It's not in your hands... its all written somewhere out of your reach. Well... yes I am going through such a phase... arnd 7 months now. I even ended up loosing my job there...Nothing excites me now... I die a new death every night. Hardly a moment in the day I can throw her out of my thoughts...
But yes, I decided not to follow the devdas path... rather I quitted drinking, smoking and god only knows how many more things. I got a much better abt job 2 months later... n I am doing well here.
However, dont know how to come out of the pain... and the suffering... its just not in my hands....
Re: You just cant help it!
by Abhay Joshi on Feb 11, 2009 04:39 PM Permalink
I am continuing this here again as in my previous post the char limit got over.
Once you open your eyes u will see the dif. You will see that when you went back in time from the situation of pain due to ur GF to the point of time where there was no such pain, u will realise that U were enjoying life and even your GF is not indispensible. Basically our brain knows that our GF is not indispensible and we can enjoy life without her too with some better girl. Its just that our heart does not listen to our brain during such times. Once ur heart knows that all was well in past, you will come out of your grief much early. If required do this exercise morning and evening each day.
And remember, no body is bad, its the TIME which is bad. Destiny rules, U were correct in that. Butt here are way which we dont know, I found this way accidently and IT WORKS.
Re: Re: You just cant help it!
by amit on Feb 11, 2009 04:48 PM Permalink
Abhay, I ve been doing so many of such things... Ive changed as a man... I meditate every morning... I started serious fitness activities... I try to keep myself busy in my job as much as I can... but even then... its something which is just not leaving me... harder I try, stronger it becomes. I am helpless!!!
Re: Re: Re: You just cant help it!
by Abhay Joshi on Feb 11, 2009 04:52 PM Permalink
Both the hopes are different. One is hope of reunite...which will kill u. Other hopes is for finding a better soulmate, thats what u should indeed hope for. And never go in for a girl who has ditched u once, for she can do that again.
Re: Re: Re: Re: You just cant help it!
by amit on Feb 11, 2009 04:59 PM Permalink
Well... It was a one sided love with a girl whome i knew just for 2 months... and it didnt materialize... she wasnt my gf. I have no idea at all why I fell so badly for her.
And it's the hope of finding the same girl again someday... which keeps me moving... Its the reason why im alive.. cant leave taht friend.
Re: Re: Re: You just cant help it!
by Abhay Joshi on Feb 11, 2009 04:55 PM Permalink
Try out my method and then say that u are not able to come out of this. man I came out of divorce pain due to this, u can imagine the pain.
Rediff has messed wit the sequence of my method....I hope every body can understand the sequence of 2 posts which are here.
Re: Re: Re: Re: You just cant help it!
by amit on Feb 11, 2009 05:02 PM Permalink
Well Abhay, I will definitely try your message... I just cant afford not to try that. By the thanks a lot for the advice. And I got the sequence right. Thanks again.
Re: You just cant help it!
by Abhay Joshi on Feb 11, 2009 04:46 PM Permalink
But be sure do not meet here ever and do not keep any hopes. Its the HOPE of reunite which keeps you in limbo. And dont tocuh daru and all, it sucks.
Re: You just cant help it!
by Calspadeaspade on Feb 11, 2009 07:03 PM Permalink
Good for you. I applaud your determination. May be this was ment to be a turning point in your life for some think better. You came out as a winner in this trouble. As foryour pain, time is the best healer. Keep yourself active with other interests. Good luck to you.
Re: You just cant help it!
by Abhay Joshi on Feb 11, 2009 04:34 PM Permalink
Listen, I have one way to come out faster out of depression for such cases. Its just like a medicine or a drug which shows its effect for some time but then depression may come again. But using this method multiple times can help u get rid of all pain for ever.
Do this... Find a place where no one will disturb you, this will work best in night time on your bed in your room. 1) Sit or lay down in a relaxed position and CLOSE YOUR EYES. Think current situation of yours which is so bad. 2) Go some time back and think of a scene which was with ur GF and try to feel pain of joy which u exp during that specific scene time. Since u got a breakup that last scene with ur GF will be a painful one, but be sure to experience it once again. 2) Still go some time back, and exp the time (you can choose any scene or moment in cronological order). This scene may be of joy which u both enjoyed. Enjoy that fully. 3) Stll go back and think of a scene, good or bad...but be sure it fits in the time. The main point here is to slowly go back in time by thinking happenings in your life w.r.t ur GF and exp pain or joy. 3) again repeat the same thing till u get to the point where you first met her amd there was not much love in ur heart for her. 4) No again go back in time when u didnt even knew her.
In all above process be sure to experience joy or pain. Once you have come to the time during which u didnt knew her at all, directly focus on present situation and open your eyes.
Re: Re: You just cant help it!
by mirza inayath baig on Feb 11, 2009 05:32 PM Permalink
Mr Abhay, Wat if it yr wife nd you cant do certain things which others do nd try to do in yr presence.I hope u understand what i mean,i cant be specfic.....
