We can celebrate V-day with husband/wife or boyfriend(s)/girlfriend(s) (iff you are unmarried... :)). In western countries they will change the girl friends/boy friends every year. To show them that they love too much, they will celebrate v-day. They also celebrate parents day, mom'd day and father'day, etc this is because at least once in a year they will remember about parents or be them. BUT in our indian culture we stay with Parents even after marriage but in certain condition due to Job we may have to stay in someother city but we will not forget our parents, we celebrate the major festivals with parents and relatives. We have strong culture.
The people who are reading this know how is our work and personal life. How we are managing our time to spend time with our loved ones. We can celebrate V-day as a special day to express love and affection towards husband/Wife/boyfriend/girlfriend. Again there are different ways of expressing your love may be by spending the whole day with them, taking to a new place, a trip, a picnic, a new restaurant, etc etc..
I know whatever may be we will not leave our Indian culture. It is in our genes and nerves.... :).
Re: We are not leaving our culture
by Gajanan Mohite on Feb 10, 2009 11:39 AM Permalink
Well said. The alternative is have Dandiya and Garbha for Vday. If it always comes on a Saturday or Sunday have Dandiya and Garbha. Leave VDay as an option then.
Re: SRS.........India's No.1 Matrimonial Service
by sathya on Feb 10, 2009 10:11 AM Permalink
We will provide instant divorce immediately after marriage on V day!!!
Some politicle people oppose This big love day only for politics. The Police is also at opposition side. This is an agony, some people have suffered badly because of this opposition. When everyone of us have fallen in love, at least for 1 time in our life. Then there is no reason to oppose Vday. In a nation, who is facing terrorism and recession, love should flourshed and should be given respect.
Re: Valentine Day's opposition
by pepepopo on Feb 09, 2009 04:56 PM Permalink
I am not aganist Valentine's day or any day which is celebrated peacefully,since it is a personel choice.. But in Metros the abortion cases are high after valentine's day and Navaratri "dandiya".Slowly small cities are also moving in that direction
Re: Re: Valentine Day's opposition
by kiran on Feb 12, 2009 10:20 AM Permalink
how to behave its depends on each individual there is no sense to blame on such festivals eg. v- day, NAVRATRI.it may happend at any time
V'Day is just overrated i guess. Too much of fanfare and higher selling price for roses and cakes. Thats all. The first time i celebrated V'Day was in my engineering college. A place where even the most remotely female human being is called a "babe".... How Sad....
In my earlier days, I celebrated Valentine's day with a lot of gusto. I was one of the organizer's of a private Valentine's party, at the time something almost unheard of, many years ago. However, we were all on shoestring budgets, girls and boys contributed and had an evening of fun and went home.
Today, this essentially young and fresh festival has become a competition to see who (whose parents actually) has more spending power. Greeting cards keep getting more and more expensive, love keeps getting measured in terms of 'My Valentine's Gift' is better than 'Your Valentine's Gift'.
Its interesting to note the demise of romance and the rise of mammon.
An essentially private / personal day, to acknowledge love (not just between amorous pairs, though many people do not know that) and spout love has become a display of wealth.
Its particularly interesting to note that here wealth is not a means to an end, like having a nice dinner, or going for a drive, or giving a token gift that will be seen by the loved one time and again, but rather the cool quotient of the hotel / pub, how swank the car is and is the gifted mobile phone the latest and jazziest or not?
Any views from any of the geriatrics (people above 30 years of age) out there?
Re: From Personal Feelings to a Public Circus - Development Indee
by sathya on Feb 09, 2009 03:51 PM Permalink
Supporters of Valentines day will get daughters after thier love and send their daughters for celebrating Valentine Day.
