Looking at parents to take care of your child and food is surely most cruel gift that you can give to your parents. They have already brought you up and again you want them to do for your child....shame on such couples
Re: Parents
by Virendra Patel on Dec 14, 2011 03:12 AM
Ashish, it would be better if most newlywed married couples, did not bother to have children in the first place.
when creche people handle so many kids they may not be able to give attention to your kid when the kid is crying and if so many kids cry at the same time they have no way out. some of the creche might give them sleeping aid and put them on sleep which is not good for your kids growth at all.
Re: It is not a good idea to leave your kid in creche
by Virendra Patel on Dec 14, 2011 03:13 AM
Don't leave your baby in a creche or with your parents. Either have the responsibility to bring the baby up or don't have children at all.
1 partner should work if its a job and other should operate from home while taking care of the baby till the child grows to age of 5 years atleast. While planning for a child also plan the work that you can do when you will be at home.
staying with parents helps us in infinity ways to live happly with family and kids and friends and many problems will be solved love your parents and give them little happiness they will give everything in return which you expect and unexcept because without parents we are not on this planet so love them and live with them so make them happy and you and your children be happy give the love of your grand parents which now a days many were losing. parents will teach your children how to grow in all ways of life and how to achieve success. SO joint family is a some thing very special in life enjoy the joint family essence and smell its fragrance forever.
So is it like for taking care of nascent baby,these youngsters are wanting to stay in joint family or to have good healthy food after coming from office ... if so, this doesn't mean to be in joint family. According to me its compromise or selfishness. And for nascent one of the parent should be there 24/7 at least for first 3 years of age, irrespective of grand parents staying with baby. Mummy or Papa must stay with baby :)
Re: Compromise
by ABHISHEK CHATURVEDI on Dec 13, 2011 12:15 PM
Agree with your view. Just to get home cooked food and someone to take care of your kids...u need your parents? So in that case if your parents are not well and cannot cook or take care of your needs, one will not need the joint family? What happens when the kids grow up? You will not need your parents then? Throw them out again? The attitude of giving and serving is vanishing it seems.
Re: Compromise
by saurabh vyas on Dec 13, 2011 12:58 PM
Agree with you pallavi..according this article understand they want to live in joint family only for those 2 reasons otherwise they dont want....
TODAYS FEMALES R THE MOST SELFISH CREATURES EVER BEEN ON ANY PLANET,THEY WOULD EITHER WANT THIER BETTER HALF TO BREAK ALL THE TIES WITH HIS RELATIVES SPECIALY PARENTS N SIBLINGS, AND IF SHE HAS NO CHOICE AND HAS TO LIVE IN A JOINT FAMILY THE POOR HUSBAND HAVE TO LISTEN LOTS OF FAKE STORIES ABT HIS PARENYS EVERYDAY FROM HIS BETTER HALF.
Re: Re: FEMALES
by Bhartiya Naari on Dec 13, 2011 10:38 AM
But why assume that they have to live with the man's parents? I think it's equally fine if they live with the wife's family. The wife's parents are also senior citizens. The wife would be able to be more relaxed with her own parents, she would be able to come home after a hard days work and and relax, without fearing offending anyone. I am sure a man with strong family values would respect the fact that his wife has a family too.
Re: Re: Re: FEMALES
by gundu on Dec 13, 2011 10:58 AM
@BHARATIYA nari- i 100% agree with you and am ready to live at your parents home with you. I have no problem at all.
As long as the parents are able and in good health, these new couples would be interested in joint families.
Ask them to answer this question honestly - when your parents become old/sick/ or bed ridden, would you still want to stay in a joint family? - I am sure the percentage of young couples wanting joint families in this case will be within single digits.
Re: Selfish motives....
by Pavan Gayakwad on Dec 13, 2011 07:48 AM
You mentioned the right point. These are selfish couples. Sad to find such people in India.
Re: Selfish motives....
by Gds G on Dec 13, 2011 08:14 AM
Majority of people would beg to differ from your self acclaimed honesty. Reality is, most couples are forced to stay away from home as their jobs are away. They want to stay with their parents but neither would they be able to return to home town nor would parents like to leave their place. Primarily because they have their roots there and don;t want to leave the neighborhood.
Re: Re: Selfish motives....
by Bhartiya Naari on Dec 13, 2011 10:41 AM
I agree with you Gds G. Also it is wrong to assume that all grandparents want to raise their grand children. It's okay for senior citizens to have other interests. It's really sad that it is taken for granted that they can have no life of their own, and it's time for them to devote to bhajan-kirtan.
The results of the survey surprise me. In Mumbai, the nuclear family is the norm. Parents of most girls ask, "Does the boy have a separat flat?" That is how the builders are making their money. Now that most families have split, the housing industry in in doldrums! I do not agree with the results of the survey. Yes, the consequenes of the nuclear family are more negative, but yet, today's young woman wants her own flat.
Re: Why Indian couples prefer joint families.
by Lekhu Sadani on Dec 13, 2011 07:45 AM
1,You Pl visit a few nuclear families. Observe their plight. If one patner is earning a good salary, then in a nuclear family, other patner must leave job.This will give a chance to peace, there.
