I wasted m time reading this.. and wasting more by writing a comment. we do things that our parents ask not out of emotional blackmail.. its out of love and respect for them.. you have to stand for your choices what you want to study, where you want to make you career, whom do you want to marry.. etc.. ofcourse not by breaking our parents hearts (yelling and acid barbs or whatever).. but by convincing them that its right for you.. And dont forget, if they had choosen not to give birth to you.. they would be more happy then to have a daughter like you..
Anyhow it is your funeral and conduct any way you like. But you'll repend at some stage. Life is check and balance. You'll attain a life, where everything will be there but none to attend. What is the difference between an animal and civilized human being ?
i am also independent and take all my life's decision myself. but any suggestions by parents, siblings, wife, children are not emotional blackmailing for me. i do respect my well wishers
good article.we should stand up for our choices n live our own life as we wish as long as it doesn't harm oneself or others.but i don't agree with the yelling part n exchanging barbs.yelling n exchanging barbs means the author was still being controlled by her parents' reaction.
for everyone their parents are their best friends and well wishers...they always keep the interest of their child above all else...to suggest tht they are blackmailers is so shortsighted...am apalled tht rediff chose to publish this rubbish viewpoint...dont stoop so low rediff...pls recognise rubbish!!!!!
Re: parents are best friends...
by Monikut Sharma on Jan 19, 2013 10:10 AM
Tariq, I couldn't agree with you more. It is this extreme abhorrence towards our value systems that is the root of many a evil in the society. One can have freedom, but with responsibility. One can have diasgreements, but without being disagreeable. It is all right to take the good things from the west - their work ethic, discipline, freedom which enables innovation and creativity, but not at the cost of our own values; we should not blindly copy them.
