All they are doing is for money. Taking care of baby why men cannot do... Kids are often attracted more to their mom and that emotional bonding is something that man can ever make... Thats what separates a man from women.... Men is an equal parent, but still men cannot do that a woman can do...
Modern women is ambitious and career orientated; And this article is written by the same woman; She is trying to justify her idea stating fictitious multiple reasons.
Ask a home maker, who is modern as well as equally qualified. What she feels about daycare and why she chooses to rear her kids as compare what could be her bright career.
Women and men are different, physically, mentally and emotionally. Until a woman understands this, she will continue to fight for equality. There is no equality among men/women; Women may excel men or may not. The point, woman needs to understand is that she is different and can take any role.
This daycare article is mere justification of author for herself, that her decision is right. Well, may be for her; But she can not generalize it for all women.
Day care has very big influence on your children.
Earlier we used to say that mother is your first teacher because kids used to spend so much time with her; now with daycare and ambitious mother, the kids come at home at evening/night, already tired, hardly spend any time with mother. End result, less attachment of children with mother; forget the term 'mother' itself because she wants to get in the shoes of father.. so there is parents only; exactly same; earning, shopping, independence, all criterion of provider; the rearing part is out of scope now. So, you can see in future what affects it results in child's behavior.
As one said, we may be all independent in the end, in old homes.
Re: Modern women
by siva kumar on May 05, 2016 04:23 PM
Well said... Hope the author reads this... Agree with every single point.... There are not some, many things that a women can do and men cant... The emotional bonding between the kid and women is something man or any day care can bring.... As you said all will end up being independent in old homes...
THIS IS A GOOD IDEA TO EARN MONEY WITH OUT ANY HEAD ACHE.IT SEEMS THIS ARTICLE IS PREPARED BY A LADY WHO HAS OPENED A PLAY SCHOOL RECENTLY TO PROVOCATE & MOTIVATE ALL LADIES TO PUT KIDS IN TO PLAY SCHOOLS. MANY HOUSE WIFES WHO HAS NO JOBS IN METROS HAVE OPENED PLAY GROUPS & PUT SOME AAYAS (normally from slums) & EARN GOOD MONEY AS THESE SMALL KIDS DONT COMPLAIN.
Re: NICE ARTICLE
by Sushil Chander on May 05, 2016 10:48 AM
Nothing of the sort. One can always push the daycare and control them. It is similar to a school. Like you have a choices for schools, so you have choices of daycare quality.
Women empowerment. There is nothing wrong with this though provoking view. Everyone is entitled to this cruel world through their prism. It is man's world. Gone are the days that women are treated as commodity and just like that.
Just ask yourself honestly can the Day Care give the same attention and feed your daughter with the same love and affection as you do. If your answer is yes, then you are doing a good job. When you get old and fall sick, your kids would immediately send you to Old Age Home so that they don't get infected and for many other reasons that you have mentioned.
Re: Old Age Home is waiting for you
by Santosh Kumar on May 05, 2016 10:00 AM
This is a great perspective and I totally agree!! In India, we are at the stage where the US was in 60s and 70s - in the sense, women wanted to take up careers aggressively. In the past 15 years, women in the West have realized that bringing up children well is more important and many are consciously giving up careers or taking up less demanding ones. I guess once India;s family life gets screwed enough in the next 20-30 years, then the bhooth of women's liberation will climb down, and women will realize their correct priorities.
Look at it in another way -in a game of cricket, do we want both batsmen go all out at the same time? No! One would go all out while the other will play a slower, longer innings.
Women have been on an eternal trip to be equal to men.....not understanding it is better men and women play different roles to make their families stronger. Women's Liberation and Stupidity!
Re: Re: Old Age Home is waiting for you
by dipti jain on May 05, 2016 10:35 AM
Yes, you may be right... in saying about dufferent roles... to complement each other by participating in different roles... but mind it that these specific kind of roles bound them to perform the same every time...I think ..men are in fear, WOman libration to which they are thinking stupidity, may bound a man also in such kind of limitations...
Re: Old Age Home is waiting for you
by Sushil Chander on May 05, 2016 10:52 AM
At home, managing a kid has limits. It is not only love and affection.
The kid needs to be engaged, and a "good" daycare, which is monitored for quality by parents, (like parents monitor school issues) can be fruitful. Such daycares do not show TV like at home, as the only way to keep them engaged. They have other kids to play with, not an aaya, or grandparent, or a at-home career-interrupted mom.
Let us change our views by giving women a chance, and not run them down if they put kids to daycare.
