comparatively women can withstand the stress in better way because her thorough involvement and keen understanding of the future perspectives as she is the central pillar of the home. men
How can one hold the number on suicides by gender and marital status as yardstick to measure capability to handle stress.
I do not think we are apples to apples here. I say this because of the following 1) Is it true that only married men are stressed? 2) Is it true that women are able to survive similar levels of stress? or are they handling different kind of stress? 3) Isnt it true that women in India are killed more than stressed?
These kind of conclusions are to be arrived only if the sample taken are subjected to similar kind of stress and then the out come is measured. If the conclusions are to be made out of thin air, we can even conclude that "In India married men are subject to more pressures than women, against the popular belief that women in India are tortured at home which lead to bringing in domestic voilence Act" - Personally I differ to this conclusion as well, but this arguement stands as strong as the one rediff made.
And to the second point about Women being weaker sex, the weak refers to physical ability. This we can see almost every walk of life that women are weak physically, just compare the world records established in physical activities, to my knowledge all are held by men (excluding the records meant for women). But still women are thriving in lot of fields because of their knowledge skills.
Rediff should stray from opening such subjects with cheap perspectives
For the same level of stress the support system in place for women is very high. like 498a or bias by the law against men. Need to understand that these laws were made for the uneducated and uninformed women wo were opressed. But one who benefit from it is the modern and outgoing women who take advantage of the law . While the man would have to fight against the stress all by himself and against the law. Its high time that in india we legalize pre-nupital agreement. If anyone is not interested in the relationship they can walk out but the only liability should be child support if any . No other financial obligation from either side. Then see the rate of divorces coming down. Divorce has become a pension scheme with guaranteed returns with zero premium :-) . Stop this and people will get back to reality.
Re: Its about support system
by ashu sarode on Mar 04, 2010 01:54 PM
I agree. Since I am wife of an advocate, I know how laws are being misused in case of marriages. People not giving divorces for getting more money is a common scenario. All this is so stressful for men as they cant fight against laws.
as a result of newly implemented laws all in favour of women after independence, we are at a stage where women have everything to win in case of marriage. If it turns out to be a fit marriage which is a rare case, then its ok. But otherwise, men have everything to lose.
This results in lot of stress which men are obviously not able to handle. Women in any case are more suitable handling stress.
There should be balance in laws and these should be sincerely implemented.
Re: Current laws in favour of women put more stress
by ashu sarode on Mar 04, 2010 01:40 PM
As a reult there are more divorces. Its even a way to earn money for some women which is very bad. It all ultimately affects social mental stability and hence in turn health.
As a result of laws made in favour of women, a lot of women are misusing laws to get upper hand over men. Since men are usually dominant, they r not able to accept this. Hence divorces are becoming a trend. Once a girl gets married, she has everything to win in terms of laws. I think there should be proper balance implemented in laws and there should be effective implementation also.
Re: Women these days are harassing men
by shanmuga sundaram on Mar 04, 2010 03:18 PM
If the think about common indian females,,,more than 80% females dont know much about LAW,Marriage System's and all...They are just following tradionally and still getting weeker..As u said very few females aer Misusing it....
As a result of laws made in favour of women, a lot of women are misusing laws to get upper hand over men. Since men are usually dominant, they r not able to accept this. Hence divorces are becoming a trend. Once a girl gets married, she has everything to win in terms of laws. I think there should be proper balance implemented in laws and there should be effective implementation also.
