Re: arrange marraiges love is always there in indian culture
by original on Feb 15, 2012 11:20 AM
In my opinion entire concept of marriage is insane and unnatural.
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by dishkyauow on Feb 18, 2012 02:49 PM
oops mate... u got left behind in the evolution of human being...
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by original on Feb 15, 2012 11:22 AM
In my opinion entire concept of marriage is insane and unnatural. Love is nothing but an urge to mate. Whenever there is an urge or ex energy we feel like mating and that is defined as love and all sort of hallucination is built in our wired brain. I am pretty sure all love stories would have even sadder endings if they would have resulted in marriage.Life is simpler and it's we so called civilized human beings who have screwed it up with our unnatural customs. Animals mate during specified reasons and eventhough mating is being challenge in terms of competitiors willingness of partner etc... but it's still natural way for rest of species. Marriage institution was built to spread the foot print of humans as it provides regular ex. How many man/women are having fun while having ex with same partner over a period of time. It's scientifically proven that intrest levels go southwards and theere comes zillion of advices for spicing up life to fitness to yoga. In nutshell after some days the interest declines and actual life begins. Marriage becomes suffocating and burdensome and only reason to go ahead or stay with it is either kids or financia dependence Social stigma.... Given that we have over populated planet earth and have almost extinct variety of species and making rest of them endangered this institution has run it's course.
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by original on Feb 15, 2012 11:32 AM
Now Question arise a) How do we ensure that there is constant and steady supply of humans for future generation ? b)Question a mandates mating and if we discard marriage who will take care of kids responsibility ? Do we want to create a neurotic society ?
Answers in my opinion are: ex energy is source of this universe and it can be channelised in various positive directions instead of humping .. Create an atmostphere around the world where we are exempted from religions and prejudices against fella beings... Spread love and have love communes that will take care of kids irrespective of their blood line or any relationship.. Sounds too theoritical ... Yes because we have created a neurotic society which supresses all natural desires of human being. Controlled by ltd # of ppl around the world and ensures common men run behind materialistic dreams and has no time for introspection. Marriage instituion has created a neurotic society whereby kids grow up seeing their parents fighting,bitchin,cribing etc... day in day our and they become exact xerox copies.... Instead a commune which handles kids once kid is 1 year or older will provide an oppurtunity for kids to interact with many ppl and thereby having vast horizon. On top of that women will have more dignity and both the genders can mate multiple times with many partners. End result Divorce,Depression,Dowry,Desires will end.. No more atrocities no more neurotic society.... 50 % of world's problem will be resolved.
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by Kavita Gupta on Feb 15, 2012 02:11 PM
Looks like you had bad experience in marriage. Marriages are not just meant for ex but gives one a sense of security and trustworthiness.
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by Abraham on Feb 16, 2012 04:40 AM
You know what marriages are for? 100% companionship as you older- that is it.
Re: No diff
by sadhanandarao on Feb 19, 2012 12:22 AM
a sense of security in arranged marriages and viceversa in love marriages.love enters in brain only in teenage mostly it gets vanished after 30 years.
Re: Why young Indians seek love in arranged marriages
by sukhmeet singh on Feb 19, 2012 11:05 AM
human being seeks love evrywhere, love or arranged marriage does not make a difference !
Arranged marriages now are different from what it used to be. It is just a platform to meet the prospective bride or groom. The decision is made by the boy/girl though many a times the parents or close relatives may force one into the alliance. Friendship and marriage can work only with equals and arranged marriage make sure that the two families match economically, socially.
Every young has some image about his life partner in his mind, everyone wants a perfect match, parents/elders try to match the feelings/dreams of these youngs with their experience and knowledge, as the knowledge of these youngs may be requiring polishing. As soon as YES is made by both parties, love at first sight develops in between girl and boy, it is like when we see anything in any shop, it does not become your own, till you buy it, as soon as you buy you develop love for it. This we can call love at first sight in arrange marriage.
An un-arranged marriage is due to the process of meetings of a boy and a girl on regular basis. The arranged marriage provides the same opportunity after the marriage. One person made an observation that marriage is a process of shifting wealth from one place to another. Most of the parents of middle class family of today would have struggled to maintain their own life and then try to educate their children the best possible manner. A few would have before retirement managed to own a house or a flat. Living in a society marriage means a few lakhs expenses towards choultry, traditional rituals etc. Generally in arranged marriages two families will have some mutual understanding to meet these expenses and also to have a respected relationship. In a love marriage, if the boy is not strongminded, there is chance of his being removed away from his parents. Spend all your resources, educate him and get him married away? Is it not happening.
An un-arranged marriage is due to the process of meetings of a boy and a girl on regular basis. The arranged marriage provides the same opportunity after the marriage. One person made an observation that marriage is a process of shifting wealth from one place to another. Most of the parents of middle class family of today would have struggled to maintain their own life and then try to educate their children the best possible manner. A few would have before retirement managed to own a house or a flat. Living in a society marriage means a few lakhs expenses towards choultry, traditional rituals etc. Generally in arranged marriages two families will have some mutual understanding to meet these expenses and also to have a respected relationship. In a love marriage, if the boy is not strongminded, there is chance of his being removed away from his parents. Spend all your resources, educate him and get him married away? Is it not happening.
