I normally never write comments as I don't think anyone reads them but the pain in your words is too much. But you have to rise above it and deal with it. So here is my take on the matter for what it is worth. I think multiple issues are still mixed up in your mind. Certain things that you are going through like the first love that didn't work out, dissappointed immediate family, the perfectionism that adds pressure, etc. are very difficult emotions experienced by most of us whatever the sexuality. you seem to be looking at everything through the lens of your sexuality. This is unneccesary torture. De-link the problems and deal with each separately. That will help. This is a suggestion based on experience. Wishing you your own acceptance, peace and happiness.
Re: hi
by Kanishk thakur on Apr 01, 2011 01:59 PM
Good thoughts. Writer of the post should have really concentrated on de-linking the issues but I guess he wasn't mature enough to segregate them early in his life and also due to lack of mentoring.
I am sorry to hear about your suffering .Certain things are just not accepted in the society .Its no use making people around you understand that .They will keep on poking you and making fun of you .Try to move to west where it is more accepted and who knows you will be able to find a lifetime companion .
Re: Re: Re: How i Told my family
by tdharish on Apr 18, 2011 03:42 AM
In spite of all the problems they have a higher standard of living and tolerance towards different opinion. Not narrow minded people who shun the minority as abnormal just bcuz they are majority.
Re: WESTERN POISON?
by Prashanth DSouza on Apr 01, 2011 08:58 AM
Don't think it is a western concept. This has existed before but the context and reasons are important to understand.
Every generation will have to contend with it's own problems with relation to it's history, but we need to be more focussed on how our response affects our focus and future.
Just my 2 cents. I won't be surprised if this is the reason 4 wives are allowed in Islam, to avoid situations where same sex can occur, as a result of a lot of men dying in wars. After all it was a more control oriented society than now in the past.
Re: WESTERN POISON?
by Pralay Chakrabarty on Apr 01, 2011 01:10 AM
how can homosexuality be christian poison when the christian church poses the strongest opposition to it? its very much Indian. go through "Same Sex Love in India" by Selim Kidwai and Ruth Vanita.
Re: Re: WESTERN POISON?
by guy giggling on Apr 01, 2011 02:00 PM
Yeah! how about priests sodomizing small boys right left and center all over the world. This is a very big problem in the xtian world. We don't need to dig deep for books written by obscure writers (one a Muslim and another a Xtian trying find holes in India). It's all over the news papers and a major concern in the west.
