I was lucky to be away from DRDO after had started life with the organization. Partilularly they come at 10.30 have separate room for the ladies which has magazines for extending their cultular heritages, flirt for some time (genuine only ladies) and have cofee / tea at 11.00 and by 11.30 back to the government provided quarters to get into ladies clubs. They do fabolous research on many subjects including sarees, dress materials, eatables, walkables, runnables, neighbourhood, fashinable and everything human related
Re: too much anti-women commentary
by Devdutt Nayak on Mar 18, 2011 10:11 PM
If you really think women have it easy because you only see city girls sulking around with iPhones and Nokia E-series, please have the common sense to understand that city girls form at the most 5 per cent of India's female population.
The rest of them - 95 per cent female humans in India, have it tough. Including your mom, if she is working and cooking at home.
I bet most of the men here dont help their mothers, wives or sisters to cook or clean the house.
Then you have no right to complain.
If you can eat food you must also make food.
If you want to see how tough life is for women, see a few childbirth videos on youtube.
The pain that women go through, the near-humiliating expose of all their body parts, it is just too much for a normal arrogant male to take it.
But every mother takes that in her stride because she wants a baby - you.
If you like your mom and sister, fight for women's rights.
The few bad women will always be there.
Dont delude yourself that all women are as bad as the worst 1 per cent.
Nobody else is fooled by that argument.
All grown up people with families understand the trouble women take.
Its only young males with nothing better to do that blame *all* women for the crimes of a few criminals.
Re: Re: too much anti-women commentary
by surya on Mar 23, 2011 11:14 AM
Dude a very good statistic. I agree with you most of the people are taking the wrong fleet. wether it may be a business or wether it maybe a research a person have to come across a lot of issuse some tough decesions should be made and so on. When a women is put in such cases either it would blow up the situation or would ace it. But when she make the best move, thats also a fact that she would drag here self fromt her family. we all know that a mother can only understand the child needs and when she lacks of time to make her kid comfortable that means the child is finished from roots. do you understand what that means more women employment means more and more destruction to our next generation. We are not at all against women empowerment we are just worried about or next generation
If a lady refuses to have sex with her husband what is the recourse? If more than two years has been passed for husband what is the recourse? What is the recourse in law?
Re: What about sex in marriage?
by Tall Male on Mar 18, 2011 08:23 PM
How Men Get Screwed by Emotionally Abusive Women:- Sex is a very important part of a healthy and loving relationship. If you’re involved with an emotionally abusive narcissistic and/or borderline woman, the sex has probably become bad for your self-esteem and general well-being, just like everything else in your relationship.
Women with these issues basically have three behaviors toward sex: hyper-sexuality, “hot and cold” or frigidity. Sometimes, the same woman can alternate between all three behaviors.
[Note: Sex drives may vary greatly from person to person and aren't necessarily an irresolvable issue in an otherwise loving and compatible relationship. This post focuses on the unhealthy attitudes and behaviors these women have toward sex.]
First, let’s explore the essential elements for love and a fulfilling sex life.
Vulnerability, trust, intimacy, empathy, and respect (or the lack thereof).
There are 5 prerequisites for love and great sex:
Vulnerability. This means taking a risk, exposing your true self, your needs and desires. It’s risky because you could be rejected or ridiculed. It’s impossible for an NPD and/or BPD woman to make herself vulnerable because she’s invested most of her life in crafting an elaborate and rigid false self to hide her highly damaged true self.
Trust. You trust your partner to accept you and to not deliberately hurt you. This woman trus
Re: Re: What about sex in marriage?
by Tall Male on Mar 18, 2011 08:24 PM
ts no one. She believes everyone is out for themselves and trying to “get one over” on her. This is an example of projection. She’s out for herself and tries to constantly get one over on you.
Intimacy. This is about sharing and getting close physically, psychologically and emotionally.
Empathy. This requires being in tune with the other person and being able to experience how they feel and what they want and need.
Respect. This woman treats her husband or boyfriend like an object; not an equal partner whose feelings and needs are just as important as her own. Bottom line: She doesn’t respect you.
