Even though being pregnant is a great pleasure for every woman, it becomes a trouble when it comes unplanned. so rather than wasting ur time n energy over how to dispose off the unborn, we should take enough precautions to AVOID this situation in the first place. In case it happens, we should try to solve it in a good manner(and not try to abort it urself by buying pills from the medical store). Take the help of a gud doctor, and abort it so that the woman gets least affected. And once this happens, pls take care that this is not repeated--- b'coz the human body has a limit of tolerance....... By NIKHIL
Re: Unwanted Pregnancies
by Hindustani on Oct 12, 2008 01:50 AM
There is nothing wrong in taking precaution, not to get pregnant (I mean no real conception, no fusing of ovum and sperm). But once it takes place, a baby is born, a new life. It is our babay, a bllod and flesh of our body. many a times, it is our first baby, many times may be second, third or fourth, but it is a baby, a living little, innocent baby. This is the way our parents have brought us to this world, with love, effection, expectations and aspirations. they could have never imagined of killing us/you/me.
After the fusing of the ovum and sperm, it is full fledged individual, weather it is 1 second, 1 minute, 1 hour, 1 day or 1 month old, it is a baby. It is a divine gift from Bhagvaan to us and we dont have the right to kill it and murder it.
Aborting a concieved innocent baby is cold blooded murder, killing our own baby is much worst, there is no pardon in the next 100 births for this ghora karma.
No living being, no human being can think of killing his/her own baby and carry this karma for next 100 births and suffer.
We may use many convenient words like abortion, termination and all but it is cold blooded murder of our own child.
There is no forgiveness for this, this has nothing to do with religion, it is against all laws of nature and divinity.
It is against SANATHANA/HINDU dharma definietly and I am sure no other religion will support it.
Re: Unwanted Pregnancies
by Hindustani on Oct 12, 2008 02:44 AM
Dear sweet friend Brendan, dont shout publicly so much about such nice topics, OK. I meant that I crossed teens a couple of years back but enjoyed it because our parents were not foolish and conservative and gave us freedom, though they are from well known, well respected and highly educated and live in India. We enjoyed it among our cousins and close friends, without talking about foolish commitmemnts and all such stuff. Now, it is not as exciting as in teenage, though not many but couple of years back. It is different, more mature and relaxed but never as exciting and natural as in teens. Did you get the idea, you sweet little idiot?
Get hold of a sweet Girl and enjoy rather than frustrated, come on
Re: Unwanted Pregnancies
by Hindustani on Oct 12, 2008 04:22 AM
I have assumed that you are a nice young gentleman, from your name, that is why suggested to get hold of a girl.
Re: good article
by phamitus on Oct 12, 2008 06:14 AM
good track record?? are you asleep?? pre-marital sex is rampant today in India.. almost as equal as Western countries.. but since Indians are hypocrites they'll go into denial and won't admit its happening..
Re: good article
by raveendran kumar kn on Oct 13, 2008 12:35 PM
This is what your mother has taught u to call someones wife. what happened to ur wife or ur sister
Re: good article
by Joaquim DaSilva on Oct 11, 2008 05:34 PM
A generation ago Indians were getting married in their early 20's for men and even 18-20 for women. So their biological and hormonal needs were satisfied within the institution of marriage, however with changes in demographics and advances in education, most people are still in education till they turn 22-23, and they tend to work for 2-3 years before getting married.
Please consider all other societal changes as well before blindly condemning pre-marital sex. Hormonal needs have always existed all over the world, be it India, America or Africa. Humans or animals.
Re: good article
by Ikisswonderland on Oct 12, 2008 02:54 AM
Good point, on one hand 20-30 is the age for sex, but one has to be matured and confident enough to handle the whole thing. She has to be happy with the thing and he has to be happy with the hole.
Re: good article
by RIYAZ on Oct 12, 2008 12:52 PM
Mr Silva Can you point out texts of Islam you have mentioned about my beloved prophet Mohammad (PBUH)
Re: Re: Celibacy is the best option fools
by Joaquim DaSilva on Oct 11, 2008 05:32 PM
If even at the age of 31 you are not in full control of your senses, then it is best if you don't call others fools.
Re: Celibacy is the best option fools
by Maneesh Sharma on Oct 11, 2008 11:22 PM
Condoms and pills are the best options. They are the only contraceptives not celibacy.Even if it works after the marriage as well if u dont want child.
Re: Celibacy is the best option fools
by Ikisswonderland on Oct 12, 2008 02:46 AM
Why..? in 5-6 years you'll be meter down..!?! unfortunately 20-30 years are the prime sexual urge times probably after 35 yrs, the bdy and mind energies dont match..
Re: Celibacy is the best...
by dhirendrakumar Vidyalankar on Dec 19, 2008 03:20 PM
U wrote "people can realise the pleasures one can derieve out of celibacy and stay away from sex ". May I, dkumar_101, the regular at indiatimes site can know the meaning of this word??
Re: Premarital, extramarital and outside marriage sex was not at all taboo or forbidden in SANATHANA/HINDU culture.
by Hindustani on Oct 12, 2008 02:04 AM
Dearest piri, go and enjoy with all divine spirit, god will bless you.
