harmonious family buys one newspaper a divided family will be buying two. That’s a 100 per cent increase in newspaper circulation. Now multiply that number by a thousand or a million and you will see the increase in the number of newspapers sold. If by breaking families you will see a 100 per cent increase in revenues then why would you want newspapers to speak of family harmony and hence rarely any newspaper in India does it these days. The same is applicable to refrigerators, TV’s, houses and other day to day commodities. These industrial powerhouses spend money to promote marital disharmony, so that families break quickly. Men and women are made to believe that staying married is un-cool and they should break free since the life after a divorce is much better than life in a marriage. These industrial power houses also fund the so called women’s welfare organizations to create more laws that would help in increasing the motivation behind a divorce. These organizations in turn conduct surveys that always come up with staggering numbers, numbers like over 45 per cent of women are beaten at home and lakhs of women are burnt each year by their husbands. These numbers are just to create sensationalism, which can then justify the flow of additional funds in to these organizatio
Re: Media and Websites Encourage divorce to promote consumerism
by Hemanta Das on Apr 10, 2009 08:23 AM
U r totally right,hope to find more like this social economy issue.It's true,corporate forces encourage failed family system and many of us can't understand their theory and suffer consequences.
Re: Media and Websites Encourage divorce to promote consumerism
by SA Jaffar on Apr 16, 2009 03:41 PM
Kya bakwas hai, now work this, men and women get educated, stand as partners and then since all the education we tend to go different ways sometimes, so Is education bad. You cannot accept household items as a reason for broken relationship. You need, simple living, understanding, encouragement, compassion and most of all an emotional feel towards your partner for life. Yaar Arnab, i should appreciate your way of reasoning but it is a matter of emotions and feelings not materialistic things which reck a marriage. No wonder we have a recession because we have materialistic people.
