Where there is economic and financial independence for boys or Girls, perhaps love marriages can thrive. When that is not there in countries like India, where lot of social responsibilities are also attached to youngsters, arranged marriages last longer, as observed in the last several centuries.
Yes. In India most of the people still prefer arranged marriages but that is after spending 2 or 3 yrs with (mostly) Girl friends, some times even boy friends, for whatever reasons. There are so many Socio economic factors forcing such marriages though I am not against or for arranged or love marriages.
It's sad that in India, love marriage is looked down upon. India has such a rich tradition of love.
In olden days, woman and only the woman picked her husband and that's why it was called swayam-vara.
Even in mythology, love is encouraged.
Krishna encouraged his sister Subhadra to run away with Arjuna and get married.
Krishna himself eloped with Rukmini, whom he married.
Shakuntala is rich tale of love and Gandharva marriage.
Arranged marriage or love marriage - know the person you're marrying. Atleast date them for a year or two because that's how long it takes to go past the "love rush of new relationship", learn their flaws and know if you can love them unconditionally.
Second, try to be your future partner's friend first. Relationship that start as friendship survive long and tend to be happier.
Re: Sad
by Prakash Sharma on Sep 03, 2014 10:57 PM
buddy ... !! the so called swayamwara invitees used to be only frm kshatriya clan !! No other community person was allowed. It is very similar to arranged marriage . Today we have matrimony.. those days it was swayamwara !!
The 50% who still believe in arranged marriage are people who are not confident of making the marriage work or last on their own!
The biggest advantage of an arranged marriage for diffident people is that they can prevent divorce by threatening their spouses of shaming them in their "society" if they divorce them!
Since so many family members are involved in an arranged marriage, it becomes difficult for either party to call quits and have to continue suffering in the "arrangement"!
In young age, it is only attraction for so called temporary physical beauty and nothing else. True love is a divine word, a soul possessing true love has the capacity to extend that love to each and every creature in the world viz., namely highly enlightened spiritual souls are the examples. After the attraction falls in the course of time, naturally problem starts and this has been proved always. In the name of attraction, false designations such as love etc. is being used. If really that is true love, let people love and get married to ugly persons, disabled persons, physically challenged persons, poor persons, arrogant persons, suffering persons - this will never happen. But an enlightened person with true love displays that towards every body. Let people not spoil the word pure love with false attraction - specially younger minds wherein majority cases have proved that they are prone to wrong decisions in the prime of their life mainly due to lack of their inexperienced life and not listening to their experienced well wishers - mainly parents in many cases who wish to counsel their children fail - seen cases where subsequently children were losers, but once damage is done in the heat of attraction - everything is gone. Hence to a large extent the traditional systems were well designed for benefit of human kind. There may be some things which the current environment may not be able to adjust with such ancient benefits, but ultimately, as seen, who is the loser ? it's seen.
In India, obviously people will prefer arranged marriages. Because men do not want to miss on the lucrative financial prospects of arrange marriages. And then there are Women who are never independent in real sense and want a fallback support system if the marriage doesn't work out. It is silly that 50% people don't want to run their own lives and be responsible for their own decisions.
