Mine is a case that i'm more educated than my husband and we had a love marriage...my problem is that as usual we have very different views n thoughts n when it comes to discussing something we ought to have a fight cause we dont agree to each other's views....he always forces me to agree on his views and says that he is always right...
He seem to be very rude though he was not like this before marriage...i had a fight with my own parents for him and now i'm not allowed to talk and meet my own parents after marriage....he seem to listen to his family only and what they say is right for him....his family is also less educated....I feel that i have married a completely different person n my life is going pathetic...
RE:Can anybody help!!
by vijay on Dec 01, 2006 05:28 PM
Ego issues are quite complicated. I guess the best thing is to make ur spouse feel that he is not inferior even though he is not as educated as u r.
It can happen in ur office. The guy with inferior education could never win an arguement/issue due to lack of knowledge. Hence he tries to win over by arguement...waiting for you to comment and then critisizing it.
It is the same case here. Making him feel that he is equally good could help. But this should be a slow process. Sudden change in ur attitude would make things obvious.
Can anybody help!!
by K.Viswambharan on Dec 03, 2006 09:52 PM
Hi Swetha, How old is your marriage? Are you living in joint family with in-laws or separately? Are you employed? Is your husband employed? Have you ever gone for a week long holiday along with your husband out side your town/ state? Why don't you do it? Together, you can join in Yoga classes. Take it seriously- not the asanas alone, the other aspects too. Attend meditation classes in yoga. All this will solve your problem smoothly if you work sincerely. You ask yourself if you are egoistic. Pray for removing the ego from his and your mind. That will also work for you. Best wishes.
RE:Can anybody help!!
by sachin bhatt on Jan 18, 2007 10:47 AM
Hi dear, you need to take him as a human being first, understand his ways of thinking, winning his confidence which ultimately enable you to educate him regarding the practical ways of your kinda lifestyle. Relations are to be developed gradually without fixed notions & ability to get adjusted according to the situations. All the very best for your future..!
Re: Can anybody help!!
by Rishi Agarwal on Oct 03, 2009 03:34 PM
I guess the best thing is to make ur spouse feel that he is not inferior even though he is not as educated as u rTogether, you can join in Yoga classes. you need to take him as a human being first, understand his ways of thinking, winning his confidence which ultimately enable you to educate him. Archana sapience
These are the most common problems faced by either love-married couples, arrange-married couples or even living together couples.As long as the couples are able to understand each other and the circumstances by putting themselves in each others shoes, half of the problem is solved. But if ego comes in between, then it gets complicated,till they realise that they should give it up to lead a contended life.Till then the problem persists. And everything will look like a problem only.
I am bachelor who never wants to get married. I dont know much about successful marriage, but I always think that for any relationship to work there should be a separation for some time. Even in marriage husband and wife shoud stay away for sometime to keep their relationship fresh.
The three problems listed in the article are some of the good reasons which can spoil the relation.Is these are the only or major problems?.Also the solutions put forward in the article is not acceptable! if people are matured enough in both end , no problem will arise! such people will know how to manage the problems!
RE:I find nothing new in this article!!!!
by Simon John on Dec 01, 2006 04:41 PM
I fully agree with you. I just feel these articles are put there to help people think that they have a problem and teh solution is not so good. However it is heartening to know that a whole lot of readers offer good advice and are advicing people to fight to save their marriage and not just give up and take advices from some articles
hi... i m still bachelour age 24, but i got one key about successfull marriage life out of my exp which u can define as faith, loyalty, confidence etc etc...Responsibilities love respect for each other comes automatically, but what matters most these days is loyalty. bye