i feel the article is biased towards wives and against mother in law. All female stays nice with their parents but doesnt let their husbands to follow the same. Women are responsible for every conflicts in almost every home. Women in india doesnt need any more empowerment but married men does need.
Re: All females are same.
by Amit on Jul 22, 2017 11:56 AM
Exactly, But when the wife becomes mother in law of her son, She gets to know how selfish she was. She learns later part of her life. I have the same problem, My wife not wanting my mom to stay with me, I had to take new house for my 70 years old mother.She is weak, thin and had to cook for me.
Thanks Divya for writing such a nice and so much needed article.. After reading your whole article which balances both the need of respect and freedom for in-laws as well as daughter-in-law, I want to say hats-off to you.. I have been blessed to be very few of those luckiest wives on this earth whose husband understand the real meaning of marriage which is to be the intimate union and equal partnership of a man and a woman, equal in responsibilities as well as privileges. I guard his respect when it comes to my parents and he guards my respect when it comes to his parents because parents are more likely to believe their sons/daughters than son- or daughter- in laws when there comes any crisis in relationships. Most of the Indian men do not do this, they want to leave in peace by branding their wives as \"unaccommodating\", \"unsocial\" and much more I specially like your below lines: < \"It\'s her choice, and if she chooses not to, she may have her reasons too[ I like the reasons part because there is no smoke without fire ]; that doesn\'t make her bad or less \'pious\' as the court pointed. Or someone who can be judged and dissected for, at free will. In a successful marriage, there has to be a way for the two of you to collectively contribute to the family.\" > Most of the indian families even moderns ones lack this collective contribution part. Thanks again...
Will be a Feminist Women Oriented Judgement that will say - "A Hindu Woman after Marriage can opt out of Looking her in laws and can apply for their Compassionate Humanitarian Euthanization, and it will not be called as a crime, since the in laws would have enjoyed everything and they need not survive any further".
As people feel that we are Wasting Natural resources to feed them and endangering Future generations who will be far more Crue1 and Unethica1 in every aspect of their lives.
Is the Selfish Value-Less Future Generation of any use ??
In the modern world, life expectancies keep going up and bedridden parents can stay alive and consuming resources for years. Resources which are best used for the present generation.
Soon people will recognise these burdens are act accordingly. I predict there will be a rush to marry from orphanages, where there will be no expensive parents during married life.
And having saved that expense, does it make sense to invite more bedridden, expensive, resource consuming incompetents into the home ? Any that make it past effective birth control, may be given to the orphanages, where the cycle can continue, till infinity.
This way, all sources of marital discord can be eliminated.
( Being tongue-in-cheek here. No intention to offend anyone.)
Re: My Modest Proposal
by Sanjay nair on Dec 22, 2016 04:09 PM
Are you really dumb or just acting to be?? I pray for your parents and so wish that your kids be like you.
Re: My Modest Proposal
by RSS on Oct 24, 2016 08:29 AM
One Fine Day - You will also go to The Hospital and if your Kids (If you have any) think on these lines then what will you do ??
And Natural Resources were created by Nature for All Living beings - Not only Humans, how can you Regulate everyone of them ?
Re: Re: My Modest Proposal
by RSS on Oct 24, 2016 08:32 AM
I don't believe in Euthanization & Survival of the Fittest theories - Life has not been created for another person or Living being to keep on Judging, Questioning and Interrogating his or her capability continuously.
I wrote a comment and they deleted although there was nothing incriminating in that. In another one, when I wrote the same in reply to someone else's comment, they retained it. Very strange!!
Madam first find reasons for getting married.. Is it to have regular sex partner or to have child..... And to tell you... After having,. Children... Don\'t force your thoughts on them... Whether girl child or boy... Give them primary education upto 18... Because after 18 they can employed anywhere as per government rules... And let them complete their studies themselves...and let let them marry by their own choice... self finance... This is the best solution I can suggest