Re: Old Age Home is waiting for you
by manish gupta on May 05, 2016 11:15 AM
I completely agree with you,taking care of your child has become on old fashion job and women empowerment has now became a tool to fulfill their wishes where they want to be independent. Our children now have least respect for the moral duties, values & principals and the main reason behind it is parents are running before money and to fulfill their desires. There is no one in the family who cam give them sanskars which children learns from small things when we gives our time to them. Moreover grand parents are likes to devote time with the children but now working people take it as a extra burden and interference in their lives and so try to avoid them. But one thing we should keep in our mind that whatever we are giving to our children and society is going to come back in the same form or other to us. So keep earning money and fame and enjoy your independence and also keep yourself ready to face it in near future.
Re: Re: Old Age Home is waiting for you
by J Rajan on May 05, 2016 12:57 PM
I don't understand the mindset of most of the people who have commented on this forum. On the topic of sanskars, lets talk about our grandmother's or mother's generation. They were at home dutifully catering to the whims and fancies of all the members at home which includes their in-laws, husband, children etc. and according to most of
you here, teaching good sanskars to their children. What has been observed is that these stay at home women who have sacrificed their career or their wishes have not managed to raise a sanskari genertion who are well
behaved, morally sound, confident, knowledgeable and mindful citizens. Instead we find an India full of selfish, short-sighted, narrow-minded, lazy people especially men. What is the point of talking about sanskar and tradition all the time when atrocities like rape, domestic violence etc. are committed every minute by the sanskari men
of India who were raised by their dutiful, self-sacrificing mothers. What is the point of talking about non-existant values and morals of the Indian society where kids are learning by example from their fathers, mothers and grandparents
that it is ok to take bribe, it is ok to reach office late, it is ok to pass the buck, it is ok to not get involved in anything unless you or your family member is
affected, it is ok to turn a blind eye to any attrocities committed in broad daylight to keep ourselves safe, and the list goes on... Here I've not seen people coming out together and working
Re: Re: Re: Old Age Home is waiting for you
by J Rajan on May 05, 2016 01:18 PM
Here I've not seen people coming out together and working for a just social cause or to solve a problem faced by the society.
In most of the homes I have observed that an undue amount of attention has been paid for the welfare and happiness of the male child and the girls have been treated as second class members of their family. Be it food or education there is no equality. Even in better off homes there is a subtle slant towards the male child. Is this the Indian sanskar? If so then it is time to change these ageold sanskars and traditions for the betterment of our society. These are the girls who become future mothers. These are the girls whose self confidence have taken a beating right from their childhood. These are the girls who were made aware that they are somehow inferior to the men in the society. These are the girls for whom the society decides what they should do and what they shouldn't. These are the girls who may have to drop out of school or college so that they can reduce the family's financial burden or to take care of ailing family members. These are the girls who are told that even if they manage to score good marks it is of no use as finally all they have to do is take care of your family. According to Indians education is not necessary to take care of one's family. You can only imagine how these women will be bringing up their children.
Re: Re: Re: Old Age Home is waiting for you
by J Rajan on May 05, 2016 12:59 PM
Here I've not seen people coming out together and working for a just social cause or to solve a problem faced by the society.
In most of the homes I have observed that an undue amount of attention has been paid for the welfare and happiness of the male child and the girls have been treated as
second class members of their family. Be it food or education there is no equality. Even in better off homes there is a subtle slant towards the male child. Is this
the Indian sanskar? If so then it is time to change these ageold sanskars and traditions for the betterment of our society. These are the girls who become future
mothers. These are the girls whose self confidence have taken a beating right from their childhood. These are the girls who were made aware that they are somehow
inferior to the men in the society. These are the girls for whom the society decides what they should do and what they shouldn't. These are the girls who may have to
drop out of school or college so that they can reduce the family's financial burden or to take care of ailing family members. These are the girls who are told that
even if they manage to score good marks it is of no use as finally all they have to do is take care of your family. According to Indians education is not necessary to
take care of one's family. You can only imagine how these wome will be bringing up their children.
Re: Re: Re: Re: Old Age Home is waiting for you
by J Rajan on May 05, 2016 01:00 PM
The biggest mistake committed by Indians is to treat their women as second class citizens. Actually, to take care of your family you should have the best of education.
You should be aware of various nutritional facts so that children can get the best possible nutrition. You should be able to answer the child's curious questions
properly and not give some vague answers. It is a job which require many skills, but unfortunately our women are not up to it because of the way they have been treated
here for centuries. The mother and father should be able to guide their children properly. Children are the biggest responsibility of parents and it is their duty to
teach them the right things like caring, sharing, educating them, making them responsible for their actions, making them confident so that they can take on any
difficult situation they come across with grace. Working mothers will be a good example for their children so that they can learn how to manage your family, your
career and finances. From a young age, they will learn to prioritise their tasks and not waste their time right. Most of all they will learn that men and women are
equals in a relationship and will learn to respect others and their decisions. They will be better citizens of India and will treat other women with respect. The men
are equally responsible as parents as they have to show by their actions how to respect women.
Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Old Age Home is waiting for you
by J Rajan on May 05, 2016 01:01 PM
It is the responsibility of both the parents to teach a child what is
right and what is wrong, what is acceptable and what is not. It is sad that men and women don't want to come up with a workable solution for this simple problem of how
to manage your career and children. Hopefully if every family respects their women's career choices maybe some day India will become a better place to live in...
Re: Re: Old Age Home is waiting for you
by J Rajan on May 05, 2016 12:57 PM
I don't understand the mindset of most of the people who have commented on this forum. On the topic of sanskars, lets talk about our grandmother's or mother's generation. They were at home dutifully catering to the whims and fancies of all the members at home which includes their in-laws, husband, children etc. and according to most of
you here, teaching good sanskars to their children. What has been observed is that these stay at home women who have sacrificed their career or their wishes have not managed to raise a sanskari genertion who are well
behaved, morally sound, confident, knowledgeable and mindful citizens. Instead we find an India full of selfish, short-sighted, narrow-minded, lazy people especially men. What is the point of talking about sanskar and tradition all the time when atrocities like rape, domestic violence etc. are committed every minute by the sanskari men
of India who were raised by their dutiful, self-sacrificing mothers. What is the point of talking about non-existant values and morals of the Indian society where kids are learning by example from their fathers, mothers and grandparents
that it is ok to take bribe, it is ok to reach office late, it is ok to pass the buck, it is ok to not get involved in anything unless you or your family member is
affected, it is ok to turn a blind eye to any attrocities committed in broad daylight to keep ourselves safe, and the list goes on... Here I've not seen people coming out together and working
Re: Re: Re: Old Age Home is waiting for you
by Perfect stranger on May 05, 2016 01:16 PM
J Ranjan, do you even understand what is the discussion all about. First calm down, then think and then say few words. Word vomiting doesn't help to understand your point.
Re: Re: Re: Re: Old Age Home is waiting for you
by J Rajan on May 05, 2016 02:06 PM
In short what I'm trying to say is that even though the older generation of Indian women stayed at home and have spent all their lives trying to bring up their children with all the love and care they needed, most of them were unsuccessful in raising good human beings. May be the new lot of working mothers will be able to do better...
Re: Re: Re: Old Age Home is waiting for you
by manish gupta on May 05, 2016 01:35 PM
Seems you are also sailing in the same boat. Every where I have mentioned parents, so I am not targeting only women in that. Moreover, if Indian are only like that especially men then I think you have lost the last hope also for bringing some change in the mindset of Indian society. And if we continue to surrender our responsibilities on others the adversities you have mentioned that are present in our society, will remain there for ever and will transfer it to our next generation. Crimes are increasing because every body wants to be independent. Children now don't want to study in the same town where their parents lives. Children don't want to keep their parents for the same reasons and so on. This is the time for us to do some introspection.
Re: Selfish mother
by dipti jain on May 05, 2016 10:27 AM
The same question may be arised for a father... Its nature, who blessed a woman to gave birth to a baby however our socicity imposed all the homely responsibilities to her ..these were not natural... yet a father is also born with a kid... why only mother has to leave a job and have to be finencially dependent to a man even if she has similar capability to work like a man... Why man is not said selfish...
Re: Selfish mother
by dipti jain on May 05, 2016 10:27 AM
The same question may be arised for a father... Its nature, who blessed a woman to gave birth to a baby however our socicity imposed all the homely responsibilities to her ..these were not natural... yet a father is also born with a kid... why only mother has to leave a job and have to be finencially dependent to a man even if she has similar capability to work like a man... Why man is not said selfish...
Re: Selfish mother
by dipti jain on May 05, 2016 10:27 AM
The same question may be arised for a father... Its nature, who blessed a woman to gave birth to a baby however our socicity imposed all the homely responsibilities to her ..these were not natural... yet a father is also born with a kid... why only mother has to leave a job and have to be finencially dependent to a man even if she has similar capability to work like a man... Why man is not said selfish...
Re: Selfish mother
by Sushil Chander on May 05, 2016 10:45 AM
She is taking care of her kid, not shoving it to her parents, and in laws, is financially independent, her husband supports her in rearing up the child, so what's your reason to call her selfish? It is time for Indian men to get out of there narrow mindset.
