Happiness is a state of mind.It has nothing to do with external events?The couple can be unhappy even in a perfect marriage?So it is better to see the good in the spouse rather see only the bad?Even a perfect person can be part bad?
Because,irrespective the faith one belongs to, marriage continues to be a sacred bondage to be upheld life long when once a wed lock is entered with an implicit understanding that both would share the joys & griefs of the other with perfect harmony throughout.The aberrations that take place are common in any family & both tend to forget & forgive the other partner with an open heart.And for the children\'s sake & their future since the ruptures amongst the couple would leave a telling effect on the growing children with tender hearts.And after certain age the couple live for the sake of children fully realising that marriage,after all is a compromise & each respecting other\'s sentiments,likes & dislikes.And once again,in India,at least Hindu Community believes in monogamy & in fact,wife is considered as the better half.There is no security for a woman discarded by a man although loud talks are made about women freedom & liberalisation of the divorce laws/ process.Living aloof from the spouse is a tested theory which ultimately suggests that living together with rapprochement is a better way.Little conflicts amongst the couple are only to eventually cement their bondage & are the cost free outlets of ones temporary anger/grouse. Instances of continuous unbearable conflicts & cohabitation are not many.There is no average family which is free from conflicts.They are part of the married life. & at times are also enjoyed by the coup
Because,irrespective the faith one belongs to, marriage continues to be a sacred bondage to be upheld life long when once a wed lock is entered with an implicit understanding that both would share the joys & griefs of the other with perfect harmony throughout.The aberrations that take place are common in any family & both tend to forget & forgive the other partner with an open heart.And for the children's sake & their future since the ruptures amongst the couple would leave a telling effect on the growing children with tender hearts.And after certain age the couple live for the sake of children fully realising that marriage,after all is a compromise & each respecting other's sentiments,likes & dislikes.And once again,in India,at least Hindu Community believes in monogamy & in fact,wife is considered as the better half.There is no security for a woman discarded by a man although loud talks are made about women freedom & liberalisation of the divorce laws/ process.Living aloof from the spouse is a tested theory which ultimately suggests that living together with rapprochement is a better way.Little conflicts amongst the couple are only to eventually cement their bondage & are the cost free outlets of ones temporary anger/grouse. Instances of continuous unbearable conflicts & cohabitation are not many.There is no average family which is free from conflicts.They are part of the married life. & at times are also enjoyed by the couple
Because,irrespective the faith one belongs to, marriage continues to be a sacred bondage to be upheld life long when once a wed lock is entered with an implicit understanding that both would share the joys & griefs of the other with perfect harmony throughout.The aberrations that take place are common in any family & both tend to forget & forgive the other partner with an open heart.And for the children's sake & their future since the ruptures amongst the couple would leave a telling effect on the growing children with tender hearts.And after certain age the couple live for the sake of children fully realising that marriage,after all is a compromise & each respecting other's sentiments,likes & dislikes.And once again,in India,at least Hindu Community believes in monogamy & in fact,wife is considered as the better half.There is no security for a woman discarded by a man although loud talks are made about women freedom & liberalisation of the divorce laws/ process.Living aloof from the spouse is a tested theory which ultimately suggests that living together with rapprochement is a better way.Little conflicts amongst the couple are only to eventually cement their bondage & are the cost free outlets of ones temporary anger/grouse. Instances of continuous unbearable conflicts & cohabitation are not many.There is no average family which is free from conflicts.They are part of the married life. & at times are also enjoyed by the couple
The author just tried very hard to look at the non-existent bright side of the darkness that encompasses such couples. It is sad that people choose to be miserable rather than to live the ONE life that God grants us.
The author just tried very hard to look at the non-existent bright side of the darkness that encompasses such couples. It is sad that people choose to be miserable rather than to live the ONE life that God grants us.
Re: Why Couples Stick together despite conflicts?
by rajiv kumar on Oct 01, 2011 05:11 PM
Read something Mr patil Dont behave like uneducated fool... In fact as per Hindu System the civil code of Manu prescribes marriage as a sanskar bestowed on all... So unless one has taken irrevocable sanyan or literally determined to follow Brahmcharya for rest of the life.. He should must marriage as sacrament of the Hindu Religion... These half cooked 3rd grade institue MBA's are actually fool.. They dont understand anything.. other than meaningless blabber.. If whatever they say is allowed in the society.. then all women will become prostitutes and chilren will die in mass.. because no body will take their responsibility.. and hence human civilisation will be finished in 100- 200 yrs
Re: Re: Why Couples Stick together despite conflicts?
by p on Oct 02, 2011 06:09 AM
Manu smriti - is a code written by Manu according to what he thought was right. I forget what century that is from. It was the law for the then existing kingdom in India. Should not call it a the hindu system. There are thousands of book in hinduism. It is the only religion that allows free thinking and exploring (via meditation) of what is right. Marriage and reproduction are important for maintainance of culture and religion. It is also an institution that prevents us from behaving like other species of animals. Hence all religions attach a lot of importance to marriage.
To have life long relationship one must be prepared to face conflicts, love, passion, caring it is two way affair...you won't like only sweet/ sour/ salty dishes every day..minor variations in relationship like conflicts then judgement gives different tastes which makes marriage work better
Re: Why couples stick together despite conflicts
by madan menon on Oct 01, 2011 04:34 PM
also the fact a known devil is better than an unknown one (who could be worse)...no sensible person will take chances..
Re: MARRIAGE IS NOT A BUSINESS.
by rajiv kumar on Oct 01, 2011 05:09 PM
Right Rajesh... In fact as per Hindu System the civil code of Manu prescribes marriage as a sanskar bestowed on all... So unless one has taken irrevocable sanyan or literally determined to follow Brahmcharya for rest of the life.. He should must marriage as sacrament of the Hindu Religion... These half cooked 3rd grade institue MBA's are actually fool.. They dont understand anything.. other than meaningless blabber.. If whatever they say is allowed in the society.. then all women will become prostitutes and chilren will die in mass.. because no body will thake their responsibility.. and hence human civilisation will be finished in 100- 200 yrs
Re: TRUST.
by Sathyanathan V T Dr on Oct 03, 2011 10:54 AM
Every individual who believes in “your happiness can be ensured only by you, will keep relationship at all time & make himself happy from what he has around”.
