just be partner. open relationship. so many things you can do in life. india has opened up so many oportunity. do social work. devote yourself to spiritual organisation, do creative, art. run buinsness. so many things. married life is shallow any way. it will suffocate you. nothing else. adopt children. already our parents have done over hour job. we are paying for that.
Re: why get married in the first place.
by Chandrma ABC on Nov 07, 2011 10:48 AM
Mate ! you snatched words from my mouth. Many of us need to correct the mistakes done by previous generations.
Re: Re: why get married in the first place.
by Neha on Nov 07, 2011 09:33 PM
Ironical ....Every Generation thinks themselves to be better, smarter, more well planned....To the contrary previously Parents could have 4-5 children, marry them, take care of their siblings, marry sisters and still have some savings... Now with all the planning ....bringing up 2 is a nightmare and 3 or more is unbelievable...and yes forget about looking after the siblings....we just became more 'selfish' , sorry I meant 'smarter'..isn't it...
The outlook of a consort towards its partner is undergoing lot of change in tune with the changing times.It was previously-say 20 years back,it was sheerly a value based relationship with less importance to the external look of a partner which got shifted to mere apparent appearance thereafter for some time & from there again to the earning prospects of the partner which tended towards too much of tilt towards materialism & the concomitant evils it brought.But,of late,again there is a tilt & shift towards values-more so in case of a male-his expectation of her partner to be a good house wife & mother for their children since they got vexed with this materialism & crave for leisure & peace at home when they arrive back from office.Though apparently hesitant to admit,a modern couple do have some moments where at they certainly are making an introspection as to what is going wrong in their loss of mental peace & as to what for earnings of so many lakhs per month if the much needed leisure & peace are lacking in their lives.Modern couple are perplexed & are at cross roads as to which way they to go-whether to follow traditional of values to the marriage & the life partner or to the earning prospects of its partner which they try to dub it as \"driven by sheer need\".\"Contentment is a continual feast\";if the modern couple realise this their life is a daily honeymoon.
The outlook of a consort towards its partner is undergoing lot of change in tune with the changing times.It was previously-say 20 years back,it was sheerly a value based relationship with less importance to the external look of a partner which got shifted to mere apparent appearance thereafter for some time & from there again to the earning prospects of the partner which tended towards too much of tilt towards materialism & the concomitant evils it brought.But,of late,again there is a tilt & shift towards values-more so in case of a male-his expectation of her partner to be a good house wife & mother for their children since they got vexed with this materialism & crave for leisure & peace at home when they arrive back from office.Though apparently hesitant to admit,a modern couple do have some moments where at they certainly are making an introspection as to what is going wrong in their loss of mental peace & as to what for earnings of so many lakhs per month if the much needed leisure & peace are lacking in their lives.Modern couple are perplexed & are at cross roads as to which way they to go-whether to follow traditional of values to the marriage & the life partner or to the earning prospects of its partner which they try to dub it as "driven by sheer need"."Contentment is a continual feast";if the modern couple realise this their life is a daily honeymoon.
Re: Contentment is a continual feast
by ashok chere on Nov 07, 2011 09:11 AM
respect to the partner is something as crucial as the marriage itself. without mutual respect marriage is just a compromise. the partners need to know what hurts the other and make sure they don;t rub the other on the wrong side. Every morning both of them have to say . today i am gonna to be the perfect wife or perfect husband. marriage is a daily living thing. one day at a time Lord Jesus.... was the song sung b y one gentelman. this holds true also for marriage. take each day in its tide. then every day is a honeymoon. orelse, honey is gone and the partners are staring at the moon separately.
The outlook of a consort towards its partner is undergoing lot of change in tune with the changing times.It was previously-say 20 years back,it was sheerly a value based relationship with less importance to the external look of a partner which got shifted to mere apparent appearance thereafter for some time & from there again to the earning prospects of the partner which tended towards too much of tilt towards materialism & the concomitant evils it brought.But,of late,again there is a tilt & shift towards values-more so in case of a male-his expectation of her partner to be a good house wife & mother for their children since they got vexed with this materialism & crave for leisure & peace at home when they arrive back from office.Though apparently hesitant to admit,a modern couple do have some moments where at they certainly are making an introspection as to what is going wrong in their loss of mental peace & as to what for earnings of so many lakhs per month if the much needed leisure & peace are lacking in their lives.Modern couple are perplexed & are at cross roads as to which way they to go-whether to follow traditional of values to the marriage & the life partner or to the earning prospects of its partner which they try to dub it as "driven by sheer need"."Contentment is a continual feast";if the modern couple realise this their life is a daily honeymoon.
