This happens in every organisation. The best way is talk to your Boss and convince him. If he is the head of HR, it will be easier to convince him as both are related to the subject job. If you are reporting to any body else other than HR, you need to put your case strongly as to why you are recommending certain action.
After reading all the responses given, it cements the fact the Indian bosses have a L-O-N-G way to go. They seem to think that the air is rarified at the top and that their subordinates aren't capable of a single thought.This isn't true of all bosses, though. After studying the situation, I'm convinced it all boils down to our culture, where we are taught that older people, people in high positions, (being a male is one of them)deserve unconditional respect. I think what we need to understand that ANYONE who is in a position of power needs to command respect not demand it!
Sheila should certainly have a talk with her boss. Ofcourse, he might be one big bundle of Ego, but that's no excuse for not talking to him. She should assertively tell him of how she feels when he rejects her suggestions and ask him why he does so. She should also have data to support the situations when she's been right
Such a situation in industry is NOT very uncommon but however the percentage could be debatable.
There are reasons as to why Shela shall get dejected does it help anyone ?? Having worked in industry more than 35 years and having seen plethora of such examples,I have a couple of suggestions to Sheila:
Have self confidence and self esteem.If you loose these two,it is as good or as bad as loosing your character.
Continue to do good work to the best of your ability.Do not let it go down,since it is said in spiritual terms"You are NOT what you think you are,you ARE what you think you are".After all,this is what counts the most.Good looks,good figure,good connections,good smartness >>all these count,but to a lesser degree over the long run.
Introspect >Identify SWOT>Your strenghts, weakness,opportunities and threats.Think what are your strenghts & weaknesses.Write on a piece of paper. Pl note no one in this world is absolutely perfect.Cash on your strehgths & try to overcome your weaknesses.
Never discuss on this issue with any one in the office>People may make mockery of this with apparent psedo-sympathy with nil empathy at the back.
hello,the problem sheila is going through is problem of lots of workeres,but it doesnt mean that she should quit her job or be arrogant to boss,she should keep her feelings about rejection of her each advice in front of her boss softly but boldly.
Semilar situation I faced in my life.I would prefer shiela to surch for a new job rather than a person has in mind to discurage every time infront others.In one or the other day he will catch you and tell Shiela to leave the job. It happend with me.I am a teacher.
First suggstion would be to find out why your boss is acting the way he does and if you can address the root cause of that then good...If there is not probable reason then tell him how his behavious is affecting you....if he doesnt listen then escalate....if noone listens to you talk to the HR and if that doesnt help then find an other job....Best of luck
Well, i would suggest Sheila to take a straight approach in this matter. She should be a bit cautious while talking to her boss and make her point thru as firmly and geniallya s possible and tell him/her that such discouraging comments all the time make her feel bad and in turn she is loosing focus from her job.
Iam Aparna From Bangalore. Bosses listening to our ideas are very few. But when they first suggest us about something about some work to be done,we have to simply accept their views and ideas and their suggestions and act accordingly even is we are sure that it wont work out so effectively.
At the same time if we find some difficulty in doing the work in their method, we can try to put out our ideas and present the same work which would be more usefull or effective.according to our opinion what ever it may be.
when that work has to be presented in front of the boss both the methods as told by boss and as made by us should be taken to him and first we have to discuss about work done according to his suggestion, ideas and after that is over we have all the rigth to put our ideas clearly out in front of the boss and explian them how the work can be made more effective. if the suggestion of the boss will be more effective then us there wont arise any issue as such according to my experience. we have to very sure that they respect us the way we respect them. this is my own experience and many times my boss have accepted my method of working,suggestions.
Hi Sheila Never get dejected wit ur boss finding faults in u.Take this as a challenge ,try analysing urself are you wrong or is he trying to dig faults in you,analyse urself- if u feel that he is doing it intentionally go talk to him , stand up to him and ask him boldly .There are bosses who try to be smart r try creating problem to the employees (due to there personal problems, showing there proudness,etc).If he continues even after u talking to him the best sugestion neglect his digging faults in u if u can cope with him else quit the job.But remember bosses are always problem at any place you work . i suggest u to stand upto him clear the problems.your matured enough to handle situation go ahead talk to him.all the best