This is the most divinest of divine activity of our living existence. If you dont have a problem from the surroundings, society, give birth to a wonderful beutiful baby otherwise take precaution not to concieve. To be frank, you dont have to depend on condoms and pills to avoid conception but there are a lot of 100% effective natural methods explained in K a maS u#tra to avoid conception. One effective methd is also to follow the females period. But if you cannot avoid using condoms or pills use it but never go for abortion/murder of your own baby.
Divinity is entrusted us with creation and not murder of our own baby.
Re: Premarital, extramarital and outside marriage sex was not at all taboo or forbidden in SANATHANA/HINDU culture.
by piri on Oct 11, 2008 11:33 PM
You have set my pulses racing in anticipation - I do not know why !
As per Indian societal norms, it is immoral to have premerital sex relationships. Having said it, it is also a fact that there is increasing clamour for premerital sex experience among teenagers.It has to be checked through appropriate sex education, ethical living and family behaviour for excel and better future. But, why are the youngsters craving for sex experience at this tender age? Biologically,yes it is natural with harmonal change in the body. Animal acts on this biological impulse while human being control it for their better future. It is established that to excel in life, it needs to focus at one's goal.Urge for such sex deviates from this goal to all It is statistically and scientifically established that almost all the fundamental research works throughout the world performed upto the age of 30. This is the reason why discipline and self control is preached for human being upto the age of atleast 25 years. It is therefore in the interest of all youngsters to realize the rationality and need for chastity for the first quarte century of early life.Education, Sanskar, food habits, Pranayam, Yoga, meditation, reading good literature, association with enlightend persons etc may be very effective in self control for bright tomorrow. In case of accidental prewed pregnancies,your views are comprehensive and pregmatic.
Re: unwed mother
by Hindustani on Oct 11, 2008 04:20 PM
Enjoying sex does not deviate you but nakes you more happy, enjoying, satisfied and encourages you to go forward.
If you dont have sex at appropriate time/age that you become frustrated, angry, dejected or depressive. This is the reason for many destructive tendencies like lot of fighting, terrorism and such negative tendencies among youth.
Re: unwed mother
by Hindustani on Oct 11, 2008 04:27 PM
Premarital, extramarital and outside marriage sex was not at all taboo or forbidden in SANATHANA/HINDU culture. We know all our deities, gods and heroes in our epics have done it and it was a social norm.
Though we had special respect for so called ritaully married pairing, pairing before or outside marriage was quite common.
People like Pandavas and many of our revered figures and our divine figures are examples of this.
So, in the great Hindu tradition, it is nothing wrong to have a partner before, outside or after marraige and give birth. This is our tradition.
All other restrictions have come from outside and especially after Arabs invasion and Europian colonisation.
It is by restricting, controlling and not having sex at appropriate time, especially in teens that you get frustrated and develop negative tendencies and destructive tendencies/activities like terrorism and so on.
Start enjoying it as soon as you get the urge to have it in early age, when it is more enjoyable and fulfilling.
This is the law of nature and get rid of terror, diceases and mental illness by having sex in early age, as early as gilrs and boys start getting urge and attraction for each other.
Early teen age is the wonderful time to enjoy sex the maximum, later it is cold and stale, this is my expereince.
Re: unwed mother
by Hindustani on Oct 12, 2008 02:43 AM
Dear sweet friend Brendan, dont shout publicly so much about such nice topics, OK. I meant that I crossed teens a couple of years back but enjoyed it because our parents were not foolish and conservative and gave us freedom, though they are from well known, well respected and highly educated and live in India. We enjoyed it among our cousins and close friends, without talking about foolish commitmemnts and all such stuff. Now, it is not as exciting as in teenage, though not many but couple of years back. It is different, more mature and relaxed but never as exciting and natural as in teens. Did you get the idea, you sweet little idiot?
Get hold of a sweet Girl and enjoy rather than frustrated, come on
Re: unwed mother
by Joaquim DaSilva on Oct 11, 2008 04:59 PM
I personally don't see anything wrong in pre-marital sex as long as both partners realise the commitment they are making to each other and are fully aware of all the possible after-effects.
Besides there is such a major age shift with generations. A generation ago Indians were getting married in their early 20's for men and even 18-20 for women. So their biological and hormonal needs were satisfied within the institution of marriage, however with changes in demographics and advances in education, most people are still in education till they turn 22-23, and they tend to work for 2-3 years before getting married.
All these factors need to be considered as well before condemning pre-marital sex.
What are the adoption procedure in India? Nowadays, lot of person are willing to adopt orphen babies / child. but due to less awareness, It seems to be avoidable. In Ads, It is written That Every child needs parent, but no further data.From where, how, what are the legal terms and conditions etc
Re: Adoption procedure
by Block Buster on Oct 11, 2008 04:04 PM
the situation is worse than what we know. whenever any couple wants to adopt a child, it gets caught in a lengthy Paper-Work. believe me, it does not take less than 3-4 years to get this materialised.
