The family is the most important thing .Everything else comes only second.She is not a good role model at all.She left her own family.About her story of travelling alone after leaving behind her home,every other woman would have fallen into vices and maybe even get raped by the bad elements of society.I do not understand how Rediff managed to publish her story.It will not be a long time before she leaves even her husband and walks out.
Re: Not a Role Model
by akpin on Apr 14, 2011 07:35 AM
your point well noted. Many from middle class have dreams and can not succeed because of family pressures. For rich it is easy as they get support for parents. For middle class it is very difficult to get that kind of encouragement. Parents from middle class want their kids to get into some decent job and get married and settle down. All the success stories have some risks involved from Ambani to Madonna. Take some positive things from her story. If she can be successful that way let us admire her guts. That does not mean every one has to follow her. There are better things to criticize. Not every one gets raped who left home like that. Instead you should question the law and order if that happens. But that is totally a different topic altogether. And what is wrong in leaving hubands. How many husbands are leaving or cheating their wives. Let us look at a big picture. SUCCESS! We men are very jelous of successful women.
Re: Not a Role Model
by Jayanth on Apr 14, 2011 11:57 AM
Family is important. That's probably why she got married and had a baby. But, when her parents restricted her dreams and tried to constrain her, she walked out. That required guts and strong self belief. Even women have right to dream. Hers is a story to be admired no doubt. Your last sentence on her walking out on her husband is quite narrow minded and immature.
Re: Re: Not a Role Model
by B Satyawani on Apr 14, 2011 04:15 PM
Thumbs up to akpin and jayanth..!! GOOD to see tat tere are atleast few men who are fair in there thinking wen it comes to freedom of choice for women..
Re: Story is ridden with holes
by akpin on Apr 14, 2011 07:50 AM
How do you know. You can't believe a women can not be successful. If it is half baked then tell me the full baked story. We men never can take digest the fact that a women can be successful. If it is lady gaga or Kalpana Chawla. Please let us once admire a successful story. We always want to see some conspiracy theories behind every story. WHY????
Re: Bad & shameless girl!!
by Anuj on Apr 14, 2011 03:04 AM
Excuse me? You're saying a woman restrained by the chains of society liberating herself and acting by her own wishes instead of under the unrelenting authority of the "wise" man is foolish? Indian society condemns freedom in womanhood, for some ridiculously primitive reason, and it's conservatives like you who want to receive riches in dowries and ignore the reality that woman CAN accomplish things and be successful. You want to put women down (I am a male, by the way). Woman should not be forced to be constrained by society. Go out, follow your passion, and do not let anyone get in your way. Be free, India.
Re: Bad & shameless girl!!
by akpin on Apr 14, 2011 07:42 AM
How can you say that she will leave her husband. For a minute let us all agree with you. There are 101 reasons a women or men leaving their spouses. Why are we always go to specifics. This is a success story. Ophrah was also involved in tenage pregnency. Did she not make it top. I am not saying we need to leave house. What if she is one in million who is very sharp and want to make it to top with all odds. She may be taking care of our parents now the way that they never would have dreampt in their life time. Let us not go to personal her life. It would be her own problem like yours and mine. let us grow guys.
Re: Bad & shameless girl!!
by Jayanth on Apr 14, 2011 12:00 PM
You know reading what you have written, you appear to be the guy one should pray not to be like. Dude, she didn't quit her Dreams! Can't you see that. And about quitting her job, her boss tried to rape her. Now, that ain't reason enuf for you, huh?
This grls says she is from a conservative family that did not let her go out after 7:00 PM. How come 1) She met her future husband at a youth festival and continued to be in touch with him. 2) She has been an athlete all her school life and used to workout.
Is it really fair on her part to project her family as a talibani type family. Then
Re: Huge holes in the Story
by Preeti Mishra on Apr 14, 2011 02:49 AM
Completed comp sc at 19 yrs. Travelled without ticket and taught without having the qualification. So many unethical things in her life. Not a life to be looked at as a role model.
Re: nice
by Aman singal on Apr 13, 2011 10:49 PM
Not Nice at all..nowhere she has mentioned that she ever contacted her family..Being a young guy, everyone has lot of dreams...but it doesn't mean that you run away from your family & your roots. Try to convience your family to persue ur dreams...i know..nobody care about anyone in metros..but still you can get helping hands in small town. By writing such articles..we are encourging young generation to take any path to get successful...the last i can say that we are heading towards european culture where people luvs their pets instead of paying respect to their seniors (especially parents)..Even in this article..She has told that She is blessed with a daughter...now can she even dare to imagine that one day her daughter will run away from her to fulfill her dreams...I bet..she can't.
Re: nice
by Aman singal on Apr 13, 2011 10:46 PM
Not Nice at all..Being a young guy, everyone has lot of dreams...but it doesn't mean that you run away from your family & your roots. Try to convience your family to persue ur dreams...i know..nobody care about anyone in metros..but still you can get helping hands in small town. By writing such articles..we are encourging young generation to take any path to get successful...the last i can say that we are heading towards european culture where people luvs their pets instead of paying respect to their seniors (especially parents)..Even in this article..She has told that She is blessed with a daughter...now can she even dare to imagine that one day her daughter will run away from her to fulfill her dreams...I bet..she can't.
Re: Re: nice
by Anamika on Apr 14, 2011 01:28 AM
I will definitely not recommend running away, but our society has to really change, a girl like a boy should be given an opportunity to pursue her dreams, marriage seems to be the only goal in mind for parents when it comes to girls. They do not even care if she is happy or not after that, most parents suffer because of the miseries daughters go through, yet they do not want to make their daughters financially independent before getting them married.
This lady made it somehow, but I am sure she has not talked about a lot more things she went through, her struggle would not have been easy, she probably was even thrown out by her family too when she went back..we never know
Re: Re: nice
by Anamika on Apr 14, 2011 01:31 AM
It is possible, making it all alone without a guy in India is not something that is imaginable....being a girl myself I know how hard it is to be even out after it gets dark....
