The oppression of men is an extremely complex phenomenon to understand. It has always been hidden, disguised, indirect, Innumerous, severe, carefully conspired and going on for thousands of years. Above all, it’s carefully and forcibly unacknowledged.
Today, it would be seen as ’startling’ and ‘unbelievable’ at the best and outright ‘ridiculous’ and ’scandalous’ at the worst to talk about man’s oppression. It’s not easy to see even the misery and pain of men, even when it is extreme.
It is so well hidden not only from the world but from the man himself. It’s just not acknowledged. No place for it in the society. No value for a man’s tears. Tears are ‘feminine’. The mechanisms of man’s oppression are just as invisible as his tears.
Once you are sensitized and you learn to look beyond what is ‘obvious’ and you slowly start witnessing it all. The first things that point to the size and nature of these invisible mechanisms are the extraordinary and intense pressures that the society (or rather a section of it) exerts to sustain or strengthen the mechanisms.
The masculinity with which boys are born, is natural masculinity. This is given by nature. However, society has created a mechanism whereby it does not acknowledge this natural masculinity. It has instead created its own version, which we shall call ’social masculinity’.
Re: Men are oppressed too
by Tall Male on May 07, 2012 02:01 PM
ly endowed, but has to be granted by society. Society does not accept a person as a ‘man’ unless he fulfills certain preconditions of roles or expectations of society, referred to as ‘male gender and sexual roles’, or ’social masculinity roles.
A person is not considered a man without social manhood. This social mechanism is designed to control male behavior, especially male sexual behavior. The result is silent severe oppression of men.
Some of the “Social Masculinity” Roles are:
1. Men don’t have any emotions. They should suppress their emotions and problems.
2. They are rough and tough and should NOT complain about women.
3. Men are expected to be physically tall, strong, and brave.
4. They are supposed to protect and provide women.
5. They are supposed to make sacrifices, even sacrificing their lives, to protect and provide women.
6. They are not supposed to have weaknesses or vulnerabilities. They must not show feelings as these would make them appear weak or vulnerable.
7. They should always be willing to fight their way and defend their families. They should not return from a fight.
8. They should not have any feelings.
The result is that men are far more prone to heart attacks and stroke. Their life expectancy is some 5-6 years less than women, worldwide. Similarly, the social construct of manhood makes them NOT to complain about women, even if their women are causing them grievous hurt!
Re: Re: Men are oppressed too
by Tall Male on May 07, 2012 02:01 PM
Women’s education is subsidized and a lot of support systems exist for them to open shop. While men are paying 82% of taxes in India and are denied any kind of support systems. Yet, it is men who are supposed to provide for women. Every year, 3 times more men commit suicide than women and yet there are no support systems or even laws to protect men.
All this is happening in a society that claims to have dumped the earlier traditional roles and concepts of gender and has women working in all fields and having more constitutional rights than men!
It is high time that men are liberated from their traditional roles and their masculinity is redefined based in natural masculinity and NOT with the kind of contradictions stated above. Men have always been considered as disposable and have been taken for granted.
It is high time men understand that are NOT privileged and have been suppressed too!
Re: Re: Re: Men are oppressed too
by hazzarre on May 10, 2012 03:33 PM
hey u r right...but things r not gonna change that fast. ITs gonna take decades bro. and we still have to be a 'MAN' that our society wants and what our PARENTS want...if we start showing emotions then we will be considered as___gay child of a parent.
So act like a Terminator and terminate everything what is unmanly...period.
Guys shud take massage from women only.I have been taking massages from ladies for more than 10 years.they have touch my every part of my body, but I have not feel sexually harassed anytime.they have done full body massage from head to toe for me and at the last, they have given me full bath also.I have always feel it very nice, so I do it at least once in 2 weeks.I have never felt any type of sexual harassment anytime.
Re: Re: guys shud take massage from women only
by Mahesh V on May 13, 2012 12:41 AM
Pl give me the address. I too want a massage from a woman badly. Do they give a happy ending also ?
Re: Re: Re: guys shud take massage from women only
by Sudipto Bhattacharyya on Sep 17, 2012 12:58 AM
That is the whole point that was discussed in the article. People start believing that, even when sexually harassed, the man has enjoyed it. But the thing is, people who "would have enjoyed it" have actually not been harassed, but only fantasized the situation. Therefore, let us hope that it does not come to anyone, as he will perhaps never be able to share his experiences with the most INSENSITIVE brand of men around him. When a community wants to be like animals, they are deserving to be treated as animals. There is absolutely no need to blame women for that.
Re: RE
by Sudipto Bhattacharyya on Sep 17, 2012 01:06 AM
I guess you are right. However blunt it is, be it to a man or an woman, you must make yourself clear when you are not comfortable with the situation. Because it the advance is allowed, this can definitely take you to a point when your own body will fail you and will respond positively to the abuse. Is it not better to be careful beforehand?
