The only secret to a happy marriage is learning to say 'Yes' to whatever you are asked to do by your wife!
Not because you don't have a spine but because this absolves you from all responsibilities and blame when the decision taken by the wife turns out to be a bad one!
Remember husbands, when you say 'Yes' to everything, you also get to say 'It's not my fault' later!
be genuinely in love and constantly express the same,dont bother about her job or business,retain the spark in your marriage,sense of humor,look and think smart,provide emotional and financial support,become second nature,do things together such as eating out,shopping,watching tv,reading,listening to music,be faithful,fall deeper and deeper in love with each passing day,dont grumble or fight,develop healthy and interesting hobbies and diversions,constant communication,love,faith,respect and adoration.
Passion is for each other is very important. You respect likes & dislikes of your partner and expect same from them too. Similarly, accept them as they are. Tell them, if there is opinion difference. But never force partner to do what you like. Secret rediscovered!!!!!! Marriage is a very very special relation, which a person has to follow. It's not a dictatorship or never feel like slave/maid for each other. You have a very small life and have to be happy to ensure that your partner is also happy. Parents, brothers and sisters are good given gifts. But, your life partner is a gift that you have chosen for yourself.
to have a happy married life. though i hate to say this, but its the truth in today's changing world. i have seen so many ppl doing that, being a servant/subordinate to their wives and living happily (or so they pretend). shameful but true...
Re: being a joru ka ghulam is the ultimate secret
by a k on Feb 05, 2013 12:28 PM
well yogesh, since many many centuries women were made servant/subordinate to their husbands, was that correct. The truth what you are not seeing is, when there is true love, one do not mind completely surrendering to other (which is wrongly represented as servant by you). Without love, 2 individuals cannot co-exist in one house. Think over it & comment. Surrendering one's self to other is not matter of shame, u r thinking that way because its beyond your ability.
Re: Re: being a joru ka ghulam is the ultimate secret
by Yogeshwar Singh on Feb 05, 2013 12:40 PM
i never said that what was followed earlier was right. i just brought attention to wats happening today. about my abilities, i knw where i stand and wat i am. m a firm believer of equality, but that doesnt mean i shud be pro-women. it should be equal.
Re: Re: being a joru ka ghulam is the ultimate secret
by sidhartha p on Feb 05, 2013 12:55 PM
Our society is such that it puts that label on everyone who doesn't take his partner for granted.
Sorry, I cannot say it here as it is a secret... once it is told it wont be a secret any more :) More over this secret is not universally applicable, I mean its not like a thaerom or theory which can be applied by everyone to live a happy married life. In my opinion everyone has to once has to find the secret / answer which suits their life / marriage. However the clue for finding the secret is - Spirituality. One who becomes spiritual & follow the path of budho. Once anyone who really understands, realizes, follows the true spirituality & true budo, they will not only find the secret for happy married life, but also find secret for Truth & happiness of life.
Re: Re: Secret for happy married life is...
by sidhartha p on Feb 05, 2013 11:54 AM
I am married and this statement is way too cliched. There is a thing called happy married life and I am into it. Honestly it has been more than two years and still I wait to go back home in the evening. All you need is a person who can try to share ur interests and u also have to try to do the same. Marriage seems to me like a lot of fun, you have a companion forever.
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by sidhartha p on Feb 05, 2013 12:01 PM
There is a reason that everyone wants to couple up. If this was so bad and being single would have been so great, everyone would have done it.
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by a k on Feb 05, 2013 12:24 PM
U r correct sidhartha, human beings just like other animals needs companions to live. They cannot live single. There is a great saying that "No man is a island, some where or other there will be a connection to some main land". Man needs a woman to live (and its vice-verse). But when they live together its obvious that they will be attracted towards each other, resulting in copulating & child birth. In society, our elders brought concept of marriage to keep track of lineage. Every human will have a quality & this will be passed to their offsprings thru DNA. So marriage & child birth in same community will preserve the original traits. If there is no order maintained then everyone will start copulating with every other & the linage cannot be traced hence leading for the original traits getting lost. If anyone wants I can give much deeper example. So, initially marriage concept was coined for this purpose. But later people started having lot & lots of expectations from marriage e.g, money, status symbol, dowry, domination etc, which is actual reasons for marriages to fail. Especially in male dominating society, there is lot of pressure & restrictions on women. In society its accepted if a man is having extra mariatial affair, or if he has 2nd wife or if he visits prostitute. But same society will not accept if women has extra marital affair, or has more than 1 husband or visit gigolos. Same with dowry, sharing of house hold work, responsibiliti
Love as many girls as possible (no physical contats possibly), understand women deeply( trial basis before marriage), then go for marriage become perfect man to accept probs and hurdles, be responsible , try make her happy rest will fall automatically..
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by sidhartha p on Feb 05, 2013 12:40 PM
yeah I know. because all the people I see single IN india are not the ones who are single by choice, they are single because they are loosers or too desperate or too greedy (they are waiting for parents to arrange their marriage to earn dowry). So yeah dude single people are not someone I truely admire.