An emotionally abusive NPD/BPD woman is incapable of empathy. She’s incapable of seeing any viewpoint other than her own and only cares about her needs and feelings. She’d rather stick bamboo splinters under her fingernails than feel vulnerable and she cannot, cannot tolerate emotional and psychological intimacy. She can tolerate some physical intimacy, as long as it doesn’t lead to the other forms of intimacy. Basically, in order to avoid emotional and psychological intimacy, she either engages in hyper-sexuality or avoids sex altogether. But why?
True intimacy means sharing your good qualities as well as your faults and insecurities with your partner, which this woman will never do. Not only does this woman not let down her guard, she ’s constantly attacking you or
Re: Re: Re: What about sex in marriage?
by Tall Male on Mar 18, 2011 08:25 PM
pushing your buttons in order to keep her vulnerabilities from being exposed. Consequently, you feel unsafe and on your guard, even though a love partner is the one person with whom you should feel safe enough to let down your guard. This doesn’t bode well for a mutually satisfying relationship or sex life.
So why is she even in a relationship if she doesn’t trust, respect or love you?
1. You’re her normalcy prop. Being married or in a committed relationship gives her the appearance of normalcy to the outside world. You play an integral role in maintaining her false self. “See. Someone wants me. There’s nothing wrong with me. Normal people get married. Therefore, I’m normal because I’m married.”
2. She can’t exist without attention. Good attention, bad attention; it doesn’t matter. For her purposes, you could be anybody. She likes the idea of having a boyfriend or husband in the abstract, but the reality of being in a relationship is filled with frustration and disappointment for her because you’re not “perfect” or “good enough” for her highly inflated false sense of self. She soon grows to resent you and then the covert and overt abuse, rage attacks and/or sullen withdrawal begin.
As a result of not living up to her lofty and unrealistic expectations, which no one
Re: Re: Re: Re: What about sex in marriage?
by Tall Male on Mar 18, 2011 08:26 PM
is capable of doing, she doesn’t really like you very much. She plays the role of martyr to the hilt, professing her love for you in one breath and cutting you down and shutting you out with the next. You can’t have a satisfying emotional and physical connection with someone who doesn’t like you and sees you as a “disappointment.” This is another example of projection. In reality, she’s the disappointment and failure as a life partner.
It all comes down to control and bolstering her ego.
Sex isn’t about expressing love, lust, intimacy, passion, affection or mutual pleasure. Instead, many of these women use sex to lure you into the relationship. Once she feels confident that she’s hooked you, sex becomes one of the ways she controls you—either by “sexing you up” or by withholding it. There are two primary ways of doing this.
1. The insatiable sexual virtuoso. The sex starts off with a “bang.” The sheer intensity of it is mind blowing, but DECEIVING. The intensity is actually a symptom of the severity of her pathology. What seems like intense passion to you, is really her intense need to control and dominate you into submission. I repeat, it’s about controlling you, not pleasing you.
Re: What about sex in marriage?
by varghese on Mar 21, 2011 09:26 AM
ask urself this ..do you deserve to have sex with ur own wife..in most cases NO..
If an wife refuses to have it..this simply means she doesnt TRUST you at all..
this could be because of Aids,syphilis,torture,lack of mutual hope,belief,ur past behaviour,the real you...etc etc..frankly u alone are the reason behind this refusal..stop acting saint ur the real culprit but seeking support from others..its an shame we have such saints..remember only ur wife knows ur true colours...none else..so sure she has an solid reason and ur very well aware of it..stop faking around already u messed up the womens life ..if i had a way i would have hanged you..ur an shame as u cannot even get the trust of ur own wife..
Re: What about sex in marriage?
by ashish anand on Mar 18, 2011 08:18 PM
You can file a case for divorce on the grounds of mental cruelty. The better & less costly option is to find somebody else.
Re: Re: What about sex in marriage?
by Tall Male on Mar 18, 2011 08:03 PM
Can't do that. The laws are completely anti-male under the garb of gender equality. In a marriage, only women have rights; men have only duties.
Re: What about sex in marriage?
by Muhammed on Mar 23, 2011 05:45 PM
Grab her by hair, screw her .. as simple as that! Or do you suffer from erectile dysfunction?
