These hold good for the people who respect & understand each other. What to do with a spouse & her parents who take advantage of the situation?. A friend of mine is unhappy as he is stuck in a relation similar to old Hindi movie "korakaagaz". He is loving, caring & goes extra length to appease wife. Whereas she is a habitual page 3 party goer with no care for the family, children & values as free money pumped from parents. Visit any upscale lounge, one find such people, aping the western binge. What should he do to improve the situation? Separation may be the only solution to end misery but how about children?
At a time you should be caring as well as you should provide them their space, let them tell their opinions and also leave them to take decisions, coz it will not always be your decision that is right. She should always feel that she is always wanted by her guy, and he is not complete without her.
PS.If you are a man and has no good qualities,then keep buying gifts for you spouse regularly.Gift can be ear ring,lip-sticks,shoes or bag or even a flower.
If you are a woman,cook foods that your spouse love atleast 2-3 times a week.It can be dosa,pao-bhaji or chana masala or any other thing.
Nothing can make you happy only you can be happy or sad it is your own thinking that you are happy or sad if you expect some thing from others and you don't get you are sad and the thing you get unexpected you are happy. The main cause of sadness is that our expectation from others is very high if you leave your expectations you will be happiest person in the world but this is very very impossible.
you can live in fantasy. but sooner face the reality better it is. two human can not fulfill needs of others. Weserns are ahead of us. they have realised it. thats why they dont care much about relationship. they focus on doing good job, serving humans with their work. they also do lot of yogic and buddhist practices that give them inner peace love. in india so much violance and abuse in married life, children. so much poverty and backwardness. still you have no shame. talk with great pride. look at our marriage, its so great. Really ? then why the violance and greed in family is highest in the world.
Re: Western Education has got anything but substance
by Hari N on Jun 28, 2011 11:59 AM
What the hell has the above write-up got to do with Western education? If you are able to participate in a discussion forum from the comfort of your home, it's because of the inventions and discoveries made by people who have received a Western education!