Hi ! I believe u'v made the point pretty clear here and i'm sure u'r right in everything u say. I myself have been brought up this very way.My parents never let me feel less than boys from the very beginning . I'v thus never ever believed in gender bias and hat's off to parents like mine who tell their girls to understand the greatest of their capabilities , leaving behind the general gender notions of our society. It's the beginning of a revolution and for the betterment for sure.
Dear Zelda, Your point of view is definetly apreciable and noteworthy. I am a father of a daughter who is just three years old. The father's relationship with his daughter is different in many aspect in comparison to the mother.Fathers tend to be overprotective about their daughter while the mother wants to underplay some of the issues. I do understand that a mother knows more when compared to a father when it is the daughter in question. Pondering thru your advises of making a daughter tough ,a mothers point of view, I have my own understanding to this subject.I believe any child male or female should be allowed to grow with their own individuality. If you force your daughter to been tough it may tend to make the person more rigid when facing problems in life,communicating with people and having relationship with the male companion. Since there exist a very thin hairline between been made tough and pampering so maintaining the balance is very difficult.What i believe as father or mother we should let them lead their life as an individual with their own views without forcing into them things. We as parents should be able to set up an example for them to look upon ...debateable
I am a career girl who had teh luxury of exploring my career so far. I have been brought up exactly the way you have mentioned and so I grew up to be a real tough woman at 25. Your article is excellent and I can relate to pretty well on the same. More so as I am going to take up additional roles like wife, a future mom apart from a career person, your article makes me see my future as a mother of a daughter or son... your points apply equally with a boy child or a girl child...
Regarding night shifts for women,I am totally against it.I,as a responsible hubby,will never let my wife work in the night shifts.And I pity on those hubbies whose wives have to work in night shifts.Its absolutely unsafe and not something I would like my wife to be doing even a single day. Come on,you must learn to say 'No' to the night shifts and long working hours.
Please do not encourage the night shifts for women,there is something called Family as well.
Zelda I have 2 sons although I was desperate to have at least one daughter and u know why? Just because I wanted to bring her up the way you have pictured her. I was brought up like that by my parents: ride the motorbike, climb up the lintel, run faster than the neighbourhood boys... and I am practically the man of the house with my husband traveling nearly 15 days a month. I think of all the tough things my parents made me do or not do which I was unhappy about then, but very very happy about now!!!
I think one can better focuss on the sanskars which a girl carries with herself not only after marriage but also in to this world out ones home. So as a parent & mother I think more emphasis should be given in teaching them the basics of our family & culture in order to make them a good & responsible citizens of our country
I think it is very true. My parents never had difference between a my brother & me and being the eldest i was taught all the skills my father wthought my brother but before him eg changing a bulb/told fix a wire drive a vehicle etc.. But most of the times parents do differentiate between a boy and a girl and thats the time the girl growing to be a woman become weak and falls into wrong hands. today my parents are very proud of me coz they know i can handle anything and go anywhere.
Hello I agree and have followed the same principle in my life bringing up my both the daughters. But somehow I in this course have recd a set back because one of my daughters who is a successful career woman has made herself indispensible in her job and has stopped listening to her mom's advise, she exhibits arrogance, negates family values has become too tough for the softer feelings . She has gone too far to listen to her mom. What went wrong?