Re: Re: What about sex in marriage?
by Tall Male on Mar 18, 2011 08:21 PM
Understand the Indian laws. India is a feminist country and laws are anti-male.
Re: What about sex in marriage?
by sukhmeet singh on Mar 21, 2011 11:55 AM
what recourse?? Indian laws are completely dominated by women and men are mere spectators! Btw what hav u been doing those 2 yrs...
Re: Re: What about sex in marriage?
by Muhammed on Mar 23, 2011 05:44 PM
Grab her by hair, screw her .. as simple as that! Or do you suffer from erectile dysfunction?
Re: @Tall Male
by Chalta Hai on Mar 18, 2011 06:42 PM
Girls child --------- A BIG LIABLITY ?
Abortion is no doubt condemnable. But can anybody deny the cost of raising a girl? Its much higher than a boy. Now today's girls are careerists. So along with the cost of marriage there is also the added cost of the higer education and career building of the girl. Even if the girl is working she will still expect and ask her father to pay for the bills of her marriage. Also keeping a girl in an unknown city like Delhi or Mumbia for her higher education is costlier than a boy. Boys can take a lot of hardship. They can get into the general class of a train. But for a girl she will always prefer sleeper class if not AC or flight. Now after spending so much of money she will go to another family. Now the guys generally stay with their families. Today's men are getting closer to their parents and look after them after witnessing the idiosyncracies of so called modern women.Now women and feminists may not like my words. But this is practical and in case of the education or marriage nobody will come forward to help? So why to point towards others?Even a month ago a lady judge was reported in the media to list her daughters as liabilities. Only a fool can deny the huge cost associated with girl children.
Written by Virag It's not only the laws as described in Gender Arsenal, that work against men in this so called male dominated world; but also a deeply embedded and badly hardwired attitude problem that compounds to the anti-men attitude prevailing in the Government circles, police, judiciary, society and media. The attitude problem as mentioned above also forms the basis of the design of the Gender Arsenal.
However, as life is complex, and so are situations in life. It merely does not end at having laws against men. These laws are used as extortion weapon against men to turn situations around or avenge a wrong done. And that happens because cases are admitted under these laws merely on the basis of complaints received, without any scrutiny and then these cases are used as a the basis to terrorize men and extort them or make them do whatever the complainant wishes. This is nothing but Legal Terrorism. Legal Terrorism happens against men due to one primary reason. Abundance of males in the relevant government circles aka police, lawyers and judiciary jointly called as male bastions. Some reasons why these male bastions work against males are:- 1. Sex starvation: Due to unavailability of females, the males in the male bastion are highly sex starved, compounded with the fact that odd working hours keep them away from their families. Thus, when they see a female, adrenaline rush invokes the PROTECTOR syndrome in these knights in shining armors and they go all out and overboard in screwing the accused male in the name of Women Protection.
3. Intellectual Blindness: There is a saying - "God gave men enough blood to run through either the brain or the penis." Due to the prevailing sex starvation, the males inside the male bastions stop applying their brains and screw the male royally and legally. Also since they view the women as victims and because they are far drawn away from the experiential domain, they can neither sense the man's pain nor can they catch the woman lying. The male bastions if not broken, no amount of rationalization of laws will actually improve the condition of males in general. Due to the fact that the salaries of the males in the males bastions is way less than the money available in corruption and the ease with which corruption can be done, criminal minded women and sex starved males in male bastions would continue to rape men royally and legally. The only way to break these male bastions is to actually break them by recruiting more and more females. Recruitment of females will help in two ways, 1. Reduced Sex Starvation: Due to availability of females, the sex starvation of males will reduce, eliminating the competition among males for females, acting much to the respite of men. 2. Liar Women will be caught: Women, since they are close to their experiential domain, can sense a man's pain easily and also catch a lying woman. Bash the male bastion.
Written by Virag Sunday, 13 September 2009 23:21 Male Dominated Society! It's a man's world! These are the phrases one often hears. They are often used to boost the ego of males that it is your world and you rule the world. But is that the reality or it is only a perception? The same phrases are also used to deny any protection to men, recognize their rights and castrate men emotionally.
