if its a true friend or relative.. then he will still keep relations with u even if u refuse to lend money sincerely.. its only the materialistic ones that will ditch u..and thats ok..they are not worth it
Lending money to friends, I did not have bad experience. But Lending money to relatives, I had bitter experience. Do you know, what is their perception towards the repayment ? Why, we should return , when he is rich and affordable !! I lost many relationship by asking my money back..!!!
It is not only friends it is within relations also. I had experienced both. I lend the money to my friend, he did return the money after 8 yrs but in relation when I refuse to give money to my real sister they promptly asks for share in the property in which my mother was staying. Today neither they got any money/share nor they have our relationship.
Sachin has lent money to his friend vinod kambli and they are still. My friend has lent me money to start business which failed and we are still friends. I have lent money more than four tmes my salary and we are still friends. If a friend is need of money then one should help him by lend money without effecting his regular expenses
Re: lending money doesnt destroy friendship
by Arvind Singh on Nov 02, 2011 01:03 AM
you shd lend definetely but donot ask it back, if you ask it back- there goes the f'ship
Re: What Works
by One Liner on Nov 01, 2011 03:53 PM
But the fact is that it is that 1% who had taken your 99% of your money. Rest who return are petty borrowers
Re: Lending money
by kiran kumar on Nov 01, 2011 03:59 PM
How many times did you drop a one rupee coin and refused (or even felt reluctant) to bend down and pick it up. Does this mean you cannot afford forgetting this Rupee or never ever donated a rupee.
There is a difference between lending and donating, givers should try to forget it, takers should judiciously, strictly and consciously keep reminding the fact to the giver, this gives a sense of reassurance to the giver. One needs to remember, when it comes to lending between friends and relatives, it is the taker who needs to keep bringing up this topic because giver will be hesitant to initiate the talk about it in fear of spoiling the relationship
I knew a friend through a common friend, who happened to call me once in 3 or 4 months or visit me occasionally when he was passing by my house. I knew him for 4 years. Once he asked me 20,000 rupees and said he will return it once he get his next pay check. Till now it's been 7 years, he did not call me nor he did not show up.
I did not call him too and ask for money; he lost my friendship for mere Rs. 20,000. Now I don't even know where tjis idiot lives.
Re: I learnt a lesson, I separate money and friendship.
by Street Knight on Nov 01, 2011 12:10 PM
One of my best friend had taken Rs. 30000 from me 7 years back. He repaid Rs. 5000 after many calls and emails from my end. Whenever I ask for the balance money he replies that has one of his family members has been hospitalised. It has been more than 5 years now. His wife is working abroad, he has purchased a car, house but still he does not want to pay my money back.
Re: Re: I learnt a lesson, I separate money and friendship.
by Shyam Sundar on Nov 03, 2011 02:02 AM
@StreetKnight - You should write one email pouring your heart out! i guess he would atleast realize what he has done. But, whether he will return the money...thats still a question!
time has changed now money is above all for many ppls, i had a friend who i trusted more than anybody but he betrayed me financialy now im very alert if it is about money, we all need to help eachother otherwise the world wont move ahead but dont trust anybody somuch that u loose trust fom friendship even for a day good luck to all friends
Arif is right to say but true only about such persons who borrow money only to buy their luxery beyond their earnings. I also had one such deceit who have betrayed me for about 1.5 lakh.
Re: Friendship vs money
by Raj Thakre on Nov 01, 2011 10:46 AM
I had a friend who had helped me a lot and I always wanted to repay whatever he had done for me. Once he asked me one lakh Rs and promised to return me in 3 months. I thought this is the good way I can thank him for all good things he did to me. He promised to return money in 3 months and even after 3 years he did not opened a topic about that money. After 3 years I needed money so I asked back from him and continuosly put pressure on him. In 5-6 instalments he returned my money. But relationship is not there now though openly we did not say anything to each other.
Re: Re: Friendship vs money
by Another Critic on Nov 01, 2011 10:52 AM
Stay away from such kind of people and don't also accept any kind of favors from him in the future. They will be like that only and will have a bad reputation in the society whereever they go in general. And these kind of people don't really care about their bad reputation.
