Re: Re: What does it take for a marriage to work??????
by Telveer on Jul 28, 2009 11:26 PM
How do you know his parents are married? Going by the way he is cursing marriage institution, looks like he never experienced it in his life.
Re: What does it take for a marriage to work??????
by arshad mirza on Jul 27, 2009 08:12 PM
Well..these so called fools are still more intellegent than people like you as they can have sex in their spare time....try it mate..you might want to be a fool as well...
1.respect each others feelings 2.respect each others families 3.respect each others needs 4.respect each others circumstances 5.respect each others wants
Re: 5 golden rules
by p on Jul 26, 2009 06:49 AM
exactly. Avoid TFG - Taken for granted! I have seen people in love marriages tend to respect their female partners more. In arrainged marriages (not all) often times it is my family vs your family.trouble starts when the girl starts demanding rights. If a guy knows he is not adjusting he should marry a girl who will adapt to him and vice versa. Often parents choose partners based on educational qualifications and looks and not compatibility.
Dear, there are three questions. 1.how do you keep your relationship working for you? 2.How to overcome the stereotyped problems associated with a life commitment to your partner? 3.How to balance having children, managing a career and spending quality time together as a couple? I fell in love in 1958, with a bengali brahmin girl in my postgraduate class in Bihar, though from UP. Those days in Bihar to look at a girl was sin. We married against all odds and today in 2009, having brought up highly sucessful two girls and one son we feel we had a very satisfying married life.
The ground rules that we followed were;- 1. Respect and faith. Faith we simplified by agreeing that we would never ever question each others dicisions. Who ever proposes a matter other will agree with heart and soul. It is not that we could follow this 100% but by and and large with initial difficulties we could do so in more then 75% of our life. So we mostly had an arguement free life. 2.We involved our children in every matter concerning our life. Believe me after class 6 or 7 we never forced any study timings etc. We also respected their judgement and encourged them to put up their point in a logical manner to convince all. They are doing in life exactly what they desired or dreamed to do Last, about balancing between creers I have not much idea as my wife choose to be a house wife.
Re: What does it take to make a marriage work?
by geetika munjal on Jul 30, 2009 01:57 PM
Hi Vinod ! can u pls tell me more abt ur married life.i am finding it inspirational.
My two cents on this. Mostly written from a male perspective.
1. Marry someone from a similar career background. So, if you are working in an industry where 12-13 hours a day at office is the norm, then don't marry someone who isn't working or someone whose job isn't very demanding especially if you are gonna stay as a nuclear family.
2. Marry someone with a similar opinion on way of living. If you are staying in a bachelor's den for a few years (after 3/4 years of hostel life), then its not a good idea to marry someone who has always lived with her parents. Clash is bound to happen after marriage. You might find it refreshing to listen to Iron Maiden or ACDC at 12 in the night but certainly she wont.
3. Marry someone who enjoys similar activities that you enjoy. If you are a couch potato then don't marry someone who is very outdoorsy. Remember, weekends are the days when you would spend maximum time with your spouse. So, marry somebody who has a similar opinion on leisure activities.
For a marriage to be successful , both husband & wife support is needed , clapping cannot be done with one hand , when both hands meet each other clapping can be done , most important for a successful marriage is true love , understanding , respect for each other, caring & have faith on your patner.
Marriage should never be forced, i regret it from the day i did it, should be you and your freedom and a life and a goal where you are happy with self and not depended on anything or anyone, partner mostly pegs you beck, a day will come when living relationship will take over marriage.
