Nature has somehow gifted mothers to be better parents. This cannot change. Yet, I believe Dad is Too Cool. Each one. They live and parent (used as a verb here) within their limitations, and do a fantastic job of it. Everyone has a unique story about their Dad, each as poignant as the other. For me, these reflect God's desire to be there for each of us. Lokesh’s thoughts, so aptly put, mirror mine, and I wish to say this to all dads. Dad you are too cool.
your story was the best among these. Cannot fathom how ur dad would have managed 7 ppl in Rs.500. I remember my dad's salary was 3000 in those days and our family of six was probably saving Rs. 500 per month on average!
I hate my father my father wasted all his retirement fund on his bad habits and did not save anything for my sister marriage and now he had developed Parkinson along with stroke he is toileting all around the house and he has tortured my mother all through his life because of his bad name no one is ready to marry my sister in spite of being a good girl he has ruined all our wife I want him to die as early as possible can anyone suggest me some medicine which will give peaceful death and get us rid of him
Re: No subject just for stress buster
by Kiran on Jun 17, 2011 09:33 PM
same exp. never cared about his children. Even he doesn't care about the wellbeing of his children (don't even know whether he thinks we are his children). mother and childen had to collectively face a lot of abuse - verbal and physical (The verbal part part is still there, inspite of him turing 72, and he has the gall to even ask his grown up daughter to elope with someone on the street). just like ur father even our mad dog (=father) tortured us and is stilltorturing us. Even my iss did not get married she is 40 now and he repeatedly abuses her saying she should elops with someone. After seeing all the torture that my mother underwent(kicking, beating physical incapacitation) I cry and and someday i want to end my life. this world seems hopeless for people like me. We are victims of bloody traditions, culture and the social set up in this third world hell hole. Had this been the developed world we didn't have to put up with his antics
Re: No subject just for stress buster
by Kiran on Jun 17, 2011 09:40 PM
And on top of that we dont get suport from anyone. All around us say we have to be patient and treat him like our own. We have a very strange socitey and some bloody family value system. We suggested to our mother she should divorce this idiot . she never did it for fear of brining ridicule from the society and relatives. Now she is no more but we are alive and still facin this torture. He is still vebally abusing us. saying suck that fellow suck this fellow etc. he is not some illiterate he got a bloody university degree too.
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by Kiran on Jun 17, 2011 09:45 PM
my poor sis was a bubbly girl with a lot of expectations like any other girl about marriage etc. She gota bachelors degree and she wanted to study further. each time she applied for some exam or college this bxxtard used to tear off the applications. HE used to kick her even if she was having a casual chat or saying a hello to any neighbouring boy much younger to her in the age. But the diito did not have any inihibitions when he wated to talk to females. I feel that we die soon or the world come to an end sooner.
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by vaidyanathan shastri on Jun 18, 2011 11:23 AM
sorry for your state but you hcan be friedn me and just share your griefs my no is 09099045305 name gopal
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by Kiran on Jun 18, 2011 06:53 PM
just narrated wat we go through since it ringed so loud n clear when someone else also feels that the so called father figure has ruined the lives of all family members. we are not really looking for a shoulder to cry. all i just wanted to point out is how fxcked up our society is with all outdated and dubious value systems. i see lot of ppl go to western countries and claim the glory of our third rate culture and family values.
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by Kiran on Jun 18, 2011 08:59 PM
thats not the only reason for the long wnding narrative. The most irritating thing is the bloody society around keeps sarcastically questioning ppl like me as to why we have remained single and unmarried etc. They ask this knowing very well about the situation. And they should know that they are also part of the problem for maintaining or letting a stupid social set up to exist. If it were a permissive western society we would have happily eloped with someone by now which is what the old b0z0 still wishes.
Re: No subject just for stress buster
by Venugopalan on Jun 16, 2011 12:59 PM
really sorry about your father, but remember you are not alone, there are many fathers like yours and the only way to treat them is with patience..it is rather unfortunate but tragedy like yours happen. It is not a rare thing..in time he will die. wait till then
Every son upto the age of 15-17, thinks his father is a heno no match to anyone, after 17 he thinks him a fool, at 35-40 he considers that his father was somehow right and at 50, when his father is no more, he feels, his father was only right man. This is world cycle.
Re: Papa and his son
by VENURAJA Bowenpalle on Jun 16, 2011 12:52 PM
Arun gopal You are 100% correct.
However highly succesful sons or daughters think that their father was out dated or a bit old fashioned. And the opposite side; the sons and daughters of great legends,celebrities,business tycoons feel terribly bad because they live in the shadow of their father irrespective of whether they were more brilliant or far better than their fathers. It is totally another aspect of fate or running time to become a legend or celebrity. But to live in the shadow of their fathers is the biggest difficulty they face. For example Ford's son in USA and Rahul bajaj in India were more successful and in fact brilliant when compared to their fathers but their fathers shadow persists.
