There are hundreds of more important topic to think, discuss and raise...changing names will not effect your life or work by ANY means...this useless topic comes with peoples ego...
Start a new scheme of naming. Do not change the names on marriage at all. All newborns should have given name, middle name & last name (don't be surprised; quite a few of us do not have it that way!). Middle & last names can be the surnames of the parents. Children will have their roots; wives will have their names ! No need for change of names at all!
Changing the Surname to husbands is being projected as many things related to submission, Bondage, Slavery or Male Chauvenism. But in our culture a women getting married to a guy adopts the family of the guy and becomes part of that family. So it is a symbol to declare to the world that she has adopted this family. She takes over the culture , characteristics , Responsibilities, Keys and Assets of that family. Its easy to argue , why so, why this, why not, why should I etc.. A sense of Ego comes into play as well. But if you consider it a matter of pride to be moving into a new family and adopting it, then the second thought or questioning of Surname will never raise. Having said that, its up to the Women to change her Surname or Not. Not changing the name does not make her less women, or changing surname does not make her great Bahu (Daughter in Law). P.S : I have asked my wife to change, she said no, i asked her why not, she had similar answers like most say.. and I not going to force her to change it. Its her choice. One has to do it by choice, not by force.
Oh, by the way.. Its easy to change names and no one questions in the whole world about surname changes. Its easily explained by one gezette In US people change name so many times, as they re-marry. Again, its their choice.. i am not judging.
Re: Think of it Differently...
by Chandran KR on Sep 21, 2016 01:08 PM
Message you send out is that you are not proud of going to your wife's family. Your sense of ego.
Re: Think of it Differently...
by Chandran KR on Sep 21, 2016 12:11 PM
So how do you see Malayalees especially Nairs carry Mother's surname? This is carried forward for generations.
Changing the Surname to husbands is being projected as many things related to submission, Bondage, Slavery or Male Chauvenism. But in our culture a women getting married to a guy adopts the family of the guy and becomes part of that family. So it is a symbol to declare to the world that she has adopted this family. She takes over the culture , characteristics , Responsibilities, Keys and Assets of that family. Its easy to argue , why so, why this, why not, why should I etc.. A sense of Ego comes into play as well. But if you consider it a matter of pride to be moving into a new family and adopting it, then the second thought or questioning of Surname will never raise. Having said that, its up to the Women to change her Surname or Not. Not changing the name does not make her less women, or changing surname does not make her great Bahu (Daughter in Law). P.S : I have asked my wife to change, she said no, i asked her why not, she had similar answers like most say.. and I not going to force her to change it. Its her choice. One has to do it by choice, not by force.
Oh, by the way.. Its easy to change names and no one questions in the whole world about surname changes. Its easily explained by one gezette In US people change name so many times, as they re-marry. Again, its their choice.. i am not judging.
Changing the Surname to husbands is being projected as many things related to submission, Bondage, Slavery or Male Chauvenism. But in our culture a women getting married to a guy adopts the family of the guy and becomes part of that family. So it is a symbol to declare to the world that she has adopted this family. She takes over the culture , characteristics , Responsibilities, Keys and Assets of that family. Its easy to argue , why so, why this, why not, why should I etc.. A sense of Ego comes into play as well. But if you consider it a matter of pride to be moving into a new family and adopting it, then the second thought or questioning of Surname will never raise. Having said that, its up to the Women to change her Surname or Not. Not changing the name does not make her less women, or changing surname does not make her great Bahu (Daughter in Law). P.S : I have asked my wife to change, she said no, i asked her why not, she had similar answers like most say.. and I not going to force her to change it. Its her choice. One has to do it by choice, not by force.
Oh, by the way.. Its easy to change names and no one questions in the whole world about surname changes. Its easily explained by one gezette document. In US people change name so many times, as they re-marry. Again, its their choice.. i am not judging.
its better to change surname or even keep both maiden and married surname to avoid further trouble. in india change of name procedure is very easy. we did through change of name consultancy services.
It's not just the surname. But a new family and its property that a women acquires and adopt after marriage. This is not the case with a man. So, if you can get a lot of gems after marriage, why can't you adopt the name of the family? Just think.
Re: Why change a surname and why adopt a new family and its prope
by goyal goyal on Sep 20, 2016 06:07 PM
in certain states in INDIA property is inherit by daughter from mother and from father to son and it goes to generation.
Re: Re: Why change a surname and why adopt a new family and its p
by pusarla kumar on Sep 21, 2016 12:25 AM
double bonanza to Women then .. Daughter will have her father property and Husbands property ..
Re: Re: Why change a surname and why adopt a new family and its p
by pusarla kumar on Sep 21, 2016 12:26 AM
double bonanza to Women then .. Daughter will have her father property and Husbands property ..
Re: Re: Why change a surname and why adopt a new family and its p
by Chandran KR on Sep 21, 2016 12:55 PM
This is right, I think in North east it is like that, I know it is like that in Kerala. Nowadays it is equal share in properties for both son and daughter. Anyway, property cannot be the basis for change of name.
