todays girls became like that . they change boy friends as quickly as they change dresses......gals should be behind burkhas and do cooking in home.....there should be no education and jobs to women.......
Mostly in movies heroes and villains fight for one women to the end, sometimes unnecessarily, because may be hiring too many heroines inflate budget.
But real life is full of options, you just need to have self control to go through insult and rage of being rejected. If you survive this phase of emotional drama, their is a very good chance that you might like someone else in future and they like you in return.
Talking to someone once or twice politely may be convincing but more than that become harassment, so make the right judgement and back off.
Ok! Once my friends told me that if you wish some girl to be your girlfriend then give her a greeting card. I took their advice and wrote on a card ‘I love you! be my girlfriend’, and gave it to a girl, the girl blushed and said she will get back to me, but never talked again.
Next time when I felt like giving a greeting card to another girl, as an experienced guy now, I bought twenty thirty greeting cards and paste them on pages of a big register and fill up the pages with some poems and gave it to her, with same message on front, ‘I love you! be my girlfriend’.
This girl was very hot tempered, she threw my register on the road and said ‘get lost Mad man, before I slap you’. I picked up my register and quietly run away in my bicycle and keep chewing lot of tobacco for rest of the week.
Finally after lot of trial and errors like above, I found a girlfriend and soon we start exchanging lette
Re: Managing boy friend-girl friend Business..
by Kanu Singh on Aug 02, 2013 01:00 AM
....soon we start exchanging love letters written with our own blood!
After sometime my girlfriend moved to another city and before going she told me that she will get married by her parents choice only and our relationship has no future, so forget about her.
I felt lot of emptiness and sadness and felt like committing suicide, but my parents have spend a lot of money on my education and have very high hopes of me and I don’t want to disappoint them.
Since then, for sometime I smoked pot to suppress thoughts of suicide and after that just restricted to alcohol to keep me going.
Excessive drinking and indulging in mind altering substances might not be good for anyone, restrict its use as much as possible or it will make you a liability and irritant to others and you will also loose complete touch with reality.
Stimulants can give temporary relief so use it when you feel its more constructive, but always remember, to be productive and beneficial most of the time you need to stay in senses and face the bitter truth as it is, to make it better.
Anyway I did not told this story to gain sympathy, it might help others going through same situations in life by giving them some ideas on , “How to handle their situation?”
Re: Re: Managing boy friend-girl friend Business..
by on Aug 03, 2013 02:04 PM
kill the boiy's family,so as to teach a lesoon to those ,who indulge in such horrific crime.
Re: Re: Re: Managing boy friend-girl friend Business..
by Kanu Singh on Aug 04, 2013 08:35 AM
Its better to keep physical violence as last option for self defence or protection of Society. First option should be, try to run society with better quality knowledge and ideas.
Although short sighted people often push for a very harsh physical punishment, as a primary deterrent against crime and in short term it seems to work, but in the long run their is a very heavy price to pay.
For example, in places like Syria and Pakistan, people are blasting and killing each other everyday, you know Why ?
According to one group other is a criminal and vice-versa, one man hero is another man villain and vice-versa, so all are punishing each other according to their harsh religious law, by assuming or declaring their rivals as criminals.
Re: Re: Managing boy friend-girl friend Business..
by Kanu Singh on Aug 05, 2013 04:34 PM
Some readers might have felt sad about my story, well! cheer up folks, story is not over yet, their are still more twists and turns in it.
After seven-eight years once I was on holidays at home, one day out of the blue my girlfriend rang me up, she told me she got my number from a mutual friend and she is in trouble.
Her husband badly beats her up and she don’t know who to approach, I am her last hope. Although I could have told her to divorce her husband and come up to me, but I was married by myself now.
My wife did not played any part in my past, so I deemed her innocent and as long as possible don’t want to hurt her in anyway. So I went for a moderation approach, sometimes when I got a chance, I talk to my girlfriend on phone and if she asks for, send her some money.
I don’t know, if I will ever see her again in person, the story is still a work in progress. So readers be assured, not meeting my girlfriend at the moment is my Choice. I can meet her anytime I want, but every choice comes with a price and I am still trying to figure out most suitable course of action.
We tend to ignore the aspects of getting our message across. The anger associated with the feeling of rejection does not come from the "rejection" but the way it is done. Heated arguments, lack of patience to listen are a few drivers. Additionally, guys should learn to accept that a slight closeness does not mean you are in love.
The age old concept of Devdas, life after death and such beliefs drive the people to act such ghastly things. 'There is always tomorrow'if this concept is propagated then the young as well as old will be miles away to act like this. Life is to live not to die. Dhiru Mistry
Re: Rage of people
by Gajanan on Aug 04, 2013 01:50 AM
ummm... Sir, what has devdas, life after death "and such beliefs" got to do with killing a girl with an axe by a boy who thinks he is in love with a girl?
Dear Sir - This is for your info. You mentioned that Sati came into existence because of Muslim rule. But the fact is that the practice was recorded even during the times of Gupta empire (320 - 500 AD). Also, just for your info - Although the Muslim Mughals interfered little with local customs, they seemed intent on stopping sati. Mughal emperor Humayun (1508-1556) was the first to try a royal fiat against sati. He was met with resistance from the local Hindu population. Akbar (1542–1605) was next to issue official general orders prohibiting sati and insisted that no woman could commit sati without the specific permission of his Chief police officers. The Chief police officers were instructed by him to delay the woman's decision for as long as possible. Pensions, gifts and rehabilitative help was offered to the potential sati to persuade her from committing the act. The Muslim Mughals strictly forbade and many times, rescued children from the practice. Tavernier, writing in the reign of Shah Jahan, observed that widows with children were not allowed in any circumstances to burn and that in other cases, governors did not readily give permission.
Re: To Apoorva Singh
by _ on Aug 02, 2013 02:43 PM | Hide message
all excesses committed by m s are too well known. No need to paint a leopard to like look like a sheep.
