It all depends on your destiny. If the family and the girl is good,you are lucky,if not it's your bad luck. I had one of my friend married from colaba a rich divorcee girl bit elder to him just for the sake of money and spoiled his life. They treated this handsome sardarjee as their servant for a long time and finally he has to go to the court to take his wife away from his mother-in-law who was the real culprit.
See money drives every thing today incliding women & also men. And there is nothing wrong in it. Love alone cannot bring joy in the form of home ,car,comfort,shopping etc u reqwuire money
Its not owrth mentioning that "All Matters in the end is Money." There are other things in life which are more important than money. I had an arranged marriage. I never demanded anything from my wife. Hence our relationship is at its peak. Both of ous are working. It was I who searched her a job. Recently my father in law was seriously ill. Both of us gave a visit and I offered Rs.2000/- as caution money to my in-laws and they were were happy. So money is not that all matters.Those who think money is everything they won't lead a peacefull life. Without being rich u can enjoy yr. life. But there has to be some understanding,planning,among themselves which is there very much between me & my wife. For ex. we are now 8 yrs. old married. But still now we have not opted for a baby due to present financial crunch. This is understanding. So everyone can take my words that Money is not everything.Everything u can buy with money but not peace of mind or good sleep etc.
Re: Money Matters.
by jitendra upadhyay on Jun 02, 2009 12:37 PM Permalink
you gave Rs. 2000 to your in-laws for their illness? Wow...rs 2000...so much..!! i can see, money dont matter to you..!!
Re: Money Matters.
by manish shrivastava on Jun 02, 2009 12:34 PM Permalink
good..keep it up..!! ur example is a lesson for all those.. who are inclined to the materialistic things.. May god bless u couple..
Let us face the fact upfront, if you earn average money and have princpled attitude towards the institution of marriage, so you donot even mention a word about money/ dowry, your inlaws may give their daughter dowry or may not give her any dowry because of practical monetry problems but your life is doomed if your wife's wants are not fulfilled in future for want of money. She will curse u endlessly for not earning enough to meet her demands for decent home with all facilities thrown in. You will be trotured mentally regularly day in day out, because she will hold you responsible for all her woes because u didnot say no for the marriage, if you had refused she could have been married in some rich household. Moral of this write up is that if u demand dowry the law catches up with u for a crime of demanding dowry and if you don't than your wife will kill you everyday and you exist in this world like survivor till death embraces you.
Re: Marriage is a hustle
by jitendra upadhyay on Jun 02, 2009 12:07 PM Permalink
true, one correction though. Women marry for Secured happy life. Money or financial status is just a very imp aspect of security. They also go for smart & popular (social security), physically strong (physical aspects) , financially strong (financial security), compatible (emotional security)..Guys!! Its true girls just wana have a good time ...like Guys..!!
I married a girl who not only is compatible but also bring along the financial backup. well, its a love marriage.
Everyone marries for convenience or prospective happiness. Now some people may get that convenience and security in being with someone they relate to perfectly. Some, people can get that security in education or social background of his or her partner. But End of the day - Everyone Marries for convenience. Poeple may love for the sake of love but i am yet to meet someone who married for love Alone. What they usually call love is actually marrying someone they find attractive and compatible. So end of the day, Everyone marries for watever is most imp for them in life. Why not Money then? There is a very thin line between - "compromising your dreams and desires for money only" and planning your life practically and make few adjustements. You win some and you lose some. Thats the way life is ..!!