Vallentine Day celeberation is nothing but a marketing propaganda by some multi national companies who wants to generate desire in youths to buy their products which are being sold at very prices. They also encourage youths towards illegal activities like stealing mobile cars etc. as some of them are not capable enought to meet the expenses they need to incur on their GF. Real love does not need such celberations. Love exists for ever and it can be towards any body not only confined to your GF. Is there any day like orphanage day, poor people, illiterate day when we can serve the needy. If such days exists how many youth took active participation on ? On environmental day have we shownsuch keen interest? Have we sown any plant on that occassion?
Dear Friends let everbody celebrate Valentine's day and enable shops like Archies make money. Let Software Techies who are free now are elgible to celebrate.
Do you know 50% of love marriages are Failure? Do you how many divorces per day in banglore?
If some girl fall in love with you, then there is a chance that the same fall in love , if She found a better GUy. She don't have any control over her mind.
Listen to your parent. They are the only people who want to see you happy in this world.
Re: This is not our culture
by senthilnathan senthilnathan on Feb 09, 2009 08:57 AM Permalink
how do you know that your wife who had reached you thru arranged marriage did not love someone in the past. this 21 st century and i think we all should braod minded and its not always one sided . you need both you hands to clap...so dont be narrow minded to weigh girls so cheap
Re: Re: This is not our culture
by deepak on Feb 09, 2009 02:13 PM Permalink
What is meaning of broad minded. We are broad minded only when we see to our concern only. It is not a matter of boy or girl or of any religion. Love in early youth is nothing but a lust towards opposite sex which loose its charm very early in most of cases after marriage (if happens, in most of cases it does not). Egoism, early divorces, extra marital affairs, no respect for elders, nuclear families all are these by product of love marriages.
Re: Re: This is not our culture
by shashetala on Feb 09, 2009 03:31 PM Permalink
he is not talking about relation of past, he is talking true........ love is a part of life not a heart of life......
Re: This is not our culture
by Argumentative Indian on Feb 09, 2009 02:51 PM Permalink
Senso, 50% of love marraiges is a failure is a pile of crap and you know it.
When I had been to the US for the first time and met endless couples who had been married for more than 15 years to the same partner, I was curious and asked about their infamous '50% divorce rate' and the answer shocked me. They said, a significant portion of the populace stays married to the same person almost for life, however, there is another set of the populace, that get married and divorced for like three or four times in a lifetime! So when you average this out you have your divorce rates .
If a girl falls in love with a guy, she usually stays in love for a lifetime. Yes like philandering men, there are women who find it difficult to stay with one person, but they are the exception, not the rule.
Finally, while parents are definitely well wishers, they are people (and that includes me as a parent) who have lived their lives, youth and adulthood in a different time, with different cultural mores and more importantly a different economic situation.
believe me whoever is speaking against valentine day must be the loser who did not had the courage to propose to a single girl in his life time. and now here in forum or otherwise opposing valentine day and giving useless fundees
Re: all losers who never got a girl are against valentine day
by Senso Johnson on Feb 09, 2009 08:32 AM Permalink
Mihir. Wish your daughter a Happy Valentines day and Enjoy seeing her flirting with Boys !!!!
Re: Re: all losers who never got a girl are against valentine day
by Diago Cardozo on Feb 09, 2009 11:05 AM Permalink
Yeah, Mihir wish your entire family a Very Happy Valentine's day. Please disregard ppl like Senso as for ppl like them, Valentine's day is only about "vulgar clothing & cards" [sic] !!! The true meaning of Love will be lost to their hypocritical selves.
Re: Re: all losers who never got a girl are against valentine day
by Argumentative Indian on Feb 09, 2009 02:54 PM Permalink
Hey nothing personal, but remember crapping around will not get you the attention of a fair lady.
Even after marraige, crapping around will only create tension, the wife may have to tolerate it, but neither love nor respect it.
Try being a nice person, try seeing things beyond the prism of 'flirting' and you'll find the world a beautiful place.
Re: Re: all losers who never got a girl are against valentine day
by Shady on Feb 09, 2009 09:15 AM Permalink
You talked about losers and see here he comes talking about an non existing daughter
