I think living alone in India is far better than living alone abroad.. I am currently in Nice,France...Here for a 3 month stint of education...It is not that I have not lived alone earlier...but somehow here I feel crazily like going back...I miss sharing my thoughts with someone and the holidays kill me literally...time seem to pass so slowly..I have been literally counting the days when I will be bak....And yes I have realized that India is the best!!!
Dear friends, I stay in Sweden rightnow, Living alone is important to some extent to face the real life. If you have come for higher studies abroad, u will see lot of difference from how u relied on your friends in your home college. But staying abroad alone is little different from staying alone in our home country. U should think in many ways and get prepared for any unusual things that happen in daily life. One should get prepared for everything and u need good mental balance to face and foresee the things that you takeup. So I feel with little care we can learn many things in life living alone. But sharing room is another important thing to ponder, and only descipline will help you maintain good relationships and harmony in life. So staying alone for one or two years gives you clarity in life but it is not so good to stay for long... that may totally make you over independent and lead you to loose you sentimental bent, towards your family members, who are waiting for you putting lot of hopes. But before you get married atleast one should stay alone for a year to get to know the real world problems. Grab the freedom but don't overlook our sweet parents. cheers pavan
Living alone is definately scary at the first go..But then one learns the tight rope walking.I am an International Marketing Manger and need to travel abroad frequently.Earlier I used to stay in hotels.Five star hotels are safe , howver still i used to ensure that i kept one light switched on , my mobile kept besides me, and the door locked properly.Now , I have moved to an apartment , the same rules goes on.Do not go to deserted areas and speak to strangers and let them realise that you are new to that area.Always take the help of policemen.It is not like India where Police is the main cause of fear.In the end , it all boils down to how you carry yourself.
RE:Living alone
by Deepankar Gautam on Nov 16, 2005 08:37 AM
Dear Shikha,
I understand what you mean, Being in Intl Mrktg too, i am a frequent traveller myself to Middle East and other places and i folow the same practice as you do. Its kind of uncomfirtable end of the day after the meetings, market visits etc. Some insecurity etc persists. Upsides: This has helped me understand myself much better too since i spend time with myself, comeback home, friends, family and then again a break after soem time! what say!
Living alone is always fun, makes an individual grow stronger by will and mind. Well , tats what I have experienced over the last few years of living away from parents and everybody at home. I had to live alone ,coz of my job and now am abroad as well. Probably I feel a lot left out when am aint there home when some things happen back home , but I somehow I make sure I dont miss most of them by scheduling trips to home exactly during those times. At times, I do miss certain events, but on the whole I would term living alone to be fun, and always interesting . I never imagined i had to take care of paying the bills anytime and slowly but surely the truth is dawning on me and getting me ready for the day when am supposed to be more responsible.
living alone is hell but its all about survival, the key i had for loneliness was a mobile phone...being in touch with someone who cares for you, loves you and is there for you waiting be it friends or family makes you see a goal and you somehow push on, leaving all the difficulties by the side of the lonely road
Living alone: It essentially depends on your mindset. I moved to living alone because of my career prospects and that i wanted to live alone. Living alone does not come in free of cost - a good house, foregoing certain necessities that you are used to, having to do with the house locked for 8 to 12 hrs every day, managing food, and putting up with loneliness at times and more.. are practicalities of living alone. But if you are well equipped with all necessities and manage your relations with ur friends, colleagues and neighbourhood without over indulgance, living alone can be pleasant and enjoyable. Family plays a very important role in providing one with emotional stability. Being in touch with family on a regular basis helps. The bottomline is you must WANT to live alone to enjoy living alone.
Living alone --i FEEL like a person who is trying to speak & nobody to hear him,Just Imagine if you be in a prison & have nobody to shear your feeling, words & lots of other things . It is a punishment. You atleast need two to feel the togetherness. ``If you really want to live alone go to moon.`` Sorry if i hurt anyones feeling. RKC. nimirajesh@rediffmail.com
A good subject which I have much much experience in my bachelor and now in married life. After the graduation came to BBY for a job but really suffered a lot to find a suitable job. A perfect job I could find in '75 and continued with that, living in those time a remote area of BBY viz Bassein road (now Vasai road)self cooking, cleaning clothes, utensils etc., Married in '80 and and fullstop to bachelor life, but again pushback to a bachelor life in '88 and landed in Muscat but staying with some friends, still cooking, washing etc. Again gone back to family like which couln't prolong and to Abudhabi and start with lonly life sometimes enjoying and sometimes screening the past in the mind. Still couln't find a good friend(male/female) to share with with.
Living alone has a major role to play in my life. Being born in an conservative family, I realized my potential when living alone. It brought me greater confidence and I was able to understand myself(soul searching). I would suggest youngsters to live alone and fend for themselves, so that they make get a chance to shape themselves and get what they want.
In the Indian context living alone means living away from family. A person may live away from family but may not be alone or even independent, if surrounded by friends and relatives. There is also a difference in living by one self in another city in India and abroad. Abroad you may be truly alone and have to be independent. It depends on a person how she/he feels like and copes up while being alone.
I live by myself in Delhi. I have been away from family for 4 years but have begun staying absolutely alone only a year back. Its scary because of perceptions about a single woman living alone and perceptions of Delhi as unsafe for women. Living alone can be rewarding- it teaches a person how to deal with situations independently- physically, mentally and socially.
