Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
This caused due to depresson & frustration of the deceased. It is duty to the family members & freinds not to keep such person alone and imediately approched to psyciritic.I am sorry to say that most of the people feeling bad to bring them to psycritic (pagal wala doctor)
The majority cases of suiciddes are in Indian community. This is because Indians lack the courage of fighting with adversities or with bad conditions of life. Also because of the strong family bond among Indians family,the expections are high from every individual and not all can manage this pressure.Also it has become a status symbol fro the parents in Indian community to be proud about their children makign career in IT,Management or settling in US,UK or European countries.Such parents make their children run in the rat race for name and fame. Moreover,in Indian community,wealth is worshipped as GOD(during the festival of Diwali,indians worship gold,money etc.). This culture inherrently inculcates onto their mind that the sole purpose of their life is to collect wealth,money and gold and do anythign for that purpose.When they do not get it,they feel their life is useless and they commit suicide.
Re: Indian mentality
by Sameer joseph on Jun 28, 2010 08:09 PM
i agree some points but major thing is, india is home for 120 crore people, so these numbers look high, if u take % of total population for sucide case, india surely will not rank high.
Re: Indian mentality
by mallaiah anchoori on Mar 03, 2010 07:40 PM
No!!! There is no bar of caste,creed,religion region,place, country or nationality for committing suicide by a dejected person. Dejection is a bye product of frustration & frustration is mostly an offspring of stress which could be on account of several factors.Stress management is an art & is not possible by all.Suicide is often committed by a weak minded person who fails to think properly at that hour of distress.If the person committing suicide thinks even for just a while,there would not have been so many losses of life by this dastardly act.And those who come out of that attempt are mostly by a last minute counsellor whom the victim rarely finds in many cases.a soother,a sympathiser is what all required by the person thinking in terms of ending himself.Psychologists say that ,such person leave lot of signals of their intentions;if any of his relatives/ friends get this,he is lucky & can be saved as well.In India too,of late,several voluntary organisations have sprung up in various parts of the country to counsel them & refill courage & interest towards life.Aadi!!In my earlier post, I already indicated how parents are responsible to some extent,for commission of this cowardly act.You too agreed with me.Life is ,after all a struggle!! We need to fight it out % come out.Nothing comes on its own to our feet;we need to strive/ struggle hard & achieve the goal.A feeble minded person fails to understand this small truth & takes decision impulsively.Very unfortunate instinct
Re: Indian mentality
by balbirsingh on Mar 03, 2010 04:47 PM
I do not agree on your view.If you go on depth you will find that socides comes from youth is due to faliure in love but because of badnami family most of the family memebers changed the story.
May be this is true conceptually. Article says 37.6 % below 30 yrs and 34.8 % between 30-44 yrs 20.9 % between 45-59 yrs and "mere" 7.4 % above 60 yrs. Well isn't it propotionate to the total percentage of population in that age group ? Around 45-50% of our population is below 30 so its natural that more numbers fall under that category. and the mere 7.4% 60 category. Whats the total population above 60? isnt that also propotionate ? I am not disputing the article. Its true young ppl are more restless.. but dont play with the percent and number games without looking into all aspects including population in that age group.
the older generation do not find time to spend with youngsters. They give them money but not their time. They never try to understand the youngsters problems. Many times the youngsters never reveal their problems for fear of their parents..the parents also tries to force their habits on the youngsters which often backfire..
The poet John Milton wrote : "The mind is its own place, and can make a heaven of hell and a hell of heaven." Nowadays, with the proliferationof westernised education, meditation and mental control, as taught by the gurus in the India of yore, have become all but forgotten. No government realises its importance for India. People do not become stronger as they grow older; this is a completely idiotic idea. They only grow more resigned.
Social value have come down, we are more prone to compare with other's success.We have forgotten the bounderies of our expectation.We are not beleiving or having trust on ethics and hard work or morals.Every one is behind easy earning attitude or to attain success at any cost. Parents, family members and society is also equally responsible for a person to commit suicide. Frustration among all of us is increasing day by day, whether it is a millionaire or a daily earner every one is thinking to become on the top. So question is who will be at bottom? Again I think T.V. shows especially realty shows are also responsible at a large extent.People are forgetting their values, respect and ethics.Awarness should be increased thru different activities.We have to be practical & realistic.One should not envy on other's success at the same time one should not compeit other to acheive the same sort of success. I think,Meditation, exercise and jogging regularly may help to avoid this type of attitude upto certain extent.If one become a positive thinker he/she will never commit suicide as he/she can tollerate any jerk in life.
Impatient,lack of self-satisfaction and above all running after money is the main reason.We all are resposible for it as we fail to cultivate good habits in youths.
It must be difficult to face extreme stress & dejection but atleast a person can realise that its all too temporary. One thing that helps is that one must pray regularly & live a righteous life.
