One of the main reason for unhappiness in India is that people in India “Live in the Future”
They rarely enjoy “Today”. You can always find them saving for “Day-After-Tommorow”. Saving For that house in the city, that car, that foreign vacation, that expensive college for “Sonu” .. Big expensive wedding, pension, health insurance, term plans, mutual funds etc.
They expect to “Ärrive at Happiness “after living a life time of denying themselves small, simple joys in life .. Comparing it in their minds to crossing a desert to arrive an Oasis .
Start Living in the Today.. In the Now.. Enjoy music.. Art.. Food. Movies .. Small Trips around the city.. enjoy time with your friends.. family.. its hard to do, I know..its hard to switch off.. start small and see where it leads you..
I can understand that in the complete absence of any sort of government security, people would need to save a reasonable amount for the future, but, it has become an obsession in Modern India with people trying to rack up astronomical sums .Figures in peoples heads range up to “We need to save 10 Cr by the time we are 45 “.
This is the root cause of unhappiness, the complete absence of any sort of government security coupled with urge to have Big Spends on education , weddings, vacations with enough left over for retirement .
This Peculiar drive has been fanned to the hilt by Insurance Companies, by giving us Inflation ad
Now a days ,everybody has become very self-centered.. Love, caring, tenderness.. Softness.. sweetness all have vanished.
Even parents have been affected. They make constant comparisons not only between their own children but also between the children of friends and family. Indian Children are treated like investments, in which parents put in money through good schools, good facilities, good food, good clothes, good entertainment, Expensive higher education, fancy weddings etc.
In Return they expect the young man to take care of them in old age.by taking care I mean that he should own a house, esp. if the parents stayed in a rented accommodation all their lives, he should have a car, he should be able to not only house them, feed them, clothe them but also be able to send them, by plane where ever they wish to go.
The “Highest Return on Investment” is achieved if the child, with a green card of his own, can have them over in the US .
Anything less than that means the child is not The “Highest Return on Investment” and is often told “You know Rohan, got a green card and now, he is taking his parents along with him to the US for 6 months “