hi divya what about wedding gifts that can be given and recieved.everything being high priced it breaks ur heart if sumone gifts u something u do not like.
Just because u dont take dowry or accept elaborate gifts does not guarantee that u will be treated well, if u have in laws like the ones i have. forget getting treated well, they dont even treat their daughter with care and love, lest they may have to shell out money.
dowry system is spread all across our country not just south or just kerala....demanding dowry is not something that happens only in south/kerala, it happens everywhere in the name of custom/tradition/gifting...
you seem to have interacted less with people from across our country...its very obvious....
Well if the girl is educated, loving and affectionate towards to the boys father and mother, there is no better wealth than that. Before asking for Guys to respect the girls family, the bride to be has to do the same for the grooms father and mother. More often than not, the grooms family is treated very badly by the daughter in law. Every effort is made to break relations with them. All the girl has to do is cry and make up stories and the whole world would believe them!
Even if you do anything, the son in law remains as son in law. The son in law never gets the status of a son, even he does a miracle for the wife's side. That is the actual side of married life. Wish you all the best and blessings for the upcoming marriage
Re: Son in law remains the Son in law
by Anand sodo on Nov 18, 2013 12:57 AM
I whole heartedly AGREE - with an ADDITION - A son in law can NEVER become a SON and a Daughter in law can NEVER become a DAUGHTER - BECAUSE we DO NOT ALLOW them to and They themselves too are NOT INTERESTED - MOSLTLY the Grooms parents are too GREEDY - In Case they are NOT - The Brides parents take UNDUE advantage of this - In case BOTH the parents are fine - the Bride or the Groom take it upon themselves to DESTROY their own MARRIED life - for the SAKE of their "WHIMS" and or "Who is the BOSS!" game. I am a senior citizen now - it happened in my life, my childrens lives and many friends and relatives lives...I have not met ONE really happily married couple so far.
The author of this article Mrs.Divya Nair herself did not follow her golden thoughts of not investing in gold. She had admitted that on her attaining a job she started scurrying for gold and purchased tolas of them. Then is there any point in her in advising her future generation to desist from investing in gold? One pertinent question to the author is whether she had at least now sold all her 'golds' and invested the proceeds in 'productive' assets, so that as readers we may follow her earnest advice from now on?
